RonChalant Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 (edited) So I was always under the understanding that when it came to size in this dept, bigger was better. Personally I don't think mine is all that big, but I guess that's because aside from porn I've never really seen another dudes piece lol. I'm just about 8 all together. So whats the point you may ask, well my ex recently left me for a guy with a 4 inch piece. One of the reasons she left was because she told me that she could never really fully enjoy having sex with me because it hurt. We were together 7 years and she did bring that up from time to time but did so in a joking way so I didn't think it was a big deal, but it retrospect it did always sound like I may have been a little much for her =\ Anyway now I'm really self conscious about it. I've had 4 women in the past 6 months tell me that I'm apparently huge and that "I didn't know what I was getting myself into" but they always laugh it off...but it just makes me feel like a freak sometimes now and I find myself trying to hold back. I was with a 26 year old a few nights ago (I'm 24) thinking she would be up to par (lol) and she said..."I wasn't expecting all that" and I'm like wtf to myself. Now I'm talking to a girl who is a bit on the slim side and we're gonna end up to the point where we are in the bed together within the next 2 weeks. I'm scared I'm going to hurt the girl...I honestly have become self conscious about something that from what I always thought was supposed to be a good thing =/ Am I over reacting because of what happened with my ex or is this a legitimate issue? Edited February 7, 2012 by RonChalant More details
Andy_K Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 It's a fairly legit issue. I'm sure you'll be told there's ways to work around it, but at the end of the day that's just too big for some girls. You just need to find a girl who's a bit of a size queen. She'll be all the more grateful for it as guys who are that big downstairs are pretty rare.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Am I over reacting because of what happened with my ex or is this a legitimate issue? There are some size queens out there, but I don't think they are all that common. Just go slow and use tons of lube. You need to give her body time to adjust to your size. Also, don't go too deep unless she is giving signs that she likes it. Otherwise she will feel like your punching her cervix.
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Lots of foreplay. Make sure she is completely lubricated and ready. Be in tune to her cues. If it seems like she is in pain, slow down. If you're big and not making her as comfortable as possible she will tense up and it will make everything worse. 8 inches is pretty big but it's not so huge that most girls would run away. Just take it slow and make it the best possible experience for her. That will make it the best for both of you in the end.
FitChick Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I never liked big ones. Maybe women who are stretched out from having had kids need them bigger?
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I never liked big ones. Maybe women who are stretched out from having had kids need them bigger? LOL!!! I have a friend who is a size queen and I always make fun of her for that. She'll reject anyone under 8. I always tell her it's because she has a huge gaping cavern of a vagina.
ThaWholigan Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 LOL!!! I have a friend who is a size queen and I always make fun of her for that. She'll reject anyone under 8. I always tell her it's because she has a huge gaping cavern of a vagina. I read somewhere that women's vaginas vary in size more than the penis, I have no way of knowing how true that is, but I'd imagine some women out there can accommodate a large penis better than others. By the way, I'm no penis expert, but 8 inches is pretty huge, anything above 7 is considered to be big apparently.
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I read somewhere that women's vaginas vary in size more than the penis, I have no way of knowing how true that is, but I'd imagine some women out there can accommodate a large penis better than others. By the way, I'm no penis expert, but 8 inches is pretty huge, anything above 7 is considered to be big apparently. It is true. Women vary in width and depth. The average depth of a vagina is 7 inches when she's aroused. But if you've ever seen on of those videos with a girl shoving a bowling pin up her gaunch you know there are some outliers. lol. Average penis length for an American male is 6 inches. Just FYI. Don't ask me why I know so much about this stuff... Just an interest, I guess
musemaj11 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Its the girth that matters, not the length.
EnigmaticClarity Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Average penis length for an American male is 6 inches. Just FYI. Wikipedia claims that different studies vary quite a bit, but they all range from 5 to 6. The main difference in measurement involves whether or not you just measure it from skin to tip or whether you jam a hard ruler into the flesh/fat and measure from the very base on out--jamming a ruler in tends to lead to the higher measurements. The jam-the-ruler-in method becomes more important the fatter you are--anywhere from half an inch to five inches or more can be hidden by fat depending upon how obese you are. Sometimes doctors and nurses performing urological functions have to reach into fat pads with tweezers to pluck them out on 500+ pound guys.
