Nukulus Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Hey all, just wanted to get a smattering of opinions... Tomorrow I have a 4th date with a girl I met on Match. We started talking around the end of november(ish) and met up for the first time the second weekend of January. We had a good time and have since seen each other two more times. We try and get together about once a week, schedule allowing (she works two jobs and I sometimes have to go out of town for work). We also talk on the phone a few times a week and generally text each other 2-3 times a day or so. A bit about her: She works as a teacher and also bartends a few nights a week. She's 27, is a big dog (animal) lover, and likes keeps plants around the house. Anyways on our third date last week I brought her a treat for her dog (as he's kind of the man house haha) which I think she appreciated and at the end of the evening we had our first kiss ( I know way slow I suppose). Anywho now my question, I was considering bringing her a bouqet of purple tulips tomorrow as a surprise. Purple being her favorite color and all. Good idea? Bad Idea? Too much too soon? Should I just hold off on the flowers/other small gifts until valentine's day (I don't know if we're going out yet, I suppose it depends on how the date tomorrow goes)? Girls, is it something you would appreciate? I don't have any ulterior motives for doing this, just thought it would ne a nice surprise. Anyways, I'm all ears for comments and opinions.
ShannonMI Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Hey all, just wanted to get a smattering of opinions... Tomorrow I have a 4th date with a girl I met on Match. We started talking around the end of november(ish) and met up for the first time the second weekend of January. We had a good time and have since seen each other two more times. We try and get together about once a week, schedule allowing (she works two jobs and I sometimes have to go out of town for work). We also talk on the phone a few times a week and generally text each other 2-3 times a day or so. A bit about her: She works as a teacher and also bartends a few nights a week. She's 27, is a big dog (animal) lover, and likes keeps plants around the house. Anyways on our third date last week I brought her a treat for her dog (as he's kind of the man house haha) which I think she appreciated and at the end of the evening we had our first kiss ( I know way slow I suppose). Anywho now my question, I was considering bringing her a bouqet of purple tulips tomorrow as a surprise. Purple being her favorite color and all. Good idea? Bad Idea? Too much too soon? Should I just hold off on the flowers/other small gifts until valentine's day (I don't know if we're going out yet, I suppose it depends on how the date tomorrow goes)? Girls, is it something you would appreciate? I don't have any ulterior motives for doing this, just thought it would ne a nice surprise. Anyways, I'm all ears for comments and opinions. Flowers are a sweet gesture. I would be thrilled if a man brought me flowers. It's the fourth date, so it's cool.
jobaba Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Hey all, just wanted to get a smattering of opinions... Tomorrow I have a 4th date with a girl I met on Match. We started talking around the end of november(ish) and met up for the first time the second weekend of January. We had a good time and have since seen each other two more times. We try and get together about once a week, schedule allowing (she works two jobs and I sometimes have to go out of town for work). We also talk on the phone a few times a week and generally text each other 2-3 times a day or so. A bit about her: She works as a teacher and also bartends a few nights a week. She's 27, is a big dog (animal) lover, and likes keeps plants around the house. Anyways on our third date last week I brought her a treat for her dog (as he's kind of the man house haha) which I think she appreciated and at the end of the evening we had our first kiss ( I know way slow I suppose). Anywho now my question, I was considering bringing her a bouqet of purple tulips tomorrow as a surprise. Purple being her favorite color and all. Good idea? Bad Idea? Too much too soon? Should I just hold off on the flowers/other small gifts until valentine's day (I don't know if we're going out yet, I suppose it depends on how the date tomorrow goes)? Girls, is it something you would appreciate? I don't have any ulterior motives for doing this, just thought it would ne a nice surprise. Anyways, I'm all ears for comments and opinions. I think it's a sad reflection on human mentality that bringing flowers or refraining from doing so could be a dealbreaker for a potentially fulfilling relationship. Pitiful. Do whatever you want.
blueskyday Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Do it. It's thoughtful and romantic, especially fourth date in.
