lostsoul25 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Hello Im not very experienced in the dating world and trying to work out how interested, if at all a girl is in me. She has been at my workplace for a few months and until recently had only ever passed ‘hello’ when entering one of my offices. Mainly due to me not being comfortable to strike up conversation, where others were, as I'd be talking rubbish. A week or so ago, bumped into each other so managed to talked about little work and tried to make things funny. Seems very nice, so I added her to facebook. Last week I was going into an office and heard her shout hello in the corridor, so stopped to chitchat, she had been out the office a while so ran out of time to ask what she was doing at the weekend. I asked someone if they knew if she was available but they didn’t know. It’s usually completely by chance if I bump into her as it’s a big building. Im not sure what to do, next time to ask her out, if its close to the weekend, I could ask what she is up to and if it doesn’t sound like much, if she would like to join me at the cinema, even better if I can somehow get onto discussing films first. Or just ask if she would like to go for a drink after work during the week sometime. She must realise im interested, as I only added her to FB after one conversation, probably unavailable as is gorgeous. Difficult to tell if interested or if just a nice person and just wanting to chat to people to fill in the day haha
jobaba Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Hello Im not very experienced in the dating world and trying to work out how interested, if at all a girl is in me. She has been at my workplace for a few months and until recently had only ever passed ‘hello’ when entering one of my offices. Mainly due to me not being comfortable to strike up conversation, where others were, as I'd be talking rubbish. A week or so ago, bumped into each other so managed to talked about little work and tried to make things funny. Seems very nice, so I added her to facebook. Last week I was going into an office and heard her shout hello in the corridor, so stopped to chitchat, she had been out the office a while so ran out of time to ask what she was doing at the weekend. I asked someone if they knew if she was available but they didn’t know. It’s usually completely by chance if I bump into her as it’s a big building. Im not sure what to do, next time to ask her out, if its close to the weekend, I could ask what she is up to and if it doesn’t sound like much, if she would like to join me at the cinema, even better if I can somehow get onto discussing films first. Or just ask if she would like to go for a drink after work during the week sometime. She must realise im interested, as I only added her to FB after one conversation, probably unavailable as is gorgeous. Difficult to tell if interested or if just a nice person and just wanting to chat to people to fill in the day haha Adding her to facebook means nothing. Everybody adds everybody on Facebook. To put it bluntly, your chances are not good. You don't really know her well, and she is gorgeous so it seems as though you have a standard crush on a co-worker. Except your dating experience is limited and it doesn't seem like you will be able to whimsically and casually charm her. If it were me, I'd kick it aside and let it die. But in your case, I would act on it. If you're coming from where I think you're coming from, this will be a good experience for you. It's good for less experienced guys to face some rejection in all different arenas just to see how close and far to success you really are. It'll inject some reality into how much of a reach this woman really is. And you never know man. Just go up to her and ask her to go to dinner or something... I love how nobody ever answers these questions to help these nice shy guys, but there's like 40 responses to threads like, "It's our 2nd date and he answered a call from his dying grandmother while I was midsentence talking about my chihuahuas. Is this a dealbreaker?!"
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