YouNeverKnow86 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I am having a rough day guys after finding out my ex girlfriend is now in a relationship with someone new. We have been broken up for 6 months and I just recently found this out, I was doing fine but I am just a little upset. She broke up with me and we have been in no contact since early October (I only broke NC to wish her a Merry Christmas, she ignored me). The reason is because the guy she is dating is the polar opposite of me. It really makes me question her values and what she wants in a guy. Her new boyfriend is a want to be Guido (affliction shirts and all), muscle man, with tats all over his body and is rich (his parents own a big time bakery in the area). My ex is a shy homebody and was brought up in a great old fashion Italian family, this guy seems like trouble and someone who she always told me she would never be attracted too. If this is really her taste in men I would have never dated her in the first place. This guy seems like a "bad boy" and is everything I hate in other guys. I know I shouldn't care but I guess it is a bit of jealousy and shock considering he is the complete opposite of me. It really makes me believe I was never what she wanted and this rich meat-head is her type. She is just nothing like him, she was a down to earth sweet girl that is so shy. I am just amazed by this. Sorry for the rant guys but it just was bothering me today and I just felt like posting. Why do girls end up dating someone that is the complete opposite of their previous ex?
Frank13 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I have heard of this before and it seems a lot of times they go for someone who is different or opposite, not better. Not sure if it is to get past an ex or just to try being with a completely different type person. Many times it doesn't work out. It is almost like the people who were perfect for each other for years and then one ends the relationship and gets married to someone else in 3 months.
perfectlyflawed459 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Ugh I know the feeling lol. My ex has dated two girl ( he is still with the second one) and they are the opposite of me in both looks and personality. To me I think they are just trying out different types of people. They dumped us because there was something missing in the relationship with us. For example, I am someone who cares a lot and loves hard. The two girls he has dated on the other hand are girls who are up for whatever and do not give a crap...in other words, they are less serious when it comes to a relationship. My ex even told me that he liked his current gf because she has a "non committing attitude." I do not understand why anyone would want to be with someone who "doesn't care," but obviously he wanted a less serious relationship where he could just have more fun and not have to work at it as much. That is my take at least, it could be different for everyone.
Author YouNeverKnow86 Posted February 6, 2012 Author Posted February 6, 2012 I have heard of this before and it seems a lot of times they go for someone who is different or opposite, not better. Not sure if it is to get past an ex or just to try being with a completely different type person. Many times it doesn't work out. It is almost like the people who were perfect for each other for years and then one ends the relationship and gets married to someone else in 3 months. Yeah maybe it is a phase she is going through since she is in her early 20's (22 years old to be exact) but he is someone who I wouldn't think she would ever actually be with but it doesn't shock me. She always told me she is really picky in who she dates and it would be awhile before she is in another relationship.........Yeah right. Don't ever believe someone that young, I won't be dating any girls under 25 from this point forward (I am 26).
Author YouNeverKnow86 Posted February 6, 2012 Author Posted February 6, 2012 Ugh I know the feeling lol. My ex has dated two girl ( he is still with the second one) and they are the opposite of me in both looks and personality. To me I think they are just trying out different types of people. They dumped us because there was something missing in the relationship with us. For example, I am someone who cares a lot and loves hard. The two girls he has dated on the other hand are girls who are up for whatever and do not give a crap...in other words, they are less serious when it comes to a relationship. My ex even told me that he liked his current gf because she has a "non committing attitude." I do not understand why anyone would want to be with someone who "doesn't care," but obviously he wanted a less serious relationship where he could just have more fun and not have to work at it as much. That is my take at least, it could be different for everyone. Perfectly, I think you and I both know what we want and our ex's really just don't. We are in a better mindset then both of them and that is why they are going to date people who are very different from us. It is just funny because her personality doesn't fit in with this guy at all. Maybe when they are together he has a soft side, who knows? Either way she is introverted and this guy looks like a d-bag. Well she said I didn't challenge her enough and she will surely be challenged now by this guy. I am done with games since I am 26 years old, I won't be dating anyone under 25 from this point forward.
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