zengirl Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 When a girl says you're a "good guy" and then dumps you, she's just "letting you down easy." She's not equating the 'good guy'ness with dumping you---she just wants to say something nice before she swings the ax; it's human nature. She may not even really think you're a good guy, frankly.
ThaWholigan Posted February 3, 2012 Posted February 3, 2012 When a girl says you're a "good guy" and then dumps you, she's just "letting you down easy." She's not equating the 'good guy'ness with dumping you---she just wants to say something nice before she swings the ax; it's human nature. She may not even really think you're a good guy, frankly. True, I suppose. It's an attraction issue, not a good guy issue.
phineas Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 Ron, the key here is to go for what you want. Women like passion and drive... even if that means you try to rape her face a bit. Stop worrying what other people will think of you so much. Also, if you want to keep your principals... you have to be a hard ass about stuff. Be willing to judge her on things and verbally reject her if needed. Example, I had a woman show up 20 minutes late for our date without calling. I told her that wasn't acceptable and left. 6 months later we tried again and she actually showed up 10 minutes early. Usually I'm really laid back... but sometimes I'm willing to be a jerk in order to stand up for myself. I have to ask, did she contact you right afterword? did you ignore? How did you manage to procure a date months later? Normally when a woman pulls crap like that on me & I call her on it she just disappears forever. which is fine with me. sometimes they blow up my phone for a 2nd chance but i'm learning giving them another chance so quickly turns into a constant struggle & sheet test after sheet test so I wind up ending it for good with them because their such a hassle. But if you freeze them out for a few months they do seem to be better behaved.
irc333 Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I really wonder about this. How many guys actually have other girls lined up? Am I wrong in thinking that it's just a player thing? That normal dudes have two or more girls just waiting for them? yeah, and these guys don't tell other women, "Oh hey, I know I'm a good guy, I have 3 other ladies lined up for next weekend, so .....see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya" Unless they KNOW about these women, it's not going not be effective. Unless you can set it up so you can cross paths out in public somewhere
phineas Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 yeah, and these guys don't tell other women, "Oh hey, I know I'm a good guy, I have 3 other ladies lined up for next weekend, so .....see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya" Unless they KNOW about these women, it's not going not be effective. Unless you can set it up so you can cross paths out in public somewhere On the other hand, people both man & woman with multiple options that are eternally single can't really have that great of options unless they are serial daters.
kaylan Posted February 4, 2012 Posted February 4, 2012 I have to ask, did she contact you right afterword? did you ignore? How did you manage to procure a date months later? Normally when a woman pulls crap like that on me & I call her on it she just disappears forever. which is fine with me. sometimes they blow up my phone for a 2nd chance but i'm learning giving them another chance so quickly turns into a constant struggle & sheet test after sheet test so I wind up ending it for good with them because their such a hassle. But if you freeze them out for a few months they do seem to be better behaved. Sh!!t tests dont exist.Those women just had bad behavior in general and just werent that into you. Personally I dont do second chances. A person will know how they feel about you the first time going imo. Crappy behavior doesnt deserve a second chance when first meeting someone. If a gal cant put her best foot forward in the beginning stages, then she doesnt value my opinion and doesnt give a crap about what happens with us.
bac Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Every time I "date" a woman I always get the same thing right before they disappear... "your a good guy, do you know that" Do not worry that you are a good guy. It is just a line. It is used all the time to reject/or break up for any guy. It does not mean that they think you are a good guy.
RecordProducer Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Ron... somehow you think that they're rejecting you because you're a good guy. It's just their way of pre-rejection. And they say it because they value kindness in a person. If you were acting like a jerk, they would reject you in a much worse way. The mutual attraction is extremely rare and I don't understand why people expect that one out of ten dates shouldend up in relationhsips, which basically means thatif youwent out on a sifficient number of dates, you would always have someone in your life. Indeed, some people always have partners, but they must be too superficial because it's impossible to fall in love every year, let alone a few times every year. Those people just date without love. Most of us, young or old, attractive or not, find someone we like every few years - and fall in love maybe 3-4 times in a lifetime.
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