KK'sLove Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I need a male dictonary...can you please explain what these sayings actually mean? 1. I'll get a hold of ya (is that days, weeks, years, never?) 2. I'm not ready for a relationship (okay, just got out of a long one, how long does it take a man to recover or is this just BS put nicely) 3. Why is it that men that are charming end up being players? 4. Why is it that men that are NOT charming end up being physco's or just the opposite....committment phobic? 5. Why when women say one thing and men believe another? (ex: Women: I don't want a relationship right now, man thinks....she's lying, she's just trying to trick me into one) 6. Why do men flirt but don't ask you out? 7. Why do you spy on us but don't call? 8. How long does it take a man to realize that a good women (who is interested in him) is probably looking right at him? 9. Why do men turn down sex with someone that they've had it with a few times before and they make it clear that they still want it? 10. Why do men love the chase? 11. Why do they think that they can get the best looking girl (way out of their league) at the bar so they better not be with anyone else?....Guys have you noticed that girl probably has the best looking man at the bar already. 12. Finally, why can't men just say exactly what they feel instead of playing games with women? I would love any answers to make sense of what men are really saying/thinking. If you have any more questions I forgot, please post them. Thanks! I'm ready for my shot of vodka and vicodin! (Just kidding)
disguy Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 1. I'll get a hold of ya (is that days, weeks, years, never?) It all depends on the situation... It could mean whenever he's ready to call you or when theirs nobody better to talk to or hang out with. 2. I'm not ready for a relationship (okay, just got out of a long one, how long does it take a man to recover or is this just BS put nicely) When i say i'm not ready for a relationship, it means just that. Maybe i got out of a bad relationship or i'm just not wanting to be in a commited relationship 3. Why is it that men that are charming end up being players? Gotta be a charmer to be a player. I mean that's what players do, don't they? But not all charming guys are players. *ahem* me being one of those. lol 4. Why is it that men that are NOT charming end up being physco's or just the opposite....committment phobic? These questions here are hard to answer because it just falls into what kinda man he is. I can't say just because for this instance this man is not charming so he's psycho. Well that's not all men that are not charming. Think you've been dating the wrong kinda men. 5. Why when women say one thing and men believe another? (ex: Women: I don't want a relationship right now, man thinks....she's lying, she's just trying to trick me into one) Um no comment on this one. 6. Why do men flirt but don't ask you out? Sometimes we are just like that. Just like you women, you flirt, but don't always end up asking the guy out. Some guys just like to have fun and don't look for anything too serious 7. Why do you spy on us but don't call? Lol again you dating some stalkers or something. I have never spied on any of my gf's 8. How long does it take a man to realize that a good women (who is interested in him) is probably looking right at him? Because men aren't very observant. Sometimes you gotta hit us over the head to make us realize things. 9. Why do men turn down sex with someone that they've had it with a few times before and they make it clear that they still want it? Huh? 10. Why do men love the chase? The same reason why women love the chase. Because if its too easy then its not fun. 11. Why do they think that they can get the best looking girl (way out of their league) at the bar so they better not be with anyone else?....Guys have you noticed that girl probably has the best looking man at the bar already. Hey we gotta try. Because if we didn't then we would go through life never knowing. 12. Finally, why can't men just say exactly what they feel instead of playing games with women? Its hard for some men to open up. We sometimes get confused or we forced to say something because we feel under pressured. Hope this helps alittle. P.S. Women will never understand men, just like we men will never understand women.
Curt Posted June 3, 2004 Moderators Posted June 3, 2004 Fact is, if we told you girls how we actually FEEL (honesty and all), then we run the very definite risk of then becoming "no challenge/transparent/boring" to you girls, and you would then proceed to go about finding someone more "interesting/challenging" We often do what you subconsciously define, as women, to be needed in an "interesting/challenging relationship." Tis often, sadly, more a game than a meeting of two individuals on a plane of mutual desire, respect, and honest. Such is life it seems. Curt
clia Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Ooh...I love this! All based on my many and varied dating experiences... 1. I'll get a hold of ya (is that days, weeks, years, never?) This means "I know how to get a hold of you if I want to. If you never hear from me, take that as a sign that I had no interest in you and please don't go psycho on me and call me." 2. I'm not ready for a relationship (okay, just got out of a long one, how long does it take a man to recover or is this just BS put nicely) This means..."I'm not ready for a relationship with you. If, however, the right woman were to come along, I would jump right into it." 3. Why is it that men that are charming end up being players? Not true at all. 4. Why is it that men that are NOT charming end up being physco's or just the opposite....committment phobic? Not true at all. You are generalizing quite a bit! 5. Why when women say one thing and men believe another? (ex: Women: I don't want a relationship right now, man thinks....she's lying, she's just trying to trick me into one) Not true. If you have decent communication and consistent actions/words, this kind of thing doesn't happen. 6. Why do men flirt but don't ask you out? Because flirting is fun and they aren't that interested. 7. Why do you spy on us but don't call? Spy? Sounds like you need to call the police about your peeping Tom! 8. How long does it take a man to realize that a good women (who is interested in him) is probably looking right at him? If the man is not interested in the woman, for whatever reason, he will never come to this realization, which is completely fair. Simply because you think you are good and the perfect woman for him does not mean he feels the same way. 9. Why do men turn down sex with someone that they've had it with a few times before and they make it clear that they still want it? Because they sense that she is getting too close, and they do not want a serious relationship. 10. Why do men love the chase? Women love the chase also. 11. Why do they think that they can get the best looking girl (way out of their league) at the bar so they better not be with anyone else?....Guys have you noticed that girl probably has the best looking man at the bar already. Because...why not? Chances are you aren't checking out the ugliest guy in the bar, either. 12. Finally, why can't men just say exactly what they feel instead of playing games with women? Men do say exactly how they feel. They simply express it differently from women, and we often don't listen to them. I think men, much more than women, say exactly what is on their mind, and there are less games involved. We just don't listen or rationalize what they are saying in some stupid way.
