Big Joey Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 (edited) Here is some context: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t306003/ Since I made those posts, we no longer work at the same job. When she left about a month ago, she tried reaching out to me again and for a few days after she left she made a big deal about how much she'd miss me and still loved me. I didn't really say much in response except that I still felt for her. Then a week later, after I didn't say anything, she said she couldn't stay in touch because she needed to reinvest in her relationship (with the guy she was originally with before she was with me), which I thought was messed up considering it was her who was reaching out to me, not the other way around. Anyway, there has been no contact for about a month, and then the other day she randomly "likes" something of mine on facebook. Then I notice today that she must have "unliked" it, because it no longer says she does. Can anyone give me some insight on this? I think technology has made things like this really weird. What I find weird about it, is that she "liked" this thing two days after I posted it. Then she "unliked" it a couple days after that. I was trying not to read into it at all because I'm still in love with her and trying to recover from what I went through, but I have to question this type of thing. Why would she suddenly "like" something then "unlike" it during a period of no contact? Edited February 7, 2012 by Big Joey link
smudge21 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 She liked it to get your attention, then unliked it to get more attention. You got to admit, it's worked rather well. I bet any money it's been the main thing on your mind since you saw it. I would also bet that when you saw that she'd liked something on your wall you were really happy, now that happy has turned into confusion, but either way, she's the only thing on your mind because of this. My ex posted on my wall last year too, quite randomly. It made me feel the same way, but in reality it's nothing... nothing at all. It's not even as important as someone waving at you across the street. It means nothing. If an ex wanted to make contact, then they would make contact. Not play little games and feed your breadcrumbs. Do you really want to be one of those people who keep checking social media to see if there's the slightest bit of attention from her? I've been there and it's all just total rubbish. You see an update, get a like or a post, and you feel great, but then it leads nowhere and you're back to feeling low, if not worse. It's almost like a drug addiction where you get a high, which never lasts and you end up rock bottom again. Here's a suggestion, delete her from Facebook. That will stop the little breadcrumbs, but it may also force her to try harder if indeed she is trying to get attention or even rekindle anything back. If you can't do that, then I guess all you can do is try to convince yourself that every little thing she does is nothing, but that's hard when you still love someone.
youngster Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Its possible that it may have been an accident. Ive facebook stalked my ex's page before on an ipad and its actually quite easy to accidentally like something at the swipe of a finger. Not something i am proud of
M2155 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 This is so not worth over thinking. But I agree with the above poster, I did the same thing. I removed it cause on second thought he didn't deserve my like So glad those days are over.
Author Big Joey Posted February 9, 2012 Author Posted February 9, 2012 I don't believe it was an accident. Whether it was or wasn't, it meant she was facestalking me which isn't surprising. "Liking" something on facebook means very little, I agree and wouldn't care, but I was just baffled why she would make the effort to remove it later. I am thinking now that she was embarrassed about it and wanted to cover her tracks, not blatantly trying to mess with me. I won't delete her. That shows way too much concern on my part, and honestly I can deal with being facebook friends. I have another serious ex who will occasionally "like" things and of course I think about it when it happens, but I don't care. What makes this situation with the recent ex weird is the intensity of everything, including our final contact before this. She's welcome to be casual toward me, as long as she doesn't try to play hot and cold again. Also keep in mind that I've said not a single thing directly to her for over a month now... and I will have no trouble keeping that up. Appreciate the feedback you guys. I know it sounds trivial but stupid things can still effect a person.
flitzanu Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 I don't believe it was an accident. Whether it was or wasn't, it meant she was facestalking me which isn't surprising. "Liking" something on facebook means very little, I agree and wouldn't care, but I was just baffled why she would make the effort to remove it later. I am thinking now that she was embarrassed about it and wanted to cover her tracks, not blatantly trying to mess with me. I won't delete her. That shows way too much concern on my part, and honestly I can deal with being facebook friends. I have another serious ex who will occasionally "like" things and of course I think about it when it happens, but I don't care. What makes this situation with the recent ex weird is the intensity of everything, including our final contact before this. She's welcome to be casual toward me, as long as she doesn't try to play hot and cold again. Also keep in mind that I've said not a single thing directly to her for over a month now... and I will have no trouble keeping that up. Appreciate the feedback you guys. I know it sounds trivial but stupid things can still effect a person. and you're certainly wrong in most of this right here, sorry. deleting her doesn't show "concern". that's feeding the drama that you're perpetuating. if you delete her, you'd never have this situation to think about. delete, and block her on fb. you're believing that it's not affecting you, but it is. i've seriously never noticed a single person "like" and then "unlike" anything on fb, ever, which means you're REALLY watching closely, and really believing that some miraculous sign is going to happen on fb. it isn't. trust me, and trust everyone else when we say BLOCK her.
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