Melrapuo Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Ok, so i took this girl out for coffee on thursday of last week, and then dinner on sunday. Everything went great. I want to set up another date for this weekend, but i have a couple dilemmas here - A. Her schedule is always busy. She works two jobs and doesnt ever have a day off. She gets out of work around eight at night, which doesnt leave too mucb wigglr room for dates and ideas. B. I figured bowling, but shes on a bowling team that goes once a week. Id assume bowling would be boring to her. C. Movies were the next idea, but theres really notbing good out (lol.) Any ideas?
Philosoraptor Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Why would bowling be boring? She chose to be on the team so it means that it is something that interests her. Just don't be one of those guys who pouts when a woman beats him at something.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 It's your third date and you should already be trying to get sexual. Go to a place that might get her in the mood: museum, walk in the park, wine tasting event, romantic/erotic movie, etc.
Philosoraptor Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 It's your third date and you should already be trying to get sexual. This makes me sad inside Take things as they come and don't push yourself into anything that doesn't feel right.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 This makes me sad inside Take things as they come and don't push yourself into anything that doesn't feel right. Are you a dude or a chick? Been wondering this for the longest. Plus, you're obviously out of touch with the thinking of many women today. On LS and other places, it isn't hard to find women who say they expect a man to get sexual by the 3rd date. This isn't Victorian England where dudes read poetry by Dickins to women, go courting to the opera, and find it scandalous to see a man kissing a woman on the cheek in public. This is the 21st century. Get with the times.
Philosoraptor Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I am a male. And why should I play this "game" that people are playing when dating? I make my intentions known and go by what feels right, not what should be expected by anyone.
blueskyday Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 (edited) I'm not good with a guy getting sexual by the third date. Let's enjoy kissing and being in each other's physical space. Enjoy the ride, and the parallel growing emotional and mental intimacy.You can be sensual, without being sexual, although sensual makes one feel sexual.... So, pick a date that is sensual if you want. By that , I mean indulge your senses. Wine, food, art, hiking, bowling, whatever. I know I like trying new things, so can you think of anything she has talked about during your other dates that would be interesting to her? We women like a guy who makes our little dreams come true. I once told a guy I loved car shows, and voila! next date was going to a cool car show! Loved that...He also took me to a UFC fight because I ONCE mentioned how much I enjoyed that stuff. If you aren't sure what else she would like to do, then go to a concert, fair, festival, or something active. But, if you haven't done the nice dinner with wine yet, do that. Pick a nice restaurant, tell her to wear a pretty dress and that you'll pick her up at whatever time on Sat....Then treat her like a special beautiful woman all night....ahhh... Edited February 1, 2012 by blueskyday
veggirl Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 So, pick a date that is sensual if you want. By that , I mean indulge your senses. Wine, food, art, hiking, bowling, whatever. I know I like trying new things, so can you think of anything she has talked about during your other dates that would be interesting to her? But, if you haven't done the nice dinner with wine yet, do that. Pick a nice restaurant, tell her to wear a pretty dress and that you'll pick her up at whatever time on Sat....Then treat her like a special beautiful woman all night....ahhh... LOL. Bowling is NOT sensual. I agree with Oxy, you don't have to go for sex, but...something kinda sexual? At least making out. A movie is a bad idea, regardless. Bowling is pretty lame and too "we're buddies" for me, early on. Picnics are always nice, but depends where you live in Feb. How about like a cool Indian or African restaurant? Lots are even BYOB which is fun! Something different than the boring standard Italian or Greek or Thai or whatever.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I am a male. And why should I play this "game" that people are playing when dating? I make my intentions known and go by what feels right, not what should be expected by anyone. If you go out with a woman on 3 dates and you don't feel anything attraction toward her, chances are you won't after another 3 dates.
Philosoraptor Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 Very true, if you don't click you don't click. By that point you are upfront and honest that things aren't going the way you were expecting, and bow out gracefully.
blueskyday Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I don't know, Veggirl, I bowl in a pretty sexy way! Push up bra, low cut top, tight jeans...Then I get to jump up and down when I bowl a strike, running towards him for a great big close up hug...ha ha... Love the idea about Indian or African food. Just make sure ahead of time that she likes that kind of food (or wants to try it), or she will not enjoy it at all.
Author Melrapuo Posted February 2, 2012 Author Posted February 2, 2012 Its the second date, not the third. I asked her for coffee over facebook, and coffe isnt a date I decided on taking her bowling ( well before all the respones). I had taken her to a bistro on sunday night andat the end of the night kissed her. I still feel we need to know more about each other. I figured bowling would be more fun and relaxing. Afterwards we can go eat somewhere nice, etc. I am liking these ideas though...just sucks that she can only hang at night.
veggirl Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Lol. I'm just bitter cause I suck at bowling. I don't know, Veggirl, I bowl in a pretty sexy way! Push up bra, low cut top, tight jeans...Then I get to jump up and down when I bowl a strike, running towards him for a great big close up hug...ha ha... Love the idea about Indian or African food. Just make sure ahead of time that she likes that kind of food (or wants to try it), or she will not enjoy it at all.
maybealone Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 I like bowling as a date early on. And since she bowls, you are showing an interest in something she really enjoys.
jobaba Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 Ok, so i took this girl out for coffee on thursday of last week, and then dinner on sunday. Everything went great. I want to set up another date for this weekend, but i have a couple dilemmas here - A. Her schedule is always busy. She works two jobs and doesnt ever have a day off. She gets out of work around eight at night, which doesnt leave too mucb wigglr room for dates and ideas. B. I figured bowling, but shes on a bowling team that goes once a week. Id assume bowling would be boring to her. C. Movies were the next idea, but theres really notbing good out (lol.) Any ideas? Wow. There's women in North Jersey who go bowling? I thought most of the alleys around here were either closed up or run down. The snoot factor for eligible females is pretty high in North Jersey, at least in a 30 mile radius of NYC. If she really does that, she sounds pretty laidback and it probably won't matter where you ask her to.
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