arts one Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Hi, I have been "seeing" someone for nearly a month now. It all started when the day before New Year's Eve a group of us from work went out for drinks and after everyone had left the two of us continued drinking and I admitted that I liked him. We hooked up and I was still in a relationship. This was something I felt and feel incredibly guilty about. For about 8 months or so prior I had started to feel that my physical attraction with my boyfriend of three years was waning. This does not justify my actions but helps to explain my decision to break up with him about 10 days later. I was asked out by New Year's Eve boy a few days after he found out. We went out for drinks and he asked me what I wanted and I said (because I was a little inebriated) that I would like to date him. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship at this time. We went back to his place but didn't sleep together. Two days later he called me and we had a half an hour conversation just after he had finished work. This confused me greatly as I was of the belief that "I'm not ready for a relationship" means "I'm not that in to you". Following this, I did not see him until work four days later. In this time I had had a one night stand with someone (mostly out of confusion and annoyance) and a mutual friend had told him that this occurred. He seemed jealous and came over to a small gathering at my house the following night. It was lovely and he seemed very into me. We slept together and it was very satisfying. Something I hadn't had in a long time. We had another "date" a couple of days later in the form of dinner. I stayed at his place. Again, I didn't hear from him for a few days and the waiting was terrible, so I decided to call him. To my amazement he picked up and we had a spirited chat. He called the following night as well. The next day was my birthday and I had hinted that it might be nice to see him or at least have him say Happy Birthday. Unfortunately, a very close friend told my now ex that I had hooked up with him before our relationship had ended. She did not simply say this, but every little detail of the conversation, even going so far as stating my flippant comments about the reasons why (in some cases) I was dissatisfied. A horrible day, my ex came over in the evening to be abusive towards me and decided he wanted to stay the night to see whether he could ever be with me in the future. He came back the following day and it was terrible. That night I had another date. Just hanging out at his place. The next night we had drinks with friends after working the day together. I didn't hear from him for four days until I texted him asking him how his couple of days off were. He called me later that night, but I was out to dinner with my ex who was trying to make up for the fact he had been such an ******* to me the week before. The following day, my boy found out inadvertently that this had happened and seemed a bit jealous. He called after work and we had a two hour conversation. It was lovely. I called the next day and spoke to him for about 10 minutes. He was with friends. The following day he was doing family things and I had forgotten about this and sent a friendly message stating this. He called me later that night and I couldn't take his call because I was consoling a friend about love lost (yes, I probably wasn't the right person to do this). Yesterday, I came in to work with my friend and he seemed lovely. He called after work for a few minutes and we both asked what the other was doing that night. I had a social gathering as did he. I said that if he wanted company in his time off that I would be around. I sort of got a negative response. My question is, is he really that into me if he can't make time to see me? Is he still playing games with me? Sorry about the length of this.
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