funnyguy09 Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 I'm really confused about this girl.. here's the story. I've met her 2 years ago in a club and we sort of hit it off. We started dating and since the beginning the sex has been spectacular, nothing short of fireworks, both for me and for her. Even now after 2 years, although we do it a bit less often, it's still amazing when we do it. There is physical attraction on both ends. The problem is that I don't think I really love her. Since the beginning I don't think I was ever 'gaga' over her. I never feel like going the extra mile, and held back in saying 'I love you' for the longest time. I'm not sure why. She's pretty good looking, has a great job/career, she cooks for me and generally takes care of me. I do the same, in as so much that I never let her pay when we go out, we share all other expenses, trips, etc. I genuinely care about her, we have great sex, but I can't say that I truly love her. For example, I could go away for 2-3 weeks and not miss her. I've been with other girls before and there was this feeling of "butterflies in my stomach", every time I would meet them or think about them. With her I get nothing. Why is this ? I know that the infatuation stage eventually goes away after 24 months in any couple, but with her it's as if it was never there! Should I just keep on being with her since infatuation eventually goes away anyway ? I'm so confused it's not even funny. While with her I've met other girls socially, and with some of them I definitely feel an instant connection, attraction, etc. I've never cheated on her so I don't know if that "connection" is real or not, but why do I feel that way ? And why is sex with her so great if I don't love her ?
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Maybe you have grown up and past these butterfly feelings? If you are happy with the relationship then I wouldn't quit on it. But sometimes that connection just isn't there and we need to cut ties to give both ourselves and our partner a chance to find something that works better for us.
Author funnyguy09 Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 Maybe you have grown up and past these butterfly feelings? If you are happy with the relationship then I wouldn't quit on it. But sometimes that connection just isn't there and we need to cut ties to give both ourselves and our partner a chance to find something that works better for us. If I were grown up & past them, why do I still get them with other girls ? How come I never had them with her ? How come I don't miss her when I go away on business. I think of her as a partner in life ( she would make a damn great one too! ) with whom I could really get stuff done ( kids, wealth, trips, etc ), sex is great too, but I still don't feel like I truly love her. Is this a lack of "connection" ?
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Is this a lack of "connection" ? Maybe. Only you can determine that, and only you can decide on what to do from here as no one else can give you the answer. Make a decision you can be happy with and go with it.
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