ShaneSchommer Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 I apologize if this is long but would appreciate some feedback. so me and my girlfriend of two years broke up in november, soon after she left for college. the reason for break up was she said she couldnt handle all the pressure of school(she was stressed because of finals) and making sure to call me enough and text me, we just seemed to be fighting more often. after about a week and a half of the break up she texts me and asks to talk so i then say okay and she asks me how im doing and everything. then we dont talk for a couple days and she texts me again saying how she just got a ticket for speeding. a week after that we agree to meet up and talk... she said she doesnt want to get straight back together and wants to work on it. we spent the whole christmas break together and it was nice. as soon as she goes back to school we start to not talk as much. its now been about three months and i told her i didnt want to be used and strung along and was just making sure we were working on the relationship, she said yes she still wants to work at it but she doesnt want a relationship right now. its now two weeks after that conversation and we havnt talked on the phone once and just text throughout the day most of the time it takes her a while to respond. i feel like im just trying soo hard to make this work and she is not i send her sweet text in the morning sayng have a good day and while she says thank you and replies she never says or does anything sweet for me anymore. i feel like i want to break this off completely but i just cant let go because i love her.
Dark Phoenix Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 (edited) Your feelings are valid and if you believe you are being strung along, then you are. Key fact is, you feel you are being strung along so you are and you keep allowing yourself to be strung along. She told you "she does not want a relationship now". Its clear as day. Your mindset is still on the relationship still. Hers isnt. Her boundaries are clear, yours arent. Until you are able to detach from the relationship mindset, do you think its a good idea to keep talking to her? You are causing all this unnecessary grief on yourself. Edited February 3, 2012 by Dark Phoenix
KathyM Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 You are being strung along. She said she doesn't want a relationship right now. I suggest you believe her and move on to find someone who is interested in a relationship.
BoredAgain Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 (edited) I agree with Kathy and DP, you are being strung along. She "wants to work on it" but doesn't want to be in a relationship? How does that even make sense? To me it comes across as, "I want to make sure you're an open option just in case." Don't let her use you like that. Besides, breaking up because she can't handle the pressure of school is a bulls--t excuse. Edited February 3, 2012 by BoredAgain
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