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I prefer average, you can do more with it. And by that I mean 6" average. Current man is huge. I'm sore for 3 days minimal after we have sex. Plus, it limits how much I can take and for how long. I'm also shallow so he bottoms out quite often and it's painful. Limits our positions. But...he's my masturbation fantasy guy...just wish it was as good as my fantasies without the pain.
ShannonMI Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 So I was always under the understanding that when it came to size in this dept, bigger was better. Personally I don't think mine is all that big, but I guess that's because aside from porn I've never really seen another dudes piece lol. I'm just about 8 all together. So whats the point you may ask, well my ex recently left me for a guy with a 4 inch piece. One of the reasons she left was because she told me that she could never really fully enjoy having sex with me because it hurt. We were together 7 years and she did bring that up from time to time but did so in a joking way so I didn't think it was a big deal, but it retrospect it did always sound like I may have been a little much for her =\ Anyway now I'm really self conscious about it. I've had 4 women in the past 6 months tell me that I'm apparently huge and that "I didn't know what I was getting myself into" but they always laugh it off...but it just makes me feel like a freak sometimes now and I find myself trying to hold back. I was with a 26 year old a few nights ago (I'm 24) thinking she would be up to par (lol) and she said..."I wasn't expecting all that" and I'm like wtf to myself. Now I'm talking to a girl who is a bit on the slim side and we're gonna end up to the point where we are in the bed together within the next 2 weeks. I'm scared I'm going to hurt the girl...I honestly have become self conscious about something that from what I always thought was supposed to be a good thing =/ Am I over reacting because of what happened with my ex or is this a legitimate issue? I guess if these girls are commenting in a negative way about how big you are, it's an issue. Are you girthy as well? Sometimes that hurts like a bitch too. I don't know what sort of advice to give you other then lube these chicks up good before you have sex with them. Maybe suggest it to them? KY or Astroglide works wonders. Or extend the foreplay so they are good and ready for what you're packing.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 A penis that large would be a dealbreaker for me, for sure. Been there, done that. Actually, smaller than that (7 inches) and I couldn't tolerate it. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, not painful. For those women that can handle it, you're going to need to do a lot of foreplay, go slow, and use a lot of lube. Also, pay very close attention to how she is reacting, and try different positions that allow her to control depth and thrusts (like her on top). Doggie style is the WORST for sex with a guy with a big penis, as is putting your legs over your shoulders. That allows you to go way too deep. Those positions should be reserved for the tiny guys.
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 A penis that large would be a dealbreaker for me, for sure. Been there, done that. Actually, smaller than that (7 inches) and I couldn't tolerate it. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, not painful. For those women that can handle it, you're going to need to do a lot of foreplay, go slow, and use a lot of lube. Also, pay very close attention to how she is reacting, and try different positions that allow her to control depth and thrusts (like her on top). Doggie style is the WORST for sex with a guy with a big penis, as is putting your legs over your shoulders. That allows you to go way too deep. Those positions should be reserved for the tiny guys. Bad advice. Every woman is different. Some girls like being completely filled up. My ex was 7 inches and he bottomed out in me. I LOVED it. Doggy style and knees to my ears was my favorite with him. He always wanted to go gentle with me because he was afraid of hurting me. I hated that. It made the sex boring and predictable. Some pain is tolerable to some girls. Judge her reactions and go from there. There is no cover all in what girls find sexually pleasurable. But lots of foreplay is never a bad idea
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Bad advice. Every woman is different. Some girls like being completely filled up. My ex was 7 inches and he bottomed out in me. I LOVED it. Doggy style and knees to my ears was my favorite with him. He always wanted to go gentle with me because he was afraid of hurting me. I hated that. It made the sex boring and predictable. Some pain is tolerable to some girls. Judge her reactions and go from there. There is no cover all in what girls find sexually pleasurable. But lots of foreplay is never a bad idea Bad advice? It's "bad" why? Because it differs from yours? I was speaking of MY experience. Are you telling me that my preferences are "bad"? I too like being completely filled up, but an 8" cock would rip me wide open. For me, it would not be pleasurable at all. It would be a dealbreaker. You and I also apparently have different sized vaginas; it appears yours is much larger than mine in length and width, especially if you enjoyed doggie and ankles up with a penis that large. I understand some pain is tolerable to some girls. That is precisely why I referred to "those who can handle it" and said he should pay attention to how she's reacting to what he's doing.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 This is like the male version of a " boob" thread. Okay, I have small boobs and I'm not going to be every guy's cup of tea. You have a big dick and some women like it big and hard and others would prefer average or smaller. Don't let your ex and all these other girls dictate your self-esteem. If you got it, you can flaunt it. Or perfect the way you handle it.
