ThaWholigan Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 (edited) I wanted to make this thread as I already did the "lowering standards" one. I considered all the girls I found attractive. The latest being a particularly stunning latina on POF that I just saw about 4 mins ago . Then it occurred to me that while I don't really see leagues or anything like that, it may just be that I am aiming just a little bit above my station. How many of you now (girls and boys) feel like you are punching above your weight in terms of who you like to date? This isn't just looks wise, this is in terms of any attribute you deem to be particularly attractive.... Edited February 5, 2012 by ThaWholigan grammatical error
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Nope. I felt that every girl I've asked out in these last few years was completely within my league. But since they all turned me down, maybe I was out of my league
jobaba Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I wanted to make this thread as I already did the "lowering standards" one. I considered all the girls I found attractive. The latest being a particularly stunning latina on POF that I just saw about 4 mins ago . Then it occurred to me that while I don't really see leagues or anything like that, it may just be that I am aiming just a little bit above my station. How many of you now (girls and boys) feel like you are punching above your weight in terms of who you like to date? This isn't just looks wise, this is in terms of any attribute you deem to be particularly attractive.... I have thought that women I have gone for might have been out of my league. I was recently rejected by a woman and was able to successful date another. So I ran a little experiment. I posted pics of both them online and asked people to judge and rate... The responses were that the woman who accepted me was a bit more attractive or they were equal. So, it's not always about punching above your weight and having to lower your standards for looks. Sometimes it's more case by case...
Cracker Jack Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Not sure. I'm attracted to a wide variety of women. I think the women I'm most attracted to aren't in any way unrealistic for me. Leagues have always been odd for me.
Million.to.1 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Sometimes. It's relative. I'm reasonably attractive and find no problem meeting men who are interested in me. But I'm fussy and have high standards for sure. I'm attracted looks at first and confidence, and how someone presents themselves with style/ clothing/ etc. More often that not, The men I find the most attractive, are often extremely successful, both personally and professionally, and often have a variety of options in many social elements of their lives which also includes who they date or get involved with. So it really comes down to me. There is a certain way I want to be treated and seen by someone I date too, and in many ways I too am a great catch, and that's how I would want to be seen by anyone i was involved with. "Punching above your weight" is really very objective, and depends on the type of relationship that it is too. If you are just talking about looks and initial attraction, especially online, then of course you are going to think alot of people are attractive, that don't reciprocate the same back. As an attractive female, when i had an online dating profile, I would get messaged ALL THE TIME by men who i found very unattractive and wasn't even interested in replying to. Truth is, the men i am most attracted to, would date or get involved with, arent the type of men I have ever found on a dating site.
123321 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 It's been years since I was turned down so either I know what's in my league or it just turns out that's who I'm attracted too.
USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I generally aim below. After years of generally being ignored by more attractive women, I just assume they all don't have any personality and tell myself I'm not "attracted" to them as a defense mechanism to avoid rejection. But then again, I don't see myself a very highly, so this eliminates a vast majority of women out there for me.
phineas Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I don't think I know my weight class. I've been a fat-ass most of my life & last summer was my first real summer in shape & legally divorced & I gotta say, I was having women I never would of dreamed of dating actually asking for my number, trying to get my attention by trying to prove they were someone I wanted to date. Ages 25 to 30 mostly. (i'm 40) but, even though they were hot by most peoples standards they really didn't have much else going for them or they just wanted someone to have "fun" with then moved on in a few weeks. The one's I met my age had no education & worked crappy cubicle jobs & were always broke. I'm already supporting my kids (child support, day care) I can't support a live-in GF. On the flip side, i'm on match.com & it seems 90% of the women in my age group have multiple degree's & make 2 to 3 times more money than me & whether their average, hot, in shape or overweight hardly any respond to my messages. I guess on paper I really am shooting above my weight class.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I feel like I'm punching above my weight with any girl, even very below average ones.
