Is there such thing as a woman being too petite?

[g450]

I still believe that most men like petite women more than tall skinny women. This should have been made into a poll question.

 

In my mind, a smaller woman makes me feel more masculin. Being on the shorter side myself I prefer petite women.

 

And I dont think this has been brought up, but there is also the sheer mechanics of height that is important in the bedroom.

 

From a guy's perspective, would you rather have sex and be looking at her face, her chest or the pillow she threw just north of her head? I prefer to see those pretty blue or brown eyes myself but that's just me. And for me, having sex with a petite woman is a complete turn on. I just want to grab that tight little body and have my way (and hers). Sorry for being so graphic but I think this should be touched on. :bunny:

[veggirl]

I still believe that most men like petite women more than tall skinny women. This should have been made into a poll question.

 

In my mind, a smaller woman makes me feel more masculin. Being on the shorter side myself I prefer petite women.

 

And I dont think this has been brought up, but there is also the sheer mechanics of height that is important in the bedroom.

 

From a guy's perspective, would you rather have sex and be looking at her face, her chest or the pillow she threw just north of her head? I prefer to see those pretty blue or brown eyes myself but that's just me. And for me, having sex with a petite woman is a complete turn on. I just want to grab that tight little body and have my way (and hers). Sorry for being so graphic but I think this should be touched on. :bunny:

 

Yep, guys usually want a girl smaller than them.

 

And if the average mans height is 5'8 or 5'9, then "petite" is great for them.

 

I'm 5'8 though and have dated guys 5'9 and up....never had the ones, even only an inch taller (so I'm taller in my 4in heels!) complained though.

 

Lots of females need to be shorter than their guy to feel feminine, it goes both ways and the guys wanna be taller to feel masculine. I like my man to KNOW he's masculine regardless of our height.

[kaylan]

Can people get fit by going to the gym and eating right? Of course. Can people get sexy by going to the gym and eating right? Depends on your definition of sexy. Can people get model bodies by going to the gym and eating right? No, probably not, because most model bodies you see in the media aren't even real.

Um...did you skip over the part where I said models bodies vary depending on publication/company/industry? Seems you have. People can get sexy bodies in the gym with proper diet and hard work. Simply by slimming down, toning up, and adding muscle, a person would become more attractive if theyre your typical average American.

 

Many of the bodies in the media are real. Plenty of guys could look like Ryan Reynolds shirtless if they tried. Plenty of girls could look like Kim K, Megan Fox or 90s Jennifer Aniston or some other hot body figure depending on their body type.

 

I wasn't even referring to bone structure. I was referring to fat/muscle composition. Among women, there is great variance in body shape, even if the women are equally fit and healthy. This is because some women are pear shaped and some women are apple shaped. Some women are even boy shaped. Pears are genetically predisposed to carry most of their fat in their hips and thighs; these women have smaller boobs and a bigger ass. Apples are genetically predisposed to carry most of their fat in their upper body; these women have bigger boobs and a flat butt. Women who are boy shaped hardly have any curves at all.

Bone structure is as important as fat/muscle composition when talking about body type. Bone structure cant be changed, but fat and muscle composition can be.

 

Just because someones genetically predisposed to a certain fat and muscle composition, doesnt mean they cant control how they look. Your bone structure is more limiting then fat-muscle comp is. Im an ectomorph...which means Im predisposed to burning fat, having a smaller frame, and it being difficult to build muscle. Plus as a guy my fat goes to be stomach...the little I have.

 

I change that by working out hard so I dont get stomach fat. I build muscle and increase bone density with weighted exercises so I can get the V torso. And I dont overdo the cardio so my bodies doesnt feed on my muscle since I dont have much body fat to begin with.

 

Just because a gal carries a certain amount of fat in one area of her body doesnt mean she cant cut down overall body fat, then build muscle in areas to give herself a damn fine body...despite predetermined shape. Im thinking you know little about fitness, because a woman can highlight her bone structure and mold her fat-muscle composition if she knows how her body works.

 

Ex: Pear

So if a girl has wide hip bones with lots of thigh fat, some rump going on, but also has a less than average chest....she can hit the gym cut down her overall body fat so she can attack those thighs. Obviously this will make her breasts a little smaller and her butt because shes losing body fat. She can then use weight exercises for her chest and butt to lift and firm them both.

