Ross MwcFan Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 (edited) My therapist, suggested that I go out everday and do something I enjoy. I can't really think of that many things except for going for a walk through the countryside I guess. But the thing is, is that driving to the countryside on my own, getting out of the car and going for a walk through the countryside on my own, feels like I'm being weird or something. And it's this which is putting me off. If I had someone else to go with, or a dog to walk, it'd feel okay. Is it normal? Edited February 6, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
anne1707 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Ross Your post has just made me laugh - and in a good way. Wuggle and I went for a walk a week or 2 ago. Whilst we were out, we passed a few other walkers and we always said hello to each other, maybe had a little chat now and then. It was all very comfortable and relaxed. After all we all had something in common. We all enjoyed walking in fabulous countryside. Near the end of our walk, Wuggle just said to me something along the lines of how this would be such a good thing for Ross to do because it would help him to meet people in a very relaxed, no pressured way, allowing him to become more confident. I had to agree with him. Go for it Ross. You will not look odd. It is a normal thing to do. Just get in your car and drive and hour or so north-west from where you live and you will find plenty of places to walk and meet some riendly fpeople on the way.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted February 6, 2012 Author Posted February 6, 2012 (edited) Ross Your post has just made me laugh - and in a good way. Wuggle and I went for a walk a week or 2 ago. Whilst we were out, we passed a few other walkers and we always said hello to each other, maybe had a little chat now and then. It was all very comfortable and relaxed. After all we all had something in common. We all enjoyed walking in fabulous countryside. Near the end of our walk, Wuggle just said to me something along the lines of how this would be such a good thing for Ross to do because it would help him to meet people in a very relaxed, no pressured way, allowing him to become more confident. I had to agree with him. Go for it Ross. You will not look odd. It is a normal thing to do. Just get in your car and drive and hour or so north-west from where you live and you will find plenty of places to walk and meet some riendly fpeople on the way. Hey anne. I do kind of look young though, and dress, well, chavvy I guess, so it seems like that may make me look a bit odd, because you don't really see people like that walking on their own in the countryside. What do you think? Oh btw, I am still going to try and do this, even though I don't quite feel comfortable with it. Edited February 6, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
Dust Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I like taking walks regularly and I don't care if it's normal. Stop trying to be so normal you've driven yourself insane worrying about nothing.
anne1707 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Ross All sorts of different people love walking. On that latest walk, we saw families, people in their twenties, elderly... and I remember seeing at least one person with dreadlocks. But none of that mattered - we were all out there doing the same thing.
tman666 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 My day doesn't feel right without my ~3 mile walk. Just sayin'... I think you'll love it if you get into it regularly. Sitting indoors all day is probably the fastest way to put me in a terrible mood.
Dust Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I was once taking a walk through the countryside when a terrible ordeal/tragedy happened to me. It was a beautiful day and I was enjoying my walk when a family walking the oposite direction came into view. It was a tall man and his little wife and twin children not idetical one boy, one girl. As we passed eachother on the path the man gave me a dirty look. A terible pain shot through my entire body. Then the woman said "he look so horrible." I tried to pertend she wasn't talking about me but then she said "I don't think I'll be able to eat lunch now that we just now passed that disgusting person." I started to run in fear and just then I felt rocks hitting me. The children were chasing behind pelting me with pebles. Just then I burst into flames. It took me years to recover from that and regain the use of my body. Ross learn what you can from my experiences.
tman666 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I was once taking a walk through the countryside when a terrible ordeal/tragedy happened to me. It was a beautiful day and I was enjoying my walk when a family walking the oposite direction came into view. It was a tall man and his little wife and twin children not idetical one boy, one girl. As we passed eachother on the path the man gave me a dirty look. A terible pain shot through my entire body. Then the woman said "he look so horrible." I tried to pertend she wasn't talking about me but then she said "I don't think I'll be able to eat lunch now that we just now passed that disgusting person." I started to run in fear and just then I felt rocks hitting me. The children were chasing behind pelting me with pebles. Just then I burst into flames. It took me years to recover from that and regain the use of my body. Ross learn what you can from my experiences. Hahahaha, Dust, you smartass.
cerridwen Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 My therapist, suggested that I go out everday and do something I enjoy. I can't really think of that many things except for going for a walk through the countryside I guess. But the thing is, is that driving to the countryside on my own, getting out of the car and going for a walk through the countryside on my own, feels like I'm being weird or something. And it's this which is putting me off. If I had someone else to go with, or a dog to walk, it'd feel okay. Is it normal? Ross! Just go for a frickin walk!!
