guitarxkid Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Hey, haven't posted here in a while.. See past posts if you want full detail but I'm a senior in high school, had strong feelings for a girl since 8th grade, dated her for a year and we've been broken up for a little over a year now. Basically she went back on everything she said and promised and completely broke my heart, I have always cared so much about her. She now has a boyfriend of a few months, "loves" him and it kills me. She's in three of my classes this year which sucks and I avoid her as much as possible. The thing is, she acts like we're friends and that she hasn't broken my heart a hundred times. I do as much no contact as possible but it is impossible to literally have no contact with her as I see her so often at school. Even today, my teacher assigned us seats and he put me right next to her which is awful for me. I really just don't know what to do anymore. I still miss her so damn much and come so close to running up to her boyfriend and shoving his face into the ground every time I see them together. ALSO, I got into the college I wanted a few months ago and she was nice about it, congratulated me and was genuinely excited for me. A month ago, she got into a college and I didn't say anything to her- I didn't want to. She texted me later insulted that I hadn't congratulated her or anything. I know this doesn't mean anything but its pretty ridiculous. Anyways, If anyone has any advice that would be great. I'm so fed up with these feelings and I don't know what to do anymore, I see her a lot everyday and I can't take seeing her and her boyfriend together.
Philosoraptor Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 First, stop worrying so much. You are young and in not too long you will look back and think how silly this was. I had the same kinds of things happen and they just cease to matter anymore. You are jealous and your feelings seem to stem from that, not anything else. Occupy yourself with something else for now and only make contact with her when necessary while you heal.
Author guitarxkid Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 First, stop worrying so much. You are young and in not too long you will look back and think how silly this was. I had the same kinds of things happen and they just cease to matter anymore. You are jealous and your feelings seem to stem from that, not anything else. Occupy yourself with something else for now and only make contact with her when necessary while you heal. I agree with you, in a year this won't really matter, I'll be in college having a good time. But this is my senior year and I've still got half a year until I go to college and I just want it to be fun. High school has gotten progressively worse for me which shouldn't be the case and I just want to have a good time for my senior year. It's been really bad so far, I just want to get over her and not worry anymore
Chi townD Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Ugh...okay. Talk to your teacher off to the side and ask to be moved from the current seat you are in. Tell him/her that you and Ex have some "History" and your are uncomfortable with the current seating. BELIEVE ME, teachers do care, but ultimately, all they want to do is teach and would rather not have any drama...you'll get moved. It sounds like your Ex put you in the "friend zone" with even saying, " I hope we can still be friends" Next time she comes up to you all bubbly and friendly, you need to tell her, " Look! We are not friends! I didn't get in a relationship with you and invest time, feelings and my emotions into you only to ultimately become 'really good friends' and I need you to leave me alone". You have to smack some reality into her. She needs to see that you are still hurt by her. Maybe she'll buy a clue then.
flitzanu Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Ugh...okay. Talk to your teacher off to the side and ask to be moved from the current seat you are in. Tell him/her that you and Ex have some "History" and your are uncomfortable with the current seating. BELIEVE ME, teachers do care, but ultimately, all they want to do is teach and would rather not have any drama...you'll get moved. It sounds like your Ex put you in the "friend zone" with even saying, " I hope we can still be friends" Next time she comes up to you all bubbly and friendly, you need to tell her, " Look! We are not friends! I didn't get in a relationship with you and invest time, feelings and my emotions into you only to ultimately become 'really good friends' and I need you to leave me alone". You have to smack some reality into her. She needs to see that you are still hurt by her. Maybe she'll buy a clue then. well said. i know some of us find it easier to say "hey you're a kid, dude, life is way too short to worry about this girl" and that's true. but...i mean, i'm still close with my senior year high school ex, but it just didn't work at the time. you may be friends ten years from now, who knows. the above is a good suggestion though. girls at 18 think they pretty much rule the world of teenage boys, so you need to lay some sense into her that you're not her friend. or just act like you don't even know her. as for the new boyfriend...drop that thought. displacement is easy...wanting to blame him in some way, but he has nothing to do with your situation. figuratively speaking of course, it should be her face you want to smash (with a pie perhaps, as i don't advocate violence). better yet, go hook up with her best friend.
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