ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 The old fashioned. I had an ex that loved hand jobs. He preferred them to oral, actually. I thought it was weird too. And the more I thought about it I think he may have had sexual issues stemming from his teenage years or something. He was generally weird about a lot of things sexual. I wasn't allowed to touch his balls or his nipples, put my hands in his hair (and he had some awesome hair for the pulling) and he always wanted me to be in control and would just lay there all stiff and motionless. lol. When I wasn't cowgirling it, he would always want me to "guide him in" as well. Very strange. Hindsight is 20/20 though. We've all banged weirdos, am I right?
ShannonMI Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I had an ex that loved hand jobs. He preferred them to oral, actually. I thought it was weird too. And the more I thought about it I think he may have had sexual issues stemming from his teenage years or something. He was generally weird about a lot of things sexual. I wasn't allowed to touch his balls or his nipples, put my hands in his hair (and he had some awesome hair for the pulling) and he always wanted me to be in control and would just lay there all stiff and motionless. lol. When I wasn't cowgirling it, he would always want me to "guide him in" as well. Very strange. Hindsight is 20/20 though. We've all banged weirdos, am I right? Weird!!!!!!!!! And damn funny:lmao:
kaylan Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Im so glad I wasnt born with the stereotypical huge black penis. Im above average in girth and length but not porn star big. So Ive been able to fill gals up without killing them I guess lol. From everything Ive read online and from chicks Ive talked to, you dont want to be too big or too small as a guy. It just makes sex a chore if you dont fall into good range. I have had a couple issues in the past though. One girl had shallow depth so I had to be careful about going too deep. Which was a tad lame since I love going all in. Plus its awesome being able to be as close as possible to someone, where we can just rest our weight on each other without having to hold ourselves up because of a size issue. The other chick was a petite gal...so we needed to go slow and really warm her up before hand. With her, she was tight and shallow, so I will admit it made sex a bit of work. Again we had to worry about hitting the back wall, which doesnt feel nice for a guy either. Im sure some guys here know that the bend your unit does when a boundary opposes it does not feel good at all. Plus I hate feeling like Im hurt ping someone. I can control how deep I go with a shallow girl...but when a girl is too tight on top of that, then theres not much that can be done about that. All I can tell you OP is to use patience and understanding when having sex. Im sure youll find a girl out there whos bigger down there and can take all of you without a problem. Foreplay is your best friend. Always make sure shes warmed up, and the sex will go much smoother
Dust Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Having a big dick you bragger is nothing to complain about. First off you can stretch a girl out by regularly having sex with her. Women will argue this isn't true but it is. Maybe they go back to normal if they stop having sex for a while who knows. But a big dick will stretch them out if you are having regular sex. Also use lube if they don't seem wet enough. Try to have sick sexual pleausure from the pain your dick causes. Way better then a girl not even being able to feel if its in.
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I had an ex that loved hand jobs. He preferred them to oral, actually. I thought it was weird too. And the more I thought about it I think he may have had sexual issues stemming from his teenage years or something. He was generally weird about a lot of things sexual. I wasn't allowed to touch his balls or his nipples, put my hands in his hair (and he had some awesome hair for the pulling) and he always wanted me to be in control and would just lay there all stiff and motionless. lol. When I wasn't cowgirling it, he would always want me to "guide him in" as well. Very strange. Hindsight is 20/20 though. We've all banged weirdos, am I right? We have so much in common! I dated a similar guy, he wouldn't even touch himself to put him into me. I had to do it or he'd fumble around trying to get it to slide in...he was 32 at the time. So a grown man. He was always nervous about sex too. No matter how much we did unless he was drunk, he didn't seem to be able to last very long. He'd never touch himself in front of me and if I touched myself he'd get all freaked out. He also laid there like a bump on a log. We had serious sexual issues and I always tried to talk about it, but he refused to talk about anything sexual. When he picked jerked off in the shower over having sex with me I knew things were over.
kaylan Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 This is like the male version of a " boob" thread. Okay, I have small boobs and I'm not going to be every guy's cup of tea. You have a big dick and some women like it big and hard and others would prefer average or smaller. Don't let your ex and all these other girls dictate your self-esteem. If you got it, you can flaunt it. Or perfect the way you handle it. Nah I dont agree that boobs equate to penis size. Boobs dont directly affect sexual satisfaction the way penis size does. An equivalent would be a female depth and tightness in regards to her vag. If I could put the perfect vag on a girl, itd be a little snug, and almost as deep as my downtown buddy. That way I get good tightness and are able to go all in too during sex. And she gets that full feeling. Everyones happy. Plus, with it being a tad shorter than my length sometimes if we go really hard, we can maybe hit the back wall just a little. Ive found as long as the girl isnt too shallow, that little bit of resistance feels good for us both. If shes too shallow, it hurts like hell if one slips and goes too deep. But yeah, boob size id equate more to a guys chest and shoulders. Nice for either gender to look at and grab onto, but doesnt change the feeling of sex
kaylan Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Having a big dick you bragger is nothing to complain about. First off you can stretch a girl out by regularly having sex with her. Women will argue this isn't true but it is. Maybe they go back to normal if they stop having sex for a while who knows. But a big dick will stretch them out if you are having regular sex. Also use lube if they don't seem wet enough. Try to have sick sexual pleausure from the pain your dick causes. Way better then a girl not even being able to feel if its in. Um...not true... Im guessing youve missed the threads on this website and many others, from women who complain about their bf being too big. Yes vaginas can expand, but only to a point. Some dude really are just too big for most women. Sometimes people even break up because they dont fit together down there.
