surferchic Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Hello all. I want to start by saying in the past I was physically intimate sooner than later with the guys ive dated in the past. And for some reason or another we didnt work out... Currently, I've been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months now. This is the longest I've held out on having sex with a Guy...since my 'first', in high school. Im a grown woman now though and I must say I really like this new guy. Though we're both physically attracted to each other, I don't feel like jumping his bones every minute im with him. I think its due to the way we started out... A friend introduced us. We knew we had similar backgrounds prior to meeting. Also, I feel like he's a close friend that I've known forever, but its only been a few months. I feel really comfortable around him. We joke, laugh and talk about almost anything. Yes we've had several 'close calls'. It's amazing how intense we get without having sex. We know that we want to take it to that next level physically but I really don't want sex to mess things up. Once I told him we may be moving a little too fast simply because I don't want the physical to get in the way of getting to know each other better. Its amazing how much healthier this relationship feels compared to others where I had sex so much sooner. I could be wrong but waiting to have sex does have its rewards. Still...I feel like the next time I see him I may become so weak that we may go all the way because of the way he looks/stares at me out of the blue and holds me. Additionally, a mutual guy friend told me in confidence that he has never heard my new guy talk about how much he likes a female, this much EVER... I know that doesn't mean EVERYTHING but isn't that at least a good sign of...something ...? We've told one another that we do really like each other's company and he is constantly calling me beautiful and telling me that he loves being around me and wont let me lift a finger to do anything when im with him. Seems to be very much a gentleman. How does one decide when to have sex,especially when they value "waiting"? And what can I do to avoid "doing it" before it's the right time? Feedback is much needed and appreciated...
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