SpiralOut Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 yes it is normal. I can see where you are coming from since I still feel uneasy about certain things like going to the movies alone. But once you get out the door and start doing it you'll feel better.
FitChick Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 In England there are so many walking/rambling groups you could join. Good way to meet people. If you don't want to drive, take a train somewhere.
denise_xo Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Ross! Just go for a frickin walk!! This But yes, it's totally normal. I go for walks alone all the time, and really enjoy them.
anne1707 Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 In England there are so many walking/rambling groups you could join. Good way to meet people. If you don't want to drive, take a train somewhere. This is true. All you have to do then is watch out for the countryfolk with green teeth
PlumPrincess Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 You need to get used to feeling weird, then you will accomplish more. And it's really just a walk outside where there's nobody. It would be worse if you had to do something that feels weird in the presence of others. That's the next step.
KathyM Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 If people saw you walking through the countryside, they'd probably think you just enjoy nature and exercise. Nothing wrong with that, and people wouldn't perceive anything wrong with that either. So go for it, if that's something you would like to do. (Or they might think your car broke down somewhere down the road). I think there's a lot of things you could enjoy if you would allow yourself to. Going to interesting places, like museums, hobby/recreation shows, historic places, scenic places. Taking up some hobbies would be good for you--ones that you would need to go somewhere to enjoy--such as riding a bike, swimming, or other sports. You should think about things you might like to do or like to try, and maybe even make a list of those things.
Anela Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I was once taking a walk through the countryside when a terrible ordeal/tragedy happened to me. It was a beautiful day and I was enjoying my walk when a family walking the oposite direction came into view. It was a tall man and his little wife and twin children not idetical one boy, one girl. As we passed eachother on the path the man gave me a dirty look. A terible pain shot through my entire body. Then the woman said "he look so horrible." I tried to pertend she wasn't talking about me but then she said "I don't think I'll be able to eat lunch now that we just now passed that disgusting person." I started to run in fear and just then I felt rocks hitting me. The children were chasing behind pelting me with pebles. Just then I burst into flames. It took me years to recover from that and regain the use of my body. Ross learn what you can from my experiences. When I was at the zoo in 2007, I'd made the mistake of wearing makeup. It went all weird on me (90+ degree weather), so I washed it off in a bathroom just across from the bears; I know you were kidding, but I did get a weird look from a woman who squished in, in her flip flops that got wet from the water splashing over the rails at the waterfall. I wondered if I really looked that bad, but then pointed out that nobody had chosen to jump over the rails and join the bears, rather than walk with me on the walkway, so I guessed I looked okay.
Anela Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Ross, were you ever agoraphobic? I can relate to some of the things you post, and I have been agoraphobic, as well as social phobic. It took me a while to get over it, but now I *need* to get out; I'm always with someone, though, since I don't know how to drive and need to be with others (as well as the fact that I just enjoy their company). If you feel weird, maybe you could look for someone who needs their dog to be walked when they're at work? I don't know if you're in a position to adopt one of your own, or if you even want to.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted February 7, 2012 Author Posted February 7, 2012 (edited) Ross, were you ever agoraphobic? I can relate to some of the things you post, and I have been agoraphobic, as well as social phobic. It took me a while to get over it, but now I *need* to get out; I'm always with someone, though, since I don't know how to drive and need to be with others (as well as the fact that I just enjoy their company). If you feel weird, maybe you could look for someone who needs their dog to be walked when they're at work? I don't know if you're in a position to adopt one of your own, or if you even want to. I've never been agoraphobic, but I've been and am social phobic for long time, probably due to my mum always treating me like ****, and most other people always treating me like ****. I guess there's just something about me that brings it out in them. My toxic mother would never allow me to adopt a pet. Edited February 7, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
Airborne Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Should give flying a try! Once you've learned the art you can do it by yourself, though it still gets you out of the house and talking to people at the airport and such. It's really an amazing feeling the first time you go up and come back down on your own!
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