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 We have so much in common! I dated a similar guy, he wouldn't even touch himself to put him into me. I had to do it or he'd fumble around trying to get it to slide in...he was 32 at the time. So a grown man. He was always nervous about sex too. No matter how much we did unless he was drunk, he didn't seem to be able to last very long. He'd never touch himself in front of me and if I touched myself he'd get all freaked out. He also laid there like a bump on a log. We had serious sexual issues and I always tried to talk about it, but he refused to talk about anything sexual. When he picked jerked off in the shower over having sex with me I knew things were over. Seriously. People are weird!!! He would tell me to put it in, I would get weirded out and say no and he wouldn't do it. I would HAVE to do it or stop having sex. Worst thing ever! And that guy was 28. So a grown man as well. Opposite from your problem though, this guy would talk about sex ALLLLL the time. Like 95% of our conversations he tried to take to sex. And not just like normal "Hey, I'm thinking about having sex with you right now." type stuff. It was like totally inappropriate things to say to a girl you've only been dating a couple of months. Like telling me about his nasty strip club experiences and his high school fantasies and his favorite porn. Just ick!! Stuff that shouldn't be said until your in a serious relationship and aren't gonna judge each other, ya know? That's why I think the boy had some serious issues.
Titania22 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I have a reverse question for the poster. As someone who would like a well endowed man and generally finds his smaller counterparts, the couple of times I have found a good sized man, he loses interest after the first time. I am wondering what I am doing wrong. Is it a turn off if the girls seems really delighted and happy when she see what you have down there? Should I be acting more that it is nothing special, and i am not impressed?
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Seriously. People are weird!!! He would tell me to put it in, I would get weirded out and say no and he wouldn't do it. I would HAVE to do it or stop having sex. Worst thing ever! And that guy was 28. So a grown man as well. Exact same thing.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I suggest being somewhat on the passive side when it comes to intercourse if you've had this concern with being "big". By that I mean let her lead a bit after you get to entry so that she shows what she can take and want. If you, say, mounter her ala missionary and slip all the way in and start flailing, you might get that reaction you're hoping not to. A big johnson makes for more entertaining porn but in reality it's not an automatic winning attribute. It's always the give and take of sharing sex that makes it good or not so. You need a partner though who is also assertive and does not just lay there waiting for you to do it all.
kaylan Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I have a reverse question for the poster. As someone who would like a well endowed man and generally finds his smaller counterparts, the couple of times I have found a good sized man, he loses interest after the first time. I am wondering what I am doing wrong. Is it a turn off if the girls seems really delighted and happy when she see what you have down there? Should I be acting more that it is nothing special, and i am not impressed?Maybe they thought you were too small lol. Guys do love to go balls deep =P But lemme be serious, the penis fit prolly has nothing to do with those dudes not seeing you again.
mtber75 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I had an ex that loved hand jobs. He preferred them to oral, actually. I thought it was weird too. And the more I thought about it I think he may have had sexual issues stemming from his teenage years or something. He was generally weird about a lot of things sexual. I wasn't allowed to touch his balls or his nipples, put my hands in his hair (and he had some awesome hair for the pulling) and he always wanted me to be in control and would just lay there all stiff and motionless. lol. When I wasn't cowgirling it, he would always want me to "guide him in" as well. Very strange. Hindsight is 20/20 though. We've all banged weirdos, am I right? Well he prefers hand jobs because he likes masturbating. Its a total turn on to have a girl do it for you.
