Kuite09 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Hi Everyone, I am a 28 yr old single woman and back in May 2011 I met a man online. We talk very frequent by text and phone until we finally met in person in October. He is from NJ and I went on business trip to PA and he came to visit me and finally met. We hit it off, we went out to dinner and drinks and had a great time. After we met we continued to stay in contact. He has a very busy work scheduled so we made arrangements for me to fly to NJ to spend a weekend with him. I paid for my flight and he took care of hotel accommodations (I stayed in a hotel because he lives parents and brother) dinner and entertainment for the weekend. We had a great time together, I met some of his friends and he didn't have no problem at all showing public affection. Since I came back we have been speaking more and more and we talk about seeing each other again and him coming down to FL to see me. I know it might be kind of odd he lives with his parents but hes was traveling at one point a lot for work and he resides currently with them. The hotel he booked for me was literally down the street from his home and he showed me his home from the outside and all but I never walked in, of course I was not trying to meet his family just yet. We both have very fun personalities and we haven't spoken about any serious commitment since we've only seen each other twice but we do say we want to see each other again and we really wish we were closer to each other. Of course I don't want to jump the gun and ask what is going on between us, I have never been in a long distance relationship before so this is all new to me. We both like to joke around alot and be silly when we talk. For example he tells me I have people watching you in FL, you better be behaving youself and just little funny things like that. We have not spoken about no serious relationship convos but we have covered the basic questions. How long I been single, what happened in my last relatationship, do I want to get married, do I want kids etc. Which for a first date it is a pretty serious topic to hit. I don't bring up no serious questions because I just got out of a on and off 7 yr relationship months before I met him online. It will be a year soon that I have been officially single. I just wonder is this man truly interested or is it just some type of entertainment for him. He's a good looking man and successful, I am sure he wouldn't have a problem meeting woman in his own state. At this point I am not sure what to think, I know not to ask serious questions too soon since we've only seen each other twice but we've already been talking for at least 8 months. When should I ask the serious questions? next time we see each other? or will it eventually come up. He recently stated that if he can relocate to FL with his career he will do it for sure.
FitChick Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 When you are attracted to someone and feel a connection, distance is only a problem if one person is very needy or insecure. Money can be a problem if you can't afford to see each other often. There are millions of people around the world who have had successful long distance relationships. It takes more effort and commitment than dating locally and the goal has to be that one person eventually moves.
Zaphod B Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 You may have only met him twice, but you've been communicating with him regularly for 8 months right? All the time you've been spending getting to know each other. I'd say there should be no problems with asking the serious questions. If you're uncomfortable asking questions through messages or over the phone, then wait for the next time you meet, but definitely ask them then.
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