hechicera Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 I need to vent... I want to live a drama free life but probably I make it hard for myself to do that. Here are my stories... Met a guy through OLD, he was physically gorgeous (exactly my type) and I liked all he had to say on his profile... anyway he's the one I've talked about on my other posts. The reason I started OLD is because I was on a break out of the country and when I came back I was going to move to a different area and was looking to meet new people around, for either friendship or a casual relationship or whatever (nothing serious since I'm still completing my divorce and I'm not ready yet). Anyhoo, everything with this guy was completely sexual since we started talking, we talked for 2 months before we met. First time we met we just made out and he ended up getting off (no penetration, wont give much details lol)... second time it took forever for us to meet. Either he couldnt come to me or I couldnt come to him and after many weeks coming back and forth by texting he came to my place... needless to say, we hooked up and afterwards to me we had a very sweet time (which of course shouldnt have happened)... we took a shower together and talked about random stuff for like an hour. After that I didnt hear from him for a while, since I thought wth this is not a formal relationship and I tried to make myself think I didnt care what he thought, I texted him asking if he wanted to meet me, of course he said yes... it ended up by him saying that that day he was too busy, but we'll meet in a few days. Again I texted him another day saying I would be around his area, if he wanted to meet... when again he started saying how busy he was I said ok fine, do you want to meet or no? I wouldnt have minded him saying no, honestly but he said ok, we'll meet for a bit. I drove to his place only to call him and find out he wasnt there... he told me to come to where he was (which happened to be the place he works at!, 2mins away from his place)... It was veery weird, I got in there, everyone was looking at me like if they knew I was coming (very flattering for a fb :/) and I sat there for a while, he said it would be a few minutes and ended up saying that it wasnt a good day, that he couldnt get out of work. I ended up getting a few drinks, he came to talk to me at times, but I wasnt really in the mood for much talk. So after a looong time I left, he told me to text him telling him I got home ok (there was a storm coming) which I did. He replied and since then havent heard from him. Something that shouldnt have happened with the kind of "relation" that we seem (or I thought) we had. The thing is I'm infatuated with this guy, he's soooo hot and cute I cannot even explain, I know I'm not fallen for him cause I dont know much about him, but the more I do the more likely I will. As of now, I deleted him from all my contacts and I'm ready to delete his phone number and move on, though I'm afraid he'll text me one day asking to meet me and we'll go through this all over again. I wish I could come here asking for advise and for you guys to tell me that maybe he could have other feelings for me and that maybe this could work, but I'm not that stupid, I know this is it and its kind of bothering me and that's why I wanted to get it off my chest. Then... I started talking to this other guy from the same site, I like how he looked and what he said about himself too... we started texting almost every day to the point where I started missing his texts... this was totally different from the other guy, he said he was looking for something long term, I told him I'm not looking for anything serious but just maybe friendship and see what happens and he was ok, he took the time to get to know me better... I even got to think that maybe this was my chance to stop fooling around and just settle, I'm not the type of girl who would sleep around (even though it may sound like I am, this guy who was sort of my fb is only the 3rd guy I sleep with and I'm in my 30s). So he says he's doing a trip out of the country, we text while he's gone and all of a sudden the day before he was supposed to come back he tells me his wallet got stolen, he had no credit card or money and he only had a one way ticket and doesnt know how he's coming back. I was trying to be nice and offered some ideas but then he suggested me to help him (like I was gonna send him money or pay his ticket with my credit card), ?!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??? since I heard that I backed off, I have no idea if this was true or not but it freaked me out... He texted me the next day and said that he found a friend to help him out, I havent talked to him after that day. He even deleted his profile. Scary huh? I met another guy, who I text every once in a while, he seems to be interested but I already friendzoned him. I dont feel that attraction towards him. Probably because I can only feel attracted to one person at a time and my mind is still with this first guy, ugh Sorry for the long post, I am starting to feel frustrated. I'm really happy with my life, I have a good job, a kid, supportive family and friends, but since I share custody I am by myself every often and I wished there was someone I could spend some romantic time with... but well... thanks if you read this far and any comment will be welcomed
Casablanca Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 These type of guys are out there online and offline...creepers are everywhere
ditzchic Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 Anyhoo, everything with this guy was completely sexual since we started talking That's all he's interested in. If you're ok with that then keep his number and maybe you can be his booty call. I wouldn't expect it to go any further than that. But if you like him and are infatuated with him, a booty call might be hard for you. I know it would be for me. Best to rip it off like a band aid quick then let it fester and get your heart broken months down the road. That's how I play it.
Author hechicera Posted February 3, 2012 Author Posted February 3, 2012 I wish it was easier to just keep going with it, but I know whats in it for me, not good. It really makes it harder when he does some things he does, like having me going to the place he works (that threw me off totally), the fact that he openly bragged to his friends about what I do (my profession,he's more proud of my job than I am lol), he had trusted me information that I wouldnt give a fb, and mostly he stares at me to the point where I start feeling uncomfortable. I'm not saying by any means that he wants something more from me, the rest of his actions make it really clear that he's not interested, but it confuses me at times. And even if there was any remote chance that he developed feelings for me, it's already screwed up from how it all began. Anyway I'm just still venting, there's no way in this world he would be interested in me and that's why I need to get him out of my life
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