irc333 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I was reading the "Women being seen as sex object" topic town below, and I had recently seen an online dating profile of a woman, she had a few pictures up. One of them was a bikini photo, but.....in her bedroom. Would this be one of those online dating fax paux (sp?). I've seen a few pics like this, either in the living room, bathroom or bedroom. Just something that makes the onlooker think that they just put on the bikini FOR the picture and nothing more. But a bikini in a normal environment like the beach , lakeside or the pool. More acceptable and doesn't give any hint of desperation?
Dust Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 This rule more applies to guys who want to show a shirtless picture. Tell me are you really going to fault a girl for being cool enough to put up a bikini pict... I mean I could care less if its a picture of her in a bikini pushing a shopping cart in high heels at the grocery store. (that would be kind of funny actually)
Fondue Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I am not into online dating, but for social netowrk profiles like facebook, if I see a woman take a picture like hat, say in the bathroom or in her own room, simply to "show off," it just SCREAMS: ***ATTENTION WHORE*** to me. These girls usually have low self esteem and their only means of feeling good about themselves is lonely dudes gawking at them, not knowing that every dude who is worth a damn is writing her off. When you're posting a picture that you took of yourself JUST to "show off," that's a no-go for me. If it is spontaneous (and say, at a beach), and it shows off your body, great! But if you're in the bathroom with you iPhone making a pose and some ducklips, just... no.
Author irc333 Posted February 4, 2012 Author Posted February 4, 2012 This rule more applies to guys who want to show a shirtless picture. Tell me are you really going to fault a girl for being cool enough to put up a bikini pict... I mean I could care less if its a picture of her in a bikini pushing a shopping cart in high heels at the grocery store. (that would be kind of funny actually) You could say it equally applies to a guy with the shirtless bathroom photo, it is just as desperate.
veggirl Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I wouldn't put up a bikini pic of me, period, if I was OLD. On FB if I was at the beach or something, sure, but on a dating website, that seems odd regardless of where you are at. I mean surely there are loads of other pics where you are fully clothed a woman could put up? Why not just use one of those.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I wouldn't put up a bikini pic of me, period, if I was OLD. On FB if I was at the beach or something, sure, but on a dating website, that seems odd regardless of where you are at. I mean surely there are loads of other pics where you are fully clothed a woman could put up? Why not just use one of those. A woman who posts recent bikini pics taken in clear, normal lighting is quite wise IMHO. The men see exactly what she looks like, there are no nasty surprises, no showing up for a 1st meeting to find that she's actually 300 pounds, no getting her naked to discover that she has no muscle tone or is covered with sag & stretch marks. People use OLD sites to hopefully weed out people they won't be interested in without having to spend time,energy & money. Bikini pics help greatly imho.
veggirl Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 A woman who posts recent bikini pics taken in clear, normal lighting is quite wise IMHO. The men see exactly what she looks like, there are no nasty surprises, no showing up for a 1st meeting to find that she's actually 300 pounds, no getting her naked to discover that she has no muscle tone or is covered with sag & stretch marks. People use OLD sites to hopefully weed out people they won't be interested in without having to spend time,energy & money. Bikini pics help greatly imho. Uh seriously? First of all, a body shot in normal clothes can also prove to you that she is not 300 lbs, unless you have a history of finding women who bind themselves in girdles and tape to look 130 lbs, only to later spill out of those and reveal an additional 170 lbs? And you can't tell in person if someone has enough muscle tone for you?