poodle Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I wouldn't do it this soon if I were you. Your intentions are really sweet, but the gifts could make her a little uncomfortable. Well thought out gifts are a sign that you really care and I'm not sure whether it's smart to show someone you're that into them after only the fourth date. Just enjoy your time together. You don't need to shower her with gifts to win her over.
blueskyday Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 It's not a big bouquet of red roses with a teddy bear attached. That would be over the top, and impersonal. It's a bouguet of purple tulips, purple being her favorite color. That's thoughtful, romantic, and personal. I once had a guy bring me a bouquet of daisies because he remembered how much I said I liked them. He got major points. Way better than the standard red roses.
snug.bunny Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 He's giving her flowers, not some grandiose gift. It's a thoughtful gesture and I can't possibly see how giving someone flowers on the 4th/5th date, would cause the recipient discomfort. I think it's sweet and romantic and I've always loved it.
jobaba Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Do it. It's thoughtful and romantic, especially fourth date in. I wouldn't do it this soon if I were you. Your intentions are really sweet, but the gifts could make her a little uncomfortable. Oh my. What to do? What to do? Life and death situation. Should I buy them? What flowers should I get? Daises mean friendship. Roses mean sex. Orchids mean purity. What should I do? If I get her the wrong flower, it could be a DEALBREAKER! My head is exploding.
FitChick Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Buy the tulips for the reasons mentioned. It's different than the usual boring red roses. You might want to plan to take her out to dinner for Valentine's Day and places book up fast. If you know what type of food she likes, book a table now. You could always cancel later. Otherwise you might be caught short on the day. Slow and steady wins the race. Good luck!
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Don't buy flowers. You only buy gifts for chicks you're in a long-term relationship with.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 I would love it, if I were her. It's your fourth date. Obviously you two like each other. My husband brought me flowers on our first date, and he brought flowers for me and some for my daughter on our second date (which was a barbecue at our home).
mtber75 Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Why would it be too soon to give flowers...Its on the 4th date so go for it! Better yet surprise her by having it delivered. All her friends (at work) will be jealous and chicks love that:)
maybealone Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 If you brought a treat for my dog to one date and flowers for me to the following date, I would swoon. I'd give the flowers, not just because it's a nice gesture, but because you want to -- and you should be yourself. For Valentine's Day, I go with a big heart-shaped cookie for her, and a heart-shaped dog biscuit for the dog.
Author Nukulus Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 Well the conesnsus sounds like I'm buying flowers tomorrow! I think I'll just do it and be myself because I think it sounds like a good idea. If flowers some how change her opinion of me (in a negative way) I somehow doubt it would have worked out anyway, and I'd rather know that fact sooner than later. So really it's win win.
Author Nukulus Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 Why would it be too soon to give flowers...Its on the 4th date so go for it! Better yet surprise her by having it delivered. All her friends (at work) will be jealous and chicks love that:) I would do that, but I'm not so sure how much she'd like the extra attention at work. Not necessarily from her friends (I'm sure that would be fine) but from her students. She's a high school teacher with quite a few at risk students and I'm not sure I want to add to the everyday excitement lol (at least without knowing her a bit better).
jobaba Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 I would do that, but I'm not so sure how much she'd like the extra attention at work. Not necessarily from her friends (I'm sure that would be fine) but from her students. She's a high school teacher with quite a few at risk students and I'm not sure I want to add to the everyday excitement lol (at least without knowing her a bit better). I'm going to make a few assumptions here, but... If she teaches in an inner city high school and does so voluntarily because she knows good teachers are needed there... ...the chances of her NOT BEING PETTY about dating procedure and etiquette go way up. Therefore, she probably won't be made uncomfortable by the flowers.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 The only reason why he's buying flowers is because he lacks the self-esteem to believe he has the ability to win her over by his personality. Flowers are his way of buying for her affection to mask his shortcomings. If you have the personality to make a woman fall in love with you, flowers are unnecessary.
Author Nukulus Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 My self esteem and personality are just fine thanks. I don't think I would have gotten to date 4 if I didn't have those things.
Els Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Sweet gesture. Ignore Oxy. Most of the females here have.
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