anthony43 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 My ex broke up with me almost 5 months ago. She slept with several men and when I discovered this, we had constant arguments. She eventually left and went out of state. During this time, she kept trying (and succeeded several times) in using me. When i eventually told her i could no longer do anything for her, she dild not let me have any contact with our daughter. I did not have their address and was unable to send my daughter's christmas presents to her. Along with depression over the breakup, this caused me to fall into a frightening level of depression, which i have still not completely recovered from. I have not spoken to either her nor my daughter in almost two months. on thursday, i received an email telling me that she is moving and she will let me know the address when she gets there. then a second, third, and fourth email. At first accusing me of playing games and that I was not ready for a relationship with our daughter. I did return an email in which I informed and reminded her that even though I have not had her phone number, I still have her email address and I have tried to remain no contact , so that I can heal. She contacted me and that I am just trying to work on me. She finally agreed to cal and let me speak with my daughter, but I did not expect her to call 15 min later. I had a class so I missed that call. Trying to move on, I decided that I was not going to sit at home and wait for her phone call, but rather I was going to start living for myself. This weekend she has called a total of 15 times according to my caller id. yesterday she sent me an email stating that my daughter really misses me. When before she has stated that she does not miss me and does not care if I am around or not. Last night, I found out she is unhappy to where she has moved to and is returning here or at least she wants to. I felt angry because I feel that she is wanting something from and is using my daughter as ana excuse to do so. I am also really confused because I do still have feelings for her. I know that if she did really love me, then she could be honest and she would have worked it out with me, instead of playing games. To tell the truth, I want to believe one thing, but I cant. I honestly ccannot believe one word that comes out of her mouth. I definitely do not want to express my feelings to her because i cannot take any more pain. she has no family here, so is she coming back for another man, me, or what? no matter the reason, am i wrong in believing that she is using our daughter as a means of using me? if so, for what reason? i do want her back, is that possible? is this a sign? i just dont know. any advice wold be helpful.
Philosoraptor Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I understand your emotional situation here, but right now your focus needs to be on your daughter. Is this your biological daughter? Is there any sort of custody agreement? If so then it is quite illegal and I would be calling the police regarding her running off with your child. Get yourself a solid custody agreement before starting anything back with this woman. If you get back together, great... if not she will use your daughter against you and you need something legal stating you have access to your daughter. She is obviously manipulative and a little off by skipping state with your child.
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