dispatch3d Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Think about it this way. There's this clingy thread going right now, where a guy is scared that a girl is saying she "loves" him after only 5 dates. This is what guys are doing when they are hugely emotionally involved in some girl that barely pays him 5 minutes of her own time a week. Your being creepy, overbearing, and stalkerish even by accident when you do **** like that. Hell I hate creeping people on facebook for that reason. **** this ****. I don't want to know some random details about some random person that I barely talk to on a daily basis. I like messaging people and finding out what's going on, but I could care less about posting cool pictures of what I'm doing or whatever. I also don't want to fuel any unhealthy tendencies I might have towards pining away at random girls. If you aren't dating them, there is no need to be giving them hours of thought every day.
Teknoe Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 good post, dust. what i'm finding out is being direct, confident, nonchalant and honest. if you see someone you like and wish to date, be bold and say "Can I take out you this Friday night?" Or there's this method: "What are your plans Friday night?" (give a confident, NOT creepy smile, gotta be playful with the delivery) "Mmm, I have plans..." the girl says, unsure of whether to say yes or not "Cancel them," you respond, with a smile that suggests you're worth it. Again, you have to be playful though. Not forceful or overbearing. Playful and nonchalant eases the girl, and makes her think "what would I miss out if I don't go out with this guy?" Odds are, you'll be in the game!
FredRutherford Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 (edited) Great thoughts, Dust. Good that you can offer your advice to help some of these never-been-in-a-relationship guys in the mid-late 20s and 30s meet women and successfully score a date. This thread might also be of assistance. For those who can't get dates in their late 20s, 30s and 40s http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t269779/83b36e42da49dc9cf102647ebbb3c57a It comes from a little different perspective, and has some different techniques, but it isn't too different than what Dust suggests. There's a link there to a thread on another board that helps "shy guys" (like I once was) break out of their shells and meet women. I like what an earlier poster in this thread said about asking women out on first meeting. Later, I plan to post my experience where I spotted an attractive women, went up to talk with her and after some conversation, asked her to join me that weekend over dinner.... My first "cold call" landed me a 1.5 yr. LTR, so it can happen. Edited February 9, 2012 by FredRutherford
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