huskers11 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 This is mainly for the guys out there but when it comes to dating, how often do you text the girl you are seeing? Is it sometimes more when you first meeting and getting to know each other then it drops down considerably after a few weeks? Do you text the person you're interested in more than you do normally? I'm just curious because this guy I've been seeing on and off for 2 months used to text me ALOT(good morning texts, hows your day.. all of that stuff) easily there were a 50-100 messages a day. Lately it's been alot less, maybe 10-20 and he told me he isn't a big texter when he is at work or busy. Is this legit or is he losing interest?
carhill Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I never text women. I probably texted my exW maybe five times in our ten year M and that was because I knew she was at a concert and wouldn't hear her phone. IMO, a better gauge of one's interest is how often he calls for dates and how he behaves when on those dates. One doesn't need to be conjoined by a small handheld electronic device to have a healthy relationship.
Author huskers11 Posted February 5, 2012 Author Posted February 5, 2012 The only problem is that his job transfered him to another state then to another one. So we ended things intitially but are now speaking again because he is only 4 hours away and might actually get transferred back to Nebraska. He has made comments about moving here even if he has to find a new job(he isn't orginally from here, was just here for the job) basically to be with me and also comments about us dating. He seems very interested but it's all been through texting(he also mentioned he wasn't a big fan of talking on the phone either) and I have not met a single person in his life to know him through them.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Well the fact that you're seeing him on and off probably tells you that he's not all that interested...unless it's part of the deal or your call, that says more than anything else to me. However in general in the beginning I suppose it's normal to message a lot, since you're just getting to know the person and you have a lot more to say maybe. It just really depends. But for the average guy I'd say that his behavior is normal...he's not going to be in your face the whole time, and he's somewhat used to you at this point and may not have a lot to say anymore. That seems normal unless you guys were really into each other and heading towards relationship. However this doesn't sound like something that's going to materialize to much from the off and on part, but I'm sure you'll stick around to find out either way.
Author huskers11 Posted February 5, 2012 Author Posted February 5, 2012 Ok maybe on/off wasn't the best wording.. We were very on and were close to dating(at least I thought).. Then his job transferred him 10 hours away to Colorado and we had only been seeing each other under a month so it was way too early to do long distance so we ended things. And now that he is closer we have started talking again!
carhill Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 If he wants to talk, he can 'pop over' on the weekend for a visit. I'm sure you'll be happy to see him. That's an example of what defines 'interest'. Aimlessly pounding away on a phone while at work or riding public transport is filling time. I see it all the time when I travel. It's like people just can't be still anymore.
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