RecordProducer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 One of the reasons she left was because she told me that she could never really fully enjoy having sex with me because it hurt. My first BF wasn't big but it hurt me because he was playing rough. I think you should be gentle and avoid the doggy style or any roughness. I think you can also buy something to put around it (at the root) to prevent it from going in all the way. You can look at online sex shops.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I have a reverse question for the poster. As someone who would like a well endowed man and generally finds his smaller counterparts, the couple of times I have found a good sized man, he loses interest after the first time. I am wondering what I am doing wrong. Is it a turn off if the girls seems really delighted and happy when she see what you have down there? Should I be acting more that it is nothing special, and i am not impressed? It's actually an ego-stroker when women are delighted about my size. It's possible those two dudes who bailed on you never intended for anything more than sex, and your response wouldn't have made any difference.
kaylan Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Vaginal size varies tremendously. I prefer small and tight, mmmm. I was once pleasuring a tall girl, and just could not enjoy it because she was way too deep and way too loose. A turnoff for me. Or, at least, less of a turn-on. Ive dealt with a girl who was loose-ish as well. Actually, the first time we slept together, while were doing it she says "sorry if Im too tight". In my mind im thinking "you? tight? Ha, you wish" But I just went on to tell her "oh hun thats not a bad thing at all". I was laughing on the inside that she even said what she did to me. Reality was that she was a looser than what Im used to and I hard trouble coming. Midway through I felt I was loosing some of my boner. But that may have also been because I was on the rebound and my mind was all over the place. But Ive had too tight as well. And that can make thrusting difficult. So I guess it works the same as penis size. Too much and too little tightness or depth can be a bad thing.
Author RonChalant Posted February 8, 2012 Author Posted February 8, 2012 Disappear for 2 days and my thread blows up lol. So I'm hearing a lot about not being to rough, foreplay and lube...ok sounds good except for the first one. I am a pretty sexual person and evenwhen I'm trying to be a bit gentler I end up still being a little rough. It's boring to me otherwise. I guess as far as that goes I need to practice some self restraint/control. I don't know it just still kinda erks me to be eaten by a guy with a 4 inch meat...my ego is hurt more than anything. I just feel like I'm going to always e asking "are you ok" whenever I have sex from this point which sounds like a giant mood killer. I know you say judge how she responds but I did the same with my ex as well as asking and she always said everything was good. I think a lot of it comes from porn though lol. I used to always try to "do it like a porn star" thinking that's what women liked, apparently it isn't. So long story short I just need to perfect my stroke is what I'm getting from all this. Hmmm
Star Gazer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 You can be super passionate and even rough during sex without ramming her with your penis.
ShannonMI Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Disappear for 2 days and my thread blows up lol. So I'm hearing a lot about not being to rough, foreplay and lube...ok sounds good except for the first one. I am a pretty sexual person and evenwhen I'm trying to be a bit gentler I end up still being a little rough. It's boring to me otherwise. I guess as far as that goes I need to practice some self restraint/control. I don't know it just still kinda erks me to be eaten by a guy with a 4 inch meat...my ego is hurt more than anything. I just feel like I'm going to always e asking "are you ok" whenever I have sex from this point which sounds like a giant mood killer. I know you say judge how she responds but I did the same with my ex as well as asking and she always said everything was good. I think a lot of it comes from porn though lol. I used to always try to "do it like a porn star" thinking that's what women liked, apparently it isn't. So long story short I just need to perfect my stroke is what I'm getting from all this. Hmmm Well rough isn't good with your mammoth penis, so you better get used to going slow and gentle or you will keep having issues with girls. Suck it up. Your girl really left you because of your penis? I find that hard to believe. Especially if she said everything was good with your sex life when you were together. I don't know too many chicks that would dump a 8 inch dude to be with one half his size. 4 inches is so tiny. There must have been other things going on in the relationship that made her bail.
Author RonChalant Posted February 8, 2012 Author Posted February 8, 2012 Well yea obviously there was other stuff going on too, this was just one of the reasons according to her. Like I said throughout the rela she did always say "it's been years and you still hurt me" but never made it sound like an issue. The last thing she said about was "when I was younger I used to just take it...blah blah". That and "yeah most females would go for the larger but...", I kinda stopped listening after that. She used to always make comments about my size but I thought it was in a admiring way, but in retrospect I remember once when we were having sex and I had her bent over the island in the kitchen she told me she blacked out for a second...lol now it may have been the fact that her stomach was being pressed in by the ledge that caused that...but honestly if **** like that is happening to her because of me then maybe she is better off with sir small penis smh. Yeah I thought 4in was a bit crazy too...but in her words "if you like someone size won't matter"...lol in my overanalyzing mind that means she didn't like me anymore then =P
FitChick Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 The short and stout Keeps slipping out And produces all the babies. While the long and thin, It goes right in, And satisfies the ladies. (wish I could take credit for this little ditty but I can't)
Star Gazer Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 The short and stout Keeps slipping out And produces all the babies. While the long and thin, It goes right in, And satisfies the ladies. (wish I could take credit for this little ditty but I can't) Long and thin? Ewwwww. NO THANKS.
Andy_K Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I end up still being a little rough. It's boring to me otherwise. When you're being rough, go more with the biting/scratching/hair pulling/spanking/manhandling her and less with the pounding like a pneumatic drill.
kaylan Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 You can be super passionate and even rough during sex without ramming her with your penis. Well sometimes you get the urge to bang hard. I couldnt imagine having the same kind of sex all the time =P
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