ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 (edited) OK at xmas one of my long time friend that is a girl slept with me, we have had sex like 3 times within 2 weeks around xmas, however she has just broke up with her ex boyfriend who which i know. Since then we havent had sex and 2 weeks ago she said lets just be friends for now and that shes in love with me but needs to wait and hugged me ina way only a person in love would, since then we haven't kissed because when i tried she rejected it and i asked why and alter when i was about to leave she offered a kiss but i rejected it... and last week she came out but only cause i asked and had something to do. Thing is she always on msn but never rings me, i ring her but she never rings back albeit the fact she doesnt have credit but nothing stopping her using housephone is there and maybe this weekend she wont come out at all. Im a wrong for feeling she is letting me down, or is she doing the honourable thing cause shes hurt and waiting rather than risking hurting me by making me the rebound, she sent me a email saying she hopes to be with me and that she loves me lots but she needs to wait for things to die down. i keep questioning why it feels like its getting less and less, i have very little in the way of relationship experience and i am willing to wait for her but i dont wanna get hurt cause ive fallen in love with her to. this is the email she sent: "heyy am not going in the army now decided its not for me ;p and yeah i do hope and i know u do to just have to hold on to it for a while i guess and see how things go in the future when every thing dies down a little..... am just gonna try my best to get this job at the hospital and hope for the best XD xxxx <3333" any help would be nice please. EDIT: also i aint spoke to her in 3 days because ive needed to step back and look at things, thing is shall i just wait till she rings me if she doesnt then clearly shes lost interest. Edited February 2, 2012 by ThatBwoii
2sunny Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Yep... Get busy living! Go out and have fun with lots of people. She clearly doesn't know what she wants and is finding her way with her future - you should too! You reached out - she blocked you off - don't make any effort until she's ready - she obviously knows you've called and chose not to return your advances. In the future - don't have sex until you KNOW you have a committed partner.
poodle Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 I think stepping back is a great idea. Don't initiate contact until she does. I've only just started posting here and it shocks me how many girls lead guys on, but then claim they can't go any further because they're still getting over their ex. Am I weird for thinking that when a girl likes you the ex no longer matters? I'm only guessing here, but maybe she just wants to keep you as an option in case she can't find someone she's more interested in. Even if she's slightly interested, don't you deserve someone who'd go for you all the way? Wish I could be of more help.
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 (edited) well bummer this is probs gonna end in heartache, in my gut ive been expecting it for a while i guess.... ima cut contact and wait till she rings me and not answer straight away, shall i just block her on msn or give her a reason why im doing it? true be told i carnt just be friends with her cause it hurts at the sec and tbh its her own fault for leading me on.... does anyone think what im doing is wrong or that i am in the wrong for doing this? i forgot to include her ex use to beat her up and if she found out she was going out with me likely he would beat her up and kick off with me... i know for now im a get her to make contact with me cause when all is said in done and ive said and done everything what else can you do Edited February 2, 2012 by ThatBwoii
poodle Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Don't give her a reason. i forgot to include her ex use to beat her up and if she found out she was going out with me likely he would beat her up and kick off with me...In the unlikely case that she's not with you because she fears her ex, why would she sleep with you and send you mixed signals knowing nothing serious can happen between the two of you? If she wants you, she'll find a way to be with you. Until then quit making excuses for her behavior. Sorry if it sounds harsh.
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 (edited) well thanks for advice ive deleted her off everything so i carnt contact her should the heartache make me try do irrational things. i will post what she says if she gets in contact with me and harsh at it seems im gonna scare the **** outta her first and not reply for 1 - 2 days, thats if she contacts me.; at end of the day whats gonna happen is gonna happen aint it, its best for me to get to grips with it now rather than later and it hurt more. thanks alot for your replys. Edited February 2, 2012 by ThatBwoii
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 Also what do i say if she does contact me?
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 bump and does anyone else have anything to add please, the more replys the better i would like to see what everyone thinks.
PrincessPeach Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 People take break-ups in different ways. Some need to hop right back into any relationship, some feel the need to take it out on their exes or have hope to reunite with them while others just need to be single for a time. Each person has their own way in dealing with breakup and it sounds like she is going through her way. She isn't available to you in an actual relationship sense, at least not in the way you envision it might have been. I'd let her go for now. don't try to contact her or get with her for a good while. Get out there yourself, look for others and go out and have some fun without her. Several months, or even a year or two, down the road you might try to reconnect with her. Or you might find you no longer need/want to. Maybe she will seek you when she's ready. The only thing I can say with certainty is that this is not a relationship to pursue now or in the immediate future.
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 3, 2012 Author Posted February 3, 2012 What shall I say to her if she rings me, she has my home number and mobile number
Author ThatBwoii Posted February 3, 2012 Author Posted February 3, 2012 (edited) shall i just ignore her calls and tell my parents to say im not in? im still in shock tbh because she was one of my best friends and it seems she used me. Edited February 3, 2012 by ThatBwoii
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