leftyright1 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 i met a woman online at a dating site about 6 weeks ago. im 35, she's 30. we've gone on 6 dates total in this time span. i've always been the one initiating the dates. i held off from contacting her for a few days after the fourth date to see if she would reach out but she didn't so i initiated again and she ended up meeting up with me. we always seems to have a good time and she seems like she likes me. i've stayed over her place once in this timespan and we've been intimate but haven't had sex. i've invited her out to meet my friends but she has not done the same. there was one instance where she didn't return a vm of mine and i was about to write her off after several days but decided to shoot her an email and she met out with me (this was the last date - the sixth). i really like this woman but i've never been in the position where i have to bring up the "so whats the deal here..."? i feel like if you have to bring that up as a guy then usually the deal is your out... but i obviously want to know the real story on what shes feeling. she mentioned to me she likes to take things slow but only having stayed over once in 6 weeks seems like its not just being slow. obviously it could be that shes seeing someone else, not that into me, or just waiting for me to bring it up which would seem odd to me given my past experience. any strategies for how to get at this without bringing up the we need talk type thing. am i overthinking this and just keep asking her and seeing what happens? i really like her but also don't want to waste time on something that has no chance of going anywhere. i date often and its been rare i feel strongly about the possibilities with someone the way i have with her thus far. thanks so much for your perspectives and any advice.
FitChick Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Invite her for a weekend away somewhere within a two hour drive. If she likes the city, go to the city and the two of you can plan things to do there. If she likes the country, go to a romantic BnB in a beautiful area, although in the winter, that depends where you live unless you like to ski. Being together for 48 hrs will tell you what you need to know.
USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 i feel like if you have to bring that up as a guy then usually the deal is your out... You don't even need to bring it up. You're out. but i obviously want to know the real story on what shes feeling. She's not that into you. She enjoys the attention and the good time you provide her. she mentioned to me she likes to take things slow but only having stayed over once in 6 weeks seems like its not just being slow. Actions speak louder than words, and her actions, or lack thereof, speak volumes. ...obviously it could be that shes seeing someone else... You are but another man in her stable. ...not that into me... True story. ...any strategies... Leave this one be. Don't initiate anymore contact.
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