 

Shed come out looking like a hot pear because of the naturally wide hip bones. But now shes got toned legs and a firm lifted butt and firm breasts...albeit smaller than before. Perky is def nice though. Based on the fact alone that shes toned and hot, with hips, people would see her as model-ish. Small but perky breasts are a great add on to them there hips and sexy toned legs.

 

What I am saying is that natural shape isnt keeping one from molding themselves and getting sexy.

All of these women can spend hours in the gym trying to mold their bodies. They'll build muscle and become stronger and leaner, but they will still maintain their general body shape (apple, pear, boy, etc) because that is determined by genetics and cannot be changed.

I said this before in my last post. Obviously your god given genetics limits you, but not completely. You can still mold yourself and change your body.

 

You cant change your bone structure but can increase bone density. You cant change where your body first burns and stores fat, but you can control what you gain and lose. If you keep working youll eventually hit your target area of fat...you might hit it last, or second, but youll hit it if you keep working out. Lastyly, you cant control how easily your body builds muscle, but you can control how much muscle you build.

 

Dude go look at some bodyspace profiles at bodybuilding.com. I have seen enough before and afters of people I actually know to tell you that what Ive been saying isnt false.

 

Do you even hit the gym?

 

 

I guess that explains why Olympic gymnasts have such shapely curves and sexy T&A...oh wait, no they don't. They're not curvy at all because they're solid muscle. Losing fat and building muscle will make the boobs shrink. If your definition of sexy is a woman with huge tits, then no, women cannot mold those by going to the gym. Not all women have child-bearing hips either. Women with narrow hips cannot go to the gym to mold curvy hips and a bubble butt.

Who the hell is taking about gymnasts? Your whole argument failed when you said that. Gymnasts have entirely different goals from aesthetic fitness folks. Gymnasts aim to have as little body fat as possible because they need to be super lean but strong in their profession. So obviously the women wont have curves or breasts. Wow you fail.

 

I never said women should lose all of their body fat. They CAN mold their breasts in the gym tho. I knew a curvy, chubby, out of shape girl with Ds who went to the gym and come out months later as a toned up fit girl with perky Cs. How is that not molding your body?

 

If a chick gains enough body fat, chances are her breasts will grow...if she loses body fat, they will get smaller. The key is not getting body fat super low by overdoing cardio or eating to little. If a girl builds muscle behind her chest, her breasts will lift. If she has little muscle behing her breasts, they hang lower without the muscle.

 

Obviously one cannot create hips because thats dependent on God given bone structure. I never said they could either. They can firm up and create a butt. I have a stick thin friend from high school Ive been friends with for years. She put on 20 pounds over the last year and a half and now has a butt. With some exercise she can firm it up and make it rather nice. She still wouldnt have hips, but would have a rather nice butt.

 

In a guys mind, butt adds to overall curvature. Just like shoulders, breasts and hips do.

 

Diet and exercise only affects the amount of fat or lean muscle in your body. It cannot change the natural shape of your body or where your body stores fat. An apple cannot go to the gym to transform herself into a pear. And a boy-shaped woman will never have an hourglass figure.

 

When did I say itd change you natural shape completely? or where you store fat? I never said this. I said that your body is limited by bone structure and that you can control how much fat and muscle your body has in it.

 

A boy shaped woman wont be hour glass but she can definitely do some molding to her body. She can lift her breasts and add with muscle, or plump them with fat if she gains weight, depending on her physiology.

 

You have basically wasted time agreeing with my original points and showing that you dont have much know of fitness imo.

[kaylan]

Yep, guys usually want a girl smaller than them.

 

And if the average mans height is 5'8 or 5'9, then "petite" is great for them.

 

I'm 5'8 though and have dated guys 5'9 and up....never had the ones, even only an inch taller (so I'm taller in my 4in heels!) complained though.

 

Lots of females need to be shorter than their guy to feel feminine, it goes both ways and the guys wanna be taller to feel masculine. I like my man to KNOW he's masculine regardless of our height.

This.

 

I said exactly this earlier. Height preference is dependent on ones own height. I even provided a link to a little study

[FitChick]

My preferred size was the norm where I'm from, however, when I travel to the USA, women look BIG.