ShannonMI Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Bad advice. Every woman is different. Some girls like being completely filled up. My ex was 7 inches and he bottomed out in me. I LOVED it. Doggy style and knees to my ears was my favorite with him. He always wanted to go gentle with me because he was afraid of hurting me. I hated that. It made the sex boring and predictable. Some pain is tolerable to some girls. Judge her reactions and go from there. There is no cover all in what girls find sexually pleasurable. But lots of foreplay is never a bad idea Very true. I'm currently with a guy who is pretty damn large and I like doggy style with him. Sometimes it hurts a bit, but that's what lube is for. Just add a little and you're good to go. Some girls can take big meat and some can't.
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 A penis that large would be a dealbreaker for me, for sure. Been there, done that. Actually, smaller than that (7 inches) and I couldn't tolerate it. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, not painful. For those women that can handle it, you're going to need to do a lot of foreplay, go slow, and use a lot of lube. Also, pay very close attention to how she is reacting, and try different positions that allow her to control depth and thrusts (like her on top). Doggie style is the WORST for sex with a guy with a big penis, as is putting your legs over your shoulders. That allows you to go way too deep. Those positions should be reserved for the tiny guys. Why does everyone keep suggesting "lots of lube"? I haven't needed any except one time and my man is huge. If you need "lots of lube" she's not turned on enough so you need "lots of foreplay".
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Bad advice? It's "bad" why? Because it differs from yours? I was speaking of MY experience. Are you telling me that my preferences are "bad"? I too like being completely filled up, but an 8" cock would rip me wide open. For me, it would not be pleasurable at all. It would be a dealbreaker. You and I also apparently have different sized vaginas; it appears yours is much larger than mine in length and width, especially if you enjoyed doggie and ankles up with a penis that large. I understand some pain is tolerable to some girls. That is precisely why I referred to "those who can handle it" and said he should pay attention to how she's reacting to what he's doing. It was bad advice because you said you couldn't handle it but then told him what to do with girls that can handle it. And that advice was to go slow. Coming from a girl that can handle it, that's not always true. That's why when I gave advice I used a much broader brush. There is no catch all. See what the girl likes and do that. Communicating with the girl he's banging is probably the best idea. And really, if we are both getting bottomed out at 7 inches our vaginas aren't that differently sized. I think what's different is our threshold for pain and what turns us on.
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Very true. I'm currently with a guy who is pretty damn large and I like doggy style with him. Sometimes it hurts a bit, but that's what lube is for. Just add a little and you're good to go. Some girls can take big meat and some can't. This made me LOL.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Why does everyone keep suggesting "lots of lube"? I haven't needed any except one time and my man is huge. If you need "lots of lube" she's not turned on enough so you need "lots of foreplay". Certain medications, varying body chemistry throughout the month, and BC can all prevent a woman from getting as wet naturally as she normally would when aroused. And even if she's the wettest woman on earth, a pounding from a huge cock can still make a woman raw. With a cock that big, lube can't hurt.
ShannonMI Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Why does everyone keep suggesting "lots of lube"? I haven't needed any except one time and my man is huge. If you need "lots of lube" she's not turned on enough so you need "lots of foreplay". Some women's vaginas have more elasticity then others. Meaning some can accomodate a big one with no problem and some have a harder time. Lube just helps with getting it in and the comfort level.
snug.bunny Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 It's the motion of the wave that counts, not the size of it. At least for me. So, find a woman who is compatible in that sense, and you're good to go.
azsinglegal Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Certain medications, varying body chemistry throughout the month, and BC can all prevent a woman from getting as wet naturally as she normally would when aroused. And even if she's the wettest woman on earth, a pounding from a huge cock can still make a woman raw. With a cock that big, lube can't hurt. Can't hurt, but it's not always needed. The only thing I think you need "lots of lube" for is anal sex.
ditzchic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Can't hurt, but it's not always needed. The only thing I think you need "lots of lube" for is anal sex. And hand jobs
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