irc333 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I was reading through a profile of a woman, age 29, single never married, no kids....VERY attractive and impressive looking. One pic of her doing some kind of "Mud Dash" looked pretty cool, you run through flames and stuff in a marathon-like manner. And a VERY Couple of professionally done belly dance photos, gorgeous smile, the woman could qualify as a model. Pictures of her at the Serrenghettie(spellign?) in Africa with a couple of lionesses. She mentioned how she is a "Strong" woman, meaning some women can be put off by her "strong" opinions (define strong?), being well-traveled, and educated seems to intimidate. That she comes off as strong, and that can be off-putting, even though she can probably turn heads from the look of her photo, in fact, she said the she FINALLY resorted to online dating due to the last bad experience of having met her last date in a bar. That being said, any input on what a "Strong" woman is in the context of the way I described it? Personally wouldn't put me off. But I'm supposing some men could be put off is she is more culture and worldly than most men?
oldguy Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 She sounds like a good match for the "most interesting man in the world" from the Dos Equis adds. "Stay thirsty my friend"
ditzchic Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I describe myself as strong sometimes. It means she is independent, knows what she wants, she goes out and gets it. She probably has a lot of self respect and is pretty secure with who she is. She can't be easily manipulated and isn't settling for just ok. Downsides: She's probably a little bull headed and doesn't tolerate the weak, wishy-washy or needy. She's probably also a bit unattached and maybe even a little cold because she doesn't "need" a man for anything. She could also be a raging bitch if you don't treat her well. Or that last part could just be me
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I describe myself as strong sometimes. It means she is independent, knows what she wants, she goes out and gets it. She probably has a lot of self respect and is pretty secure with who she is. She can't be easily manipulated and isn't settling for just ok. Downsides: She's probably a little bull headed and doesn't tolerate the weak, wishy-washy or needy. She's probably also a bit unattached and maybe even a little cold because she doesn't "need" a man for anything. She could also be a raging bitch if you don't treat her well. Or that last part could just be me Most of the time Strong=Bitchy. I think many of the guys attracted to a "strong" woman just want a second mother. As to what the OP is asking... in this situation strong most likely means, very picky and attracted to unhealthy traits in men.
Anela Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I don't think that strong = bitchy. I also don't think she's obviously attracted to unhealthy men, otherwise she would probably still be with that guy she met in the bar. I would mostly agree with diztchic, and frankly, I would love to be more like her from the description. I am like her in ways. I know someone who was dumped by her long-term, live-in boyfriend, for someone who was less attractive than she was, and incredibly needy. The original girfriend isn't a bitch, she's fun, beautiful, and outgoing - hard-working, creative, and well-travelled.
FitChick Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 A secure man isn't intimidated by a strong woman. Strong women generally prefer equally strong or stronger men. They don't respect a weak, insecure type of guy, although those types of men often look for strong women to dominate them. I consider myself a strong woman and all of this applies to me.
carhill Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 She's independent, meaning self-reliant, strongly interdependent, meaning she's a great support to and accepts support of those she loves, and she uplifts those around her.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I don't think that strong = bitchy. I also don't think she's obviously attracted to unhealthy men, otherwise she would probably still be with that guy she met in the bar. I would mostly agree with diztchic, and frankly, I would love to be more like her from the description. I am like her in ways. I know someone who was dumped by her long-term, live-in boyfriend, for someone who was less attractive than she was, and incredibly needy. The original girfriend isn't a bitch, she's fun, beautiful, and outgoing - hard-working, creative, and well-travelled. Eh... she met a guy in a bar and dated him. That is usually a sign of someone who is very superficial in their attraction. He turned out to be a poor choice, which any woman with a healthy ability to select men would have already guessed. Additionally she is 29, which is too old to be expecting a guy in a bar to make a great BF. Additionally, the way she words her profile strikes me as though she is really just trying to attract herself. I don't know many guys who care what countries a woman has been to, or want a woman who is so strongly opinionated it puts off other women. Having dated a number of "strong, independent" women... I can say for sure there is a direct correlation between describing yourself in those terms and being a selfish bitch. A secure man isn't intimidated by a strong woman. Strong women generally prefer equally strong or stronger men. They don't respect a weak, insecure type of guy, although those types of men often look for strong women to dominate them. I consider myself a strong woman and all of this applies to me. Who said anything about being intimidated? That is just a term women like that use to make themselves feel better. Most men don't enjoy women like that because they are horrible to deal with. I don't know many men who actively look for a woman to dominate them. I know some that want a woman to do all the work, just like mom... but not really dominate. When people talk about strong women they tend to refer to women with a Type A personality. Those women don't intimidate me... they piss me off... just like any other anal retentive control freak does.
Woggle Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 It depends on what strong means. In many cases women use it the same way men use nice guy. There is nothing wrong with an actually nice guy but self proclaimed nice guys are usually just whiny and bitter. At the same time there is nothing wrong with an actual strong woman but self proclaimed strong women tend to be obnoxious and have bad attitudes. Also men hate feeling disposable and some women tend to either wittingly or unwittingly make a man feel like he is disposable to her.
Eve Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 The woman described sounds as though she has a strong will but this does not automatically equate to being a strong person, in my book. Yeah she could be a selfish bitch but then again, she may not be. You have to find out I suppose. It is better to be direct with these types and not waste their time. I am described as being a strong woman and recognise that I can be really cold at times but mostly I am ok.. as long as there isn't any silly manipulation going down. So, it depends.. Take care, Eve x
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