Sugarkane Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 If recons are supposed to be so successful? The posts on here are proof of The lack of success.
carhill Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Speaking from my personal data points, the only M's I know of which 'reconciled' have been those where there were affairs on both sides and the couple reached an 'understanding'. Of those two, one ended in divorce about a decade later and the other still exists after about 23 years and five years post- most recent A. I personally know of no friends who are 'friends' with their ex'es, though some did co-parent successfully until their children reached majority. In fact, I'm often chided when giving a balanced review of my exW, as opposed to unilaterally 'hating' on her. We'll never be 'friends' but I see no reason to bag on her. What she does I have no idea. She still seems to treat my friends well. I do respect her for not playing games once we made the decision to D. In that regard, I think we were both clear, as I've equally been clear in past LTR's. Done and over.
perfectlyflawed459 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I am living proof that sometimes you can't even have a friendship with your ex because they choose to dislike you even after months of silence and giving them what they want. I wanted to at least have him as a friend because he meant a lot to me, but even that was too much to ask of him because he pretty much sent me a message saying he hates my guts and never wants to speak with me again. I do not know what is worse though, having someone you still loved as a friend and watching him be happy with another girl, or him hating you completely and not having him in your life so you guys just live your lives separately. They both kind of suck in their own different ways... I took this as a blessing because now I can honestly say I am over him I truly am happier than ever and I actually feel...free. I think if he were to be nice to me, I may have still be overanalyzing ever single word and action. Now that he sent me that hateful message, I can take comfort knowing I did the right things and tried to be civil and that he is too immature emotionally to sympatize with that. I can also take comfort knowing the everyone else around us can see how stupid he is for letting me go like that and that his accusations against me are absolutely false and not the person I am. It is funny how a person will paint you black just to justify hating you.
Philosoraptor Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 If recons are supposed to be so successful? The posts on here are proof of The lack of success. You seem to be very hurt regarding this subject. Most reconciliations never happen as either one or both parties do not want to try again, or in the time apart one or both of the parties grew apart. There are more reasons for them to fail than for them to succeed.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Why do most people get friendzoned on here? Uhhhhhhhhhh, because we are all random individuals in various places and in various stages of life, usually having little or nothing in common with those elements about one another. This should be obvious to you.
NicoleM Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I tried to be friends with my ex after we broke up after we graduated high school and he said let's be friends and it certainly worked for awhile but eventually he found a girlfriend and eventually I went off to college we never stayed in touch and basically stopped being friends. It is really hard being friends with an ex I can speak from experience and my friends have tried being friends with exes and needless to say it never works out. I am sure it works in some cases but most of the time it rarely does.
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