Bettyboop7499 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I am so stressed, I don't know what to do. My son who is eighteen started talking to a girl whom he thought (by assuming because she is a sophomore in HS he a senior) that she was 16 but it turns out she is 15 he did not stop seeing her and her parents found out, she was snicking around to see him. So now her parents are threatening to press charges against my son. They both have said there was no sexual relationship but her parents don't believe them. Has anyone been in a familiar situation or have any advice. (besides telling my son not to date girls that are younger than 16!- already had that conversation)? I understand their issues with this and if it were my daughter I would not want her seeing a 18 year old. I don't want my son to date 16 year olds but I also understand that 17-18 year old girls don't date 18 year old guys they date 20+ year old guys. I'm not making excuses... okay maybe but my point is he isn't a sex offender. Do they (her parents) have to prove sex or can they go on assumptions? Any advise is appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 If there was no sexual contact then I don't believe they can press charges. It would come down to the daughters word, not the parents. They can however keep a tighter leash on their daughter and stop them from seeing each other.
RickFox Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Would depend on the DA accepting anything presented by the police assuming they file a report. You can't just out and out file charges, and depending on what state you're in their age difference may be an affirmative defense.
Emme Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 True Story. A guy was dating a girl who I believe was 16 and he was 18. The parents hated him and didn’t like the idea of them going out. So one day the parents told him to stay away from her and the both of them didn’t listen. The parents of the 16 year old girl called the cops because he didn’t listen and kept coming around. When the cops arrived the parents only wanted the cops to threaten him to leave her alone. Anyway, instead of them just threatening him they arrested him due to his age. Her parents said no we don’t want him arrested… cops said there is nothing you can do. He was arrested and now has a criminal record as a pedophile. The sad thing about this story is that they are now married in their adult life with children. Due to her parents being over protected he is unable to find suitable employment because of it. His life is basically ruined. Sit your son down and let him read what I just wrote. Reason being kids are still hard headed and sometimes a good slap in the face wakes them up. Let him know that when he has contact with her of any kind it gives her parents more ammo. If she calls him tell him not to answer. Better yet give you the phone so you can answer and all conversations with her should be recorded. All it takes is an accusation. His life will be ruined before it began. If the parents are level headed talk to them about the situation and state the facts that your son told you, she lied about her age. If you can get her on tape saying she lied even better. If her parents are not level headed don’t even make and attempt to talk to them, it will only get worse. Good luck to your son and tell him don’t be stupid, it’s not worth it!
riverman Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Very,true some people want the police to play parent but if they see a law being broken it's they're job to arrest someone. The da or police might not bother or they may press the issue. The cops might come in asking him questions which seem gentle but in fact are dangeros. They are good at asking leading question. Instruct your son if a cops start asking around to keep quiet unless a lawyer is present. It's hard to say if they never had sex. What to say if the cops grill the girl hard she won't crack. Hopefully nothing becomes of it,the 2nd any police involvlement is started,call a lawyer asap.
Eve Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Where I live the CPS will only pursue cases where the sex is not consensual, unless the girl is say under 13. Can't see how it can be proved that they have or have not been having sex. Take care, Eve x
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