ditzchic Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 A woman who posts recent bikini pics taken in clear, normal lighting is quite wise IMHO. The men see exactly what she looks like, there are no nasty surprises, no showing up for a 1st meeting to find that she's actually 300 pounds, no getting her naked to discover that she has no muscle tone or is covered with sag & stretch marks. People use OLD sites to hopefully weed out people they won't be interested in without having to spend time,energy & money. Bikini pics help greatly imho. Agreed. And all men should be required to take bulge pics of them in boxer briefs. I don't want to waste my time and energy listening to them drone on with their "glory days" stories just to realize they only have a measly 6 inches to offer me
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Uh seriously? First of all, a body shot in normal clothes can also prove to you that she is not 300 lbs, unless you have a history of finding women who bind themselves in girdles and tape to look 130 lbs, only to later spill out of those and reveal an additional 170 lbs? And you can't tell in person if someone has enough muscle tone for you? First off, I'm a woman and as we both know all too well, skillful dressing hides a multitude of sins! A simple non-pornographic bikini shot taken in good lighting shows exactly what a woman looks like. A woman who posts such shots is going to save herself a lot of time as only men who consider her attractive will respond to her ad. I see nothing wrong with the practice.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Agreed. And all men should be required to take bulge pics of them in boxer briefs. I don't want to waste my time and energy listening to them drone on with their "glory days" stories just to realize they only have a measly 6 inches to offer me Your comparison fails because I'm not saying that women should be required to post nudes, showing the exact size and shape of the breasts or spread eagle pics displaying the VJ, just a simple pic taken in good lighting wearing a bathing suit. Also, a lot of guys will include pics of themselves, shirtless, wearing shorts or a bathing suit & I personally appreciate those that do so. I know, before I respond what the guy's body looks like.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Uh seriously? And you can't tell in person if someone has enough muscle tone for you? Why bother spending time, energy & money meeting when a simple pic can answer that question beforehand?
ditzchic Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Your comparison fails because I'm not saying that women should be required to post nudes, showing the exact size and shape of the breasts or spread eagle pics displaying the VJ, just a simple pic taken in good lighting wearing a bathing suit. Also, a lot of guys will include pics of themselves, shirtless, wearing shorts or a bathing suit & I personally appreciate those that do so. I know, before I respond what the guy's body looks like. To each their own. As long as he isn't grossly overweight or obese I don't really care if he has some sag or chub or an 8 pack. I'm less concerned with exactly what the guy's body looks like as I am with how well he can hold a conversation with me and how much of a good time we can have together. As long as those two things fall into place I don't see it as a waste of time or energy. But I guess I just value socialization like you value sex. It's cool we all have our priorities and I'm not judging.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 To each their own. As long as he isn't grossly overweight or obese I don't really care if he has some sag or chub or an 8 pack. I'm less concerned with exactly what the guy's body looks like as I am with how well he can hold a conversation with me and how much of a good time we can have together. As long as those two things fall into place I don't see it as a waste of time or energy. But I guess I just value socialization like you value sex. It's cool we all have our priorities and I'm not judging. Oh please, you are most definitely judging! What's wrong with posting a simple picture, taken in a bathing suit in clear lighting, shows prospective dates exactly what you look like? Why not give prospective partners information so they can quickly can decide if you appeal enough to them physically to warrant investigating further? OLD sites aren't penpal clubs, people aren't looking for casual, non-sexual friends, they're looking for romantic relationships. Using pics to weed out people you aren't attracted to before you expend any time,effort or money in getting to know them is a huge benefit of being an OLD site member.
