lqsanders Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 hi i am new to this today and found it really helpful already. i have been in a relationship for about 3 months now. we started out as friends last year and really got to know each other. i moved away from my hometown to the town i am in now for school. my boyfriend also lives here. i dont know anybody here exept him. i have no friends and no family anywhere close to me. my b/f is a very jealous and insecure person. (which i didnt know it was this bad to start with) he gets so jealous that sometimes he says things that really get to me. telling me that i want every man out there that walks and stuff like that. he is a very sweet generous fun outgoing loving person, but he can just snap in a second and change dramatically. he is very insecure. he says that i am going to cheat on him and that i probably already did. when i havent. i looked beyond this knowing that this isnt the real person when he acts like this and fell in love with the real person. but know its like our fights outweigh our happiness and i cant take it anymore. ill tell him to leave ill get over my mad act then call him to come over because i miss him. its good for awhile then right back to the fighting and jealousy and insecuritites. he says he doesnt mean it but what do i do. Basically inside he is a wonderful person but when he starts the jealousy and insecurtities i cant stand it what do i do?
disguy Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Well jealousy usually leads to controlling. And when he starts to get controlling it can get ugly. This is a relationship where i would be very cautious. Because if you get into deep it can hurt you in the end and you'll wish that you had never met this guy. For one you had only been with him for only 3 months so the relationship is fairly new. I suggest you go out and make some friends (preferably female) so you have a shoulder to cry on just incase it doesn't work out. Your probably gonna some friends to encourage not to go back to him or the like. I don't know the whole story, but from what i read it doesn't sound very healthy. Already accusing you of sleeping with other guys. That's just crazy!!! This guy has some serious issues that he's needs to address.
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