sportsloving Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 1. I'll get a hold of ya (is that days, weeks, years, never?) If he is interested, he will. If he hasn't found something or something else that has taken his interest, if he hasn't lost the number, and if he hasn't fallen into a bottomless pit. 2. I'm not ready for a relationship (okay, just got out of a long one, how long does it take a man to recover or is this just BS put nicely) Usually means exactly that. He is stating that he simply is still dealing with something and needs time to figure it out. The time of recovery relates to how badly the emotional stress was on him. 3. Why is it that men that are charming end up being players? Just not true. 4. Why is it that men that are NOT charming end up being physco's or just the opposite....committment phobic? Again just not true. 5. Why when women say one thing and men believe another? (ex: Women: I don't want a relationship right now, man thinks....she's lying, she's just trying to trick me into one) Same reason that women who hear that the guy doesn't want a relationship don't believe him ... we just assume he doesn't know that he is wanting a relationship right now and with us. 6. Why do men flirt but don't ask you out? Same reason we women flirt but don't ask them out. Fear of rejection, friendly flirting, or isn't taking the flirting as serious. 7. Why do you spy on us but don't call? How is he spying? Should be contacting your local police department? 8. How long does it take a man to realize that a good women (who is interested in him) is probably looking right at him? Just because a good woman is looking right at him, doesn't mean that she is one that sparks an interest in him. Just like there are probably lots of good men looking right at you and you aren't paying them any attention. 9. Why do men turn down sex with someone that they've had it with a few times before and they make it clear that they still want it? Perhaps he thinks a line was drawn in the sand and doesn't want to step over it (guessing this relates back to his not wanting a serious relationship right now). 10. Why do men love the chase? Not just men love the chase, women do too. It's part of dating. 11. Why do they think that they can get the best looking girl (way out of their league) at the bar so they better not be with anyone else?....Guys have you noticed that girl probably has the best looking man at the bar already. Who says anyone is out of anyone's league? 12. Finally, why can't men just say exactly what they feel instead of playing games with women? They do say what they mean. We women just like to over analyze and rehash everything they have ever said. We conveniently like to forget the parts we don't like to hear.
annabelle Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I've got one more question to add to the list-hope you guys out there have some answers! How do you tell the difference between a guy who is flirting just as friends and one who is flirting to achieve some romantically geared goal?
UCFKevin Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 1. I'll get a hold of ya (is that days, weeks, years, never?) That's pretty vague, yeah...not a good sign. Don't sit by the phone if this is said. 2. I'm not ready for a relationship (okay, just got out of a long one, how long does it take a man to recover or is this just BS put nicely) Nah, it's not BS. It's the truth. The guy probably just wants to have sex and none of the relationship stuff. 3. Why is it that men that are charming end up being players? Why is it that women start off nice but end up b!tches? OUCH! That hurt, didn't it? Don't generalize. Not all charming fellows are players. 4. Why is it that men that are NOT charming end up being physco's or just the opposite....committment phobic? Well, why would you be going after a non-charming fellow? 5. Why when women say one thing and men believe another? (ex: Women: I don't want a relationship right now, man thinks....she's lying, she's just trying to trick me into one) Because women often say things that mean a completely different thing. 6. Why do men flirt but don't ask you out? Fear of rejection. Or an assumption that you're taken. 7. Why do you spy on us but don't call? Uhh...what? That wasn't me outside your window. That was...some other guy. 8. How long does it take a man to realize that a good women (who is interested in him) is probably looking right at him? Could take ages. Guys are pretty dense when it comes to that. At least I am. 9. Why do men turn down sex with someone that they've had it with a few times before and they make it clear that they still want it? Power. Gives them the upper hand. 10. Why do men love the chase? I dunno. I don't. I prefer the kill. So to speak. 11. Why do they think that they can get the best looking girl (way out of their league) at the bar so they better not be with anyone else?....Guys have you noticed that girl probably has the best looking man at the bar already. I don't really get this question. 12. Finally, why can't men just say exactly what they feel instead of playing games with women? Same reason women do it. And that reason is, fear! Stupidity! etc! I say what I mean. I never play games. Never have. I hate games. Makes me lose interest immediately. 13. How do you tell the difference between a guy who is flirting just as friends and one who is flirting to achieve some romantically geared goal? Little things. If the guy lightly touches you in a way or something, lots of eye contact, looking at your lips when you talk, stuff like that.
kk'slove Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Thanks for the replies! I'm not meaning to group all men into these catagories but most I have met are like this. I have taken little things from each of them and asked. I've been in serious relationships for the last 10 years and I've been single since March and all I meet is players. I have dated at least 10 men in the last two months and only 1 well maybe 2 have been good guys, they all just want to have, well you know. I'm really interested in one but he's playing me like a fiddle so who knows if that will ever go anywhere! Okay I have one more question.... My guy friends tell me that I'm very sexy or they say that I ooze sex. What is that? I've been being told that for years from friends and people I work with but I don't dress trampy at all, so what is so sexy to them? Could it be perfume (ladies- I wear Obession by Calvin Klein and the men love it). So what is it? (To help you out, I'm 5'4, in decent shape, blonde, & blue eyes) I'm very friendly, and nice to everyone and I have a ton of friends so could it be personality? Maybe you can tell me.
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