 

Where are you from?

[lifeasiknowit]

Thanks for all the responses! I guess, from all this we learn everyone has their preferences.

 

I never ended up going on that date, because there was miscommunication about the time and day (it's a long story), and he hasn't contacted me in over a week to reschedule.

 

However, I do have a date with someone else who is 6 feet 5, while I'm 5 feet 2-3 (I'm not 100% sure, but I'm definitely not taller than 5 feet 4. I'm thinking the height difference will be super weird, but maybe I'm getting a head of myself.

 

I have another question.

 

Since I'm very small boned, and thin, I'm also flat-chested. I'm so flat I usually don't wear a bra, but I'm thinking I should start wearing a padded-bra.

 

Would it be misleading of me to wear a padded bra for the date, or should I just wear what I usually wear? I just feel like I'm being misleading by making myself look more fuller in that area, when I'm not. I know many women wear padded bras, but I usually go without. I even feel weird about wearing more makeup than I usually wear (which isn't much), but for dates, you always feel the need to make yourself look better than your "everyday self".

[EnigmaticClarity]

I'm thinking I should start wearing a padded-bra.

 

Would it be misleading of me to wear a padded bra for the date, or should I just wear what I usually wear? I just feel like I'm being misleading by making myself look more fuller in that area, when I'm not. I know many women wear padded bras, but I usually go without. I even feel weird about wearing more makeup than I usually wear (which isn't much), but for dates, you always feel the need to make yourself look better than your "everyday self".

 

If you're planning on keeping your bra on around him forever, go for it. If you're hoping he'll take it off one day, you'd be making a mistake by intentionally misleading him.

[veggirl]

Wear a bra! Even small boobs can get saggy!

 

Most bras have SOME padding...don't wear the bras that add 2 cup sizes or anything but slight padding is fine

[Professor X]

Wear a bra! Even small boobs can get saggy!

 

Most bras have SOME padding...don't wear the bras that add 2 cup sizes or anything but slight padding is fine

 

Yeah, don't overdo it. And btw, does he know you're that much more smaller than him ?

[lifeasiknowit]

Yeah, don't overdo it. And btw, does he know you're that much more smaller than him ?

 

I hope so! My height is on my profile, but maybe he didn't see it. Every guy, even the ones who are skinny and 5"8 comment on how I make them feel huge or comment on my general small size.

 

The one I'm seeing tomorrow (first date) is 6"5. I assumed he checked my height considering how tall he is, and maybe he exaggerated his height? It would be weird for someone to exaggerate that much, because we don't need men to be THAT tall!

 

I really wish I brought home my only pair of heels ( I left them at work).

 

The height difference, I think will be a hindrance, but I don't think it's a good enough reason to not meet him.

[Professor X]

I hope so! My height is on my profile, but maybe he didn't see it. Every guy, even the ones who are skinny and 5"8 comment on how I make them feel huge or comment on my general small size.

 

The one I'm seeing tomorrow (first date) is 6"5. I assumed he checked my height considering how tall he is, and maybe he exaggerated his height? It would be weird for someone to exaggerate that much, because we don't need men to be THAT tall!

 

I really wish I brought home my only pair of heels ( I left them at work).

 

The height difference, I think will be a hindrance, but I don't think it's a good enough reason to not meet him.

 

That much of a difference might be super weird.. for both of you. Besides, I wanna mention that 5,3 isn't small AT ALL.

If you were 5 or less than ye, I'd understand, but 5,3 is slightly above the average of women...

I think it's just your weight that makes you look smaller, but it's not your height for sure.

Edited February 19, 2012 by Professor X

[Professor X]

That statement - "MOST men are attracted to petite women" has definite merit. Just because you know men or have read of them not being into petite women doesn't mean you can speak for all men.

 

I've been petite my whole life (5' tall, 106 pounds) and have lost count of the men who've been attracted to me because of it. I think to a large extent, it makes them feel big and strong and it brings out their biological desire to protect a woman.

 

Let me tell you something. I had a friend who is almost 6 feet tall, and she has a very attractive face. But men would NEVER talk to her when we went out - it was always ME they were attracted to and it was always ME they wanted to get to know. All she ever got were comments from their friends about being so tall that she must play women's basketball. Because she was so tall, she couldn't wear heels - just flats. I can wear (and do!) 4" or 5" high heels - and that just makes men even MORE attracted to me. It drove my friend crazy that men were always approaching me and never her.