ditzchic Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Oh please, you are most definitely judging! Glad you picked up on the sarcasm. We'll just have to agree to disagree.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 (edited) Glad you picked up on the sarcasm. We'll just have to agree to disagree. One of the primary benefits of an OLD site is that it enables it's membership to "shop" a huge number of prospective partners, to quickly weed out those who don't meet your criteria & this includes any requirements a member may have regarding physical attractiveness. There's nothing wrong with posting bathing suit shots that show exactly what you look like & there is nothing wrong with wanting to see such shots before deciding if you're going to invest any further effort, time or money in getting to know someone. After all, that's exactly why you're on an OLD site to begin with. Edited February 4, 2012 by soserious1
ditzchic Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 One of the primary benefits of an OLD site is that it enables it's membership to "shop" a huge number of prospective partners, to quickly weed out those who don't meet your criteria & this includes any requirements a member may have regarding physical attractiveness. There's nothing wrong with posting bathing suit shots that show exactly what you look like & there is nothing wrong with wanting to see such shots before deciding if you're going to invest any further effort, time or money in getting to know someone. After all, that's exactly why you're on an OLD site to begin with. You've said the same thing, what?, 5 times in this thread already. I get it. That's your opinion and I don't share it. I'm cool with that. Who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself? We can agree to disagree, right? Is me sharing your opinion really that important to you? Because it's not at all important to me. Maybe that's the difference in the personality types of those who flaunt themselves half naked on the internet and those who don't.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 You've said the same thing, what?, 5 times in this thread already. I get it. That's your opinion and I don't share it. I'm cool with that. Who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself? We can agree to disagree, right? Is me sharing your opinion really that important to you? Because it's not at all important to me. Maybe that's the difference in the personality types of those who flaunt themselves half naked on the internet and those who don't. Chuckling here now.. I get that you don't like me & I'm actually happy about that fact. And really now, posting a simple but tasteful full body shot of yourself in a bathing suit along with other pictures at an OLD site is "flaunting one's self half naked all over the internet" ? such melodrama! People use OLD sites to shop for prospective partners and gasp... they use pictures to help them weed out people they aren't attracted to! I'd say that people who post bathing suit or shorts shots are pretty smart & I'll bet they never lack for responses to their profiles.
ditzchic Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Chuckling here now.. I get that you don't like me & I'm actually happy about that fact. Don't like you? Baby girl, I don't know you. I have nothing to base a like or dislike of you off of. I don't invest that much thought in strangers in an internet forum. As a matter of fact, you could walk out your house and get run over by a bus in the street right now and not only would I not care either way, I would never even know.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Don't like you? Baby girl, I don't know you. I have nothing to base a like or dislike of you off of. I don't invest that much thought in strangers in an internet forum. As a matter of fact, you could walk out your house and get run over by a bus in the street right now and not only would I not care either way, I would never even know. lol, whatever, you go girl! .. enjoy your deep, meaningful connections
silvermercy Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 (edited) A woman who posts recent bikini pics taken in clear, normal lighting is quite wise IMHO. The men see exactly what she looks like, there are no nasty surprises, no showing up for a 1st meeting to find that she's actually 300 pounds, no getting her naked to discover that she has no muscle tone or is covered with sag & stretch marks. People use OLD sites to hopefully weed out people they won't be interested in without having to spend time,energy & money. Bikini pics help greatly imho. I think 300 pounds is easy to see. And most people (men and women) don't exactly have the best of muscle tones unless they spend hours each day on the gym. But what I can't believe is that you mentioned something as superficial as stretch marks. What a nasty thing to say. I personally have a few stretch marks since when I was 13 due to a rapid growth spurt. Should I go hide now, away from the dating world? Also, the majority of women has at least a few stretch marks! Either before of after pregnancy. If we continue with your logic, they should be dumped if they are partnered or never date if they are single, because what's the point, right? The men will just get disappointed and revolted at the sight of a few stretch marks here and there... Well, I don't even! Anyway: men or women posing in front of the mirror half-naked/pouting = attention whores most of the time. I think that's common sense and general knowledge around the world (online and offline). Edited February 4, 2012 by silvermercy
FitChick Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Wearing yoga pants or tight workout shorts with a tight tank top would be more tasteful because you see the body shape but less skin. I have a photo of myself in capris and clingy tee shirt which is what I might wear when doing local errands. I think a bikini shot of a woman or man on a beach holding a beach ball or drink would be more environmentally appropriate because it shows someone relaxing, as long as they are not blatantly posing in a sexual manner. But let us not forget that some men like that slutty look.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Heck, a woman wearing one anywhere is fine by me.
soserious1 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Heck, a woman wearing one anywhere is fine by me. And that seems to be the general consensus of most men. The vast majority of people here objecting to a woman posting a tasteful full body pic in a bikini on an OLD site appear to be women, I wonder why that might be?
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