Dust Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Did you read anything I wrote after the "why?" Do those reasons make me seem "prudish, narrow minded, uptight" and that I'm not that nice of a guy? For a guy whose admitingly had his only experiences with women in the most unatural of ways I'd say atleast a hypocrite. You are very narrow minded you have to see that right?
Ross MwcFan Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 (edited) Did you read anything I wrote after the "why?" Do those reasons make me seem "prudish, narrow minded, uptight" and that I'm not that nice of a guy? Yes and yes. Sorry. There's nothing wrong with making out with making out 40 people, making out is fun and doesn't cause any harm to anyone. If if a woman or guy has managed to make out with 40 people by the age of 26, then I think 'Good on them'. It isn't anything they should be made to feel ashamed or bad about. A lot of people see kissing as fun, and do not feel that it has to be with someone they really care about (myself included). Edited February 10, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
runner Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 I see kissing as something that is very intimate and that is only supposed to be shared with somebody you really care about. seems like you set really high expectations on this, and that you only go for the kiss when you're deeply in love with a girl. perhaps you should consider kissing as something fun to share with someone new, and not always this grand intimate act. heck, i'll kiss a girl just to see if i'd like to go on a real date with her, which probably sounds backwards to lots of people the point is if you keep it fun, and allow yourself to have fun with people, 40 really is no big deal. it's not even worth counting, IMO.
Dust Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 seems like you set really high expectations on this, and that you only go for the kiss when you're deeply in love with a girl. perhaps you should consider kissing as something fun to share with someone new, and not always this grand intimate act. heck, i'll kiss a girl just to see if i'd like to go on a real date with her, which probably sounds backwards to lots of people the point is if you keep it fun, and allow yourself to have fun with people, 40 really is no big deal. it's not even worth counting, IMO. Somedude81 has never kissed a girl except maybe a hooker or some one he met at a swingers party he paid to get into... He really needs to stop casting the judgement down from his pit.
Author That_girl Posted February 10, 2012 Author Posted February 10, 2012 Thank you for your responses, it's interesting to see the variety in opinion here. Someone here said that they found it interesting that the gap is so wide between how many people I've slept with and how many I've kissed. It's not that I think kissing is meaningless, it's just that I don't think it's as MEANINGFUL as making love. Besides, a good portion of the men I've kissed have been gay friends of mine..haha! Okay maybe not...but for the most, I really enjoyed the person and the kiss. There were only a few that I kissed out of a necessity (so as not to make them feel bad- or because I was too insecure at the time). And yes, at times I can be/ was a serial dater. I've only had a few serious boyfriends, and when those didn't work out I kinda went a little boy crazy. I do find kissing the RIGHT PERSON a lovely experience, and much meaningful than kissing some of the randoms that I've kissed. But I would definitely not want to be with a man that thinks I'm "a slut" or "trashy" because of it. That's typically the type of man that would think double standards make sense.
Anela Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Why? I see kissing as something that is very intimate and that is only supposed to be shared with somebody you really care about. A girl that has kissed a ton of guys obviously doesn't see it that way. Did you know that the vast majority of hookers don't allow kissing, at least the ones in the US don't. I'm pretty sure it's for similar reasons I mentioned. But they will provide the rest of their body for intimacy that women like myself still see as something that they only want to partake in with men that they know well, care about and trust. It's demeaning to the rest of us, and herself.
somedude81 Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Yes and yes. Sorry. There's nothing wrong with making out with making out 40 people, making out is fun and doesn't cause any harm to anyone. If if a woman or guy has managed to make out with 40 people by the age of 26, then I think 'Good on them'. It isn't anything they should be made to feel ashamed or bad about. A lot of people see kissing as fun, and do not feel that it has to be with someone they really care about (myself included). Ross, the average woman can make out with 40 men a day if she wanted to. seems like you set really high expectations on this, and that you only go for the kiss when you're deeply in love with a girl. perhaps you should consider kissing as something fun to share with someone new, and not always this grand intimate act. heck, i'll kiss a girl just to see if i'd like to go on a real date with her, which probably sounds backwards to lots of people the point is if you keep it fun, and allow yourself to have fun with people, 40 really is no big deal. it's not even worth counting, IMO. No, I don't need to be in love to kiss somebody, but I have to at least have a crush on them. If she's not on my mind, she won't be on my lips. Maybe this is a little odd with me, but my standards for having sex with a girl are significantly lower than girls I'd want to kiss. Meaning, I know a few girls that I want to bang, but only one I want to make out with.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Ross, the average woman can make out with 40 men a day if she wanted to. Hmmmm, maybe, maybe. But it's not something they'd enjoy doing.
Dust Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Hmmmm, maybe, maybe. But it's not something they'd enjoy doing. Some would and have.
Stellar Wench Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I'm not a prude. My husband and I have done things in places that would make a whore blush. I think making out with 40 men at age 26 is trashy, but I prefer to get to know a man before I make out with them. Indiscrimination shows that you don't have any respect for those men, nor expect them to have any respect for you. However, in this current culture of dropping trou for the first guy to say, "hay baby," you're probably a prude. Two different schools of thought. What do you think? If you feel trashy after making out with a guy, that's probably your sign that you should have made a better choice.
oldguy Posted February 11, 2012 Posted February 11, 2012 I'm a 26 year old single young woman- and I have probably made out with around 40 guys in my lifetime. I'm wondering if that is too many. I've slept with 7 guys and I don't think that that is a lot for someone my age. But as far as making out/ fooling around goes....I've been around I guess Is this a normal number? Would you say this is "trashy"? I feel like if I were a man- I probably wouldn't be worried. Which is of course...infuriating. Thoughts/ personal experiences? I've never seen numbers on, "making out" but the average excepted number, (because we don't use the word, "normal"), for heterosexual partners in the U.S. has been just under 8 for both men & women of course. And even that means vary little in the world. So why are you feeling uncomfortable?
johan Posted February 17, 2012 Posted February 17, 2012 How is it that you've made out with 40 guys but have only slept with 7?
Ursa Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Making out is fun. Plus it's a good way to have a little taste test, see if you're interested in returning for the full course.
pie2 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 In my opinion, you are asking this question to a bunch of strangers because deep down, you know that something is not right. Maybe you feel empty, and you feel your heart hardening just a little more with each guy you give yourself to. I think your looking for love in all the wrong ways, and the only real benefactor is the guy who gets some for free. I don't think you're trashy, I just think you're misguided in this post-feminism world that today's woman is trying to navigate.
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