Author my body is a cage Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 thanks for the advice everyone. carhill i hope youre right and i know that regardless i need to be healthy. i just feel like not being able to talk to each other at all is bad/strange when we were so understanding with each other during the break up, and would make it harder to reconnect if we ever would want to. also i guess i was hoping for an answer that said him not talking to me doesnt mean he doesn't care - i mean, i havent talked to him either and i do care - but i know no one can know that and i can think of it. i also realize im nitpicking about semantics, too, because him not caring to talk to me right now could just be a reflection of himself and not a reflection of his thoughts about me. i hope.
jennisfora Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 I'm going through a break up as well. And, pretty much what my now ex told me is he didn't want to reach out, or call, or meet up because he didn't want to give me false hope. He wants to be just friends, and I can't do that. But it may be a similar thing. He may know that you still have feelings for him, and will read into anything he may say, and try to make it seem more than it is. He may feel that it will hurt you more, to keep contact. My ex has no problem with texting, but won't do anything that as he said, "might disturb things, or confuse you." Just throwing that out there as a possibility. Pretty much you can't know what is going on. It is out of your hands, and beyond your control. And, no matter how hard it is, you have to try and not focus on things beyond your control. Try to force your brain into focusing on what you can---namely, yourself. It's hard, I am still trying.
mike588 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 So its been almost a month now and still no word. I'm so confused, I felt like we really had become close... the breakup was amicable and I know he's been in touch with exes from the past before, why does he not want to get in touch with me? Does this mean that he is really sure about his decision? That he doesn't care about me/ never did? It's only been a month and no word....My ex. just recently contacted me after 6 months. Give it some more time.
LZ2000 Posted March 4, 2012 Posted March 4, 2012 That's really refreshing. Your ex was really refreshingly honest when he explained why he broke up with you.......... I do envy you, wished my ex-girlfriend was like him
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