 

So your theory is all wet and DEFINITELY not what I've experienced my whole adult life.

Experiences are always subjective. If you want to define a "definite" statement, you gotta back it with facts.

And regarding to what he stated, while he should not of used his own experience to prove his point, it's true.

 

Many many studies and statistics showed that majority of men (somewhere between 70%-80%) actually do like curvy women, which is a surprise considering we're all being brainwashed by skinny models.

 

P.S. Regarding your friend, men rarely go for women who's taller than them, so it's not like the only reason they went for you (between the 2 of you) is because you're petite, it's also because she's taller than most of them.

Also, a nice face doesn't mean she hasn got a good figure

[lifeasiknowit]

That much of a difference might be super weird.. for both of you. Besides, I wanna mention that 5,3 isn't small AT ALL.

If you were 5 or less than ye, I'd understand, but 5,3 is slightly above the average of women...

I think it's just your weight that makes you look smaller, but it's not your height for sure.

 

Oh man, I am nervous about how weird it will be with our height difference, on top of my normal nerves for a first date. He had to have checked my weight and height on my profile, so he wouldn't have messaged me if it was a problem. But maybe men are used to women fibbing a little about their weight ( saying they are thinner than they really are) that they're shocked when they see I am truly thin? I mean, I'm not scrawny, but small boned, small waisted like how small Audrey Hepburn was, but I think she wasn't that short.

 

I have a feeling this date is doomed. I guess I just can't let it affect my nerves or I will ruin the date. If I let it weird me out he might sense that.

[Professor X]

I have a feeling this date is doomed. I guess I just can't let it affect my nerves or I will ruin the date. If I let it weird me out he might sense that.

 

Don't count it out just yet. Relax, you are not short at all, and I haven't got a clue why you think 5,3 is short.... 5,3 is a tad taller than the average height of women.

And as for you being scrawny, well, doesn't matter that much when it comes to women so, cheer up

 

Besides, what's the worse that can actually happen? He'll stay a stranger as he was a few days ago, no biggie, right?

[lifeasiknowit]

I feel better now. I guess it's not my height, but my weight that makes me look small. I'll have to find a man who is attracted to skinny flat chested women!

 

I can be quite self conscious about my body, and I feel I've never gotten past that awkward teenage phase where you're not used to your body. Maybe guys can sense that.

[fortyninethousand322]

Every time I've been on a first date with a guy, they always comment on how tiny I am. I'm 5 foot 3 and 105 pounds, but people often tell me I look like I weigh less. This isn't me trying to fish for compliments because I know I'm really small, ( it's natural)but I find it weird when a date tells me he's shocked by how tiny I am. It makes me feel like I'm freakish or something.

 

I have a date tomorrow with someone I met online and I want to wear this nice dress, but I wonder if I should cover up more and wear something that makes me look more curvy? I wonder if I should wear heels too, but I'm not into wearing heels.

 

I also look young for my age, so I wonder if a guy would prefer a more mature looking woman (I'm 28 but I've been told I could pass for a teen). I just always get the feeling like I'm too childish looking.

 

I've never had a problem with small women. The last date I went on was with a girl who was 4'11" and maybe 90 lbs (probably more like 85) and I'm six foot tall. It's not a big deal at all.

[Professor X]

I feel better now. I guess it's not my height, but my weight that makes me look small. I'll have to find a man who is attracted to skinny flat chested women!

There are plenty of guys who are attracted to that type or at the very least don't mind it one bit.

I am one of those for example, as long as you're not obese, I'm good to go - flat chest or DD, 100lb or 140lb, short hair or long hair, whatever goes

 

I can be quite self conscious about my body, and I feel I've never gotten past that awkward teenage phase where you're not used to your body. Maybe guys can sense that.

Every women I met so far is self conscious about her body So you're not alone.

[alethean]

I don't think it matters. I don't know where you live, but average height for women in the US is 5'4", 5'4.5", and you're not too much shorter than that. As for weight, it sounds like you're at a healthy weight, so it shouldn't matter, especially if you had pics that showed that already.