laotzu Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Is this just related to looks, or other things, as well? I go for pretty and smart girls, so don't base everything on just how someone "appears". I went out with a highly (read: more than myself) educated girl last night, and we'll be going out again soon. I would say she's above my from a social standing perspective, below me from a financial perspective, and probably right around, or below where I am on a looks perspective. The last one is difficult to say: I find her very attractive and I hope to get more physical with her soon. I'd say she's within my league. There are plenty of women who appear very attractive (i.e. out of my physical league, perhaps) but they are, by all measures, imbeciles, and so on a combined basis I'm out of their league. The "total packages" are rare, and I'm not sure I've ever encountered them online in my area.
laotzu Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Is this just related to looks, or other things, as well? I go for pretty and smart girls, so don't base everything on just how someone "appears". I went out with a highly (read: more than myself) educated girl last night, and we'll be going out again soon. I would say she's above my from a social standing perspective, below me from a financial perspective, and probably right around, or below where I am on a looks perspective. The last one is difficult to say: I find her very attractive and I hope to get more physical with her soon. I'd say she's within my league. There are plenty of women who appear very attractive (i.e. out of my physical league, perhaps) but they are, by all measures, imbeciles, and so on a combined basis I'm out of their league. The "total packages" are rare, and I'm not sure I've ever encountered them online in my area.
poodle Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 The only thing I can think of is a personality trait. I tend to go for guys who are very outgoing while I'm more of a loner. I worry that I'll never be good enough for them in that aspect. When it comes to looks I don't usually feel like I'm punching above my weight. I don't think I'd be comfortable around someone next to whom I'd feel like an ugly duckling.
USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Is this just related to looks, or other things, as well? I was going on exclusively looks in my response...since it's generally what a person is first judged on...
FitChick Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 The one's I met my age had no education & worked crappy cubicle jobs & were always broke. If a woman said that, she'd be called a golddigger.
Author ThaWholigan Posted February 5, 2012 Author Posted February 5, 2012 I have thought that women I have gone for might have been out of my league. I was recently rejected by a woman and was able to successful date another. So I ran a little experiment. I posted pics of both them online and asked people to judge and rate... The responses were that the woman who accepted me was a bit more attractive or they were equal. So, it's not always about punching above your weight and having to lower your standards for looks. Sometimes it's more case by case... I identify with this post the most here. I feel it is case by case. I have on a few occasions had extremely attractive girls show interest in me, as well as women who I perhaps wouldn't have gone for at the same time. I feel that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that there isn't really a truly universally attractive image of either man or woman, even in spite of the bombardment of artificial ideals of beauty from the media. If there are any universally attractive traits, they are usually internal characteristics that can be cultivated within. I've met girls who were quite big and their attitude and confidence made them so sexy to me, and I didn't quite know why at the time. Girls I wouldn't normally be attracted to in terms of looks, made up for it with their attitude, and their intelligence (believe it or not!!). I feel I am lucky as I seem to believe that everywhere I turn there are beautiful and smart women about .
joeyanna Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I identify with this post the most here. I feel it is case by case. I have on a few occasions had extremely attractive girls show interest in me, as well as women who I perhaps wouldn't have gone for at the same time. I feel that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that there isn't really a truly universally attractive image of either man or woman, even in spite of the bombardment of artificial ideals of beauty from the media. If there are any universally attractive traits, they are usually internal characteristics that can be cultivated within. I've met girls who were quite big and their attitude and confidence made them so sexy to me, and I didn't quite know why at the time. Girls I wouldn't normally be attracted to in terms of looks, made up for it with their attitude, and their intelligence (believe it or not!!). I feel I am lucky as I seem to believe that everywhere I turn there are beautiful and smart women about . Well from what I've read on LS and recent personal experience your attitude is pretty rare so I applaud you for it. Thank you for restoring my faith in men just a little!!
AD1980 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I dont know what my league is because no women has ever shown interest in me so i guess i have no league lol I tried hitting on women im not attracted to in hopes id get a yes and i got rejected so when i approach women which is rare its women im attracted to wheter itds my "league" or not if im gonna get rejected might as well be rejectd going after someone im actually attracted to
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