Men - how have you felt when a woman refuses to be your friend after BU

[maylis]

My boyfriend suggested we break up and I agreed. He asked to be my friend and I said no. The basis of our breakup is he lied and did not want to be accountable for his actions.

 

Men who have gone through a similar experience, how did that make you feel psychologically?

[patagonia]

You did the right thing by saying no. Period.

[PegNosePete]

Why do you care about his feelings? He lied and did not want to be accountable for his actions. He made his bed so let him lie in it.

[Philosoraptor]

He has to deal with his guilt now. But that's his issue, not yours.

[Ajax]

Dishonesty and lack of accountability do not a good friendship make. Why would one desire the friendship of such a being? Your rationale for denying his friendship should be clear to him. If it is not, then his disillusions are his own problem.

[Chs]

Better actually. In the past i have never really been friends with exes or past flirts, it's just easier to move past it when you don't talk anymore.

[maylis]

Better actually. In the past i have never really been friends with exes or past flirts, it's just easier to move past it when you don't talk anymore.

 

 

This is the first time in my life where I have refused to be someones friend. For me since he lied..that is huge for me and its something I can't accept so why would I accept him as my friend now, I guess that is my reasoning.

[lalalandman]

I can't remember being friends with an ex immediately after a BU. He wants to keep you around as a backup plan and not giving him that option shows strength on your part.

[betterdeal]

Devastated.

Then sadness.

Then bitterness.

Some more sadness.

Then relief.

Some more sadness.

Some more relief.

Acceptance.

 

Usually over the period of an entire episode of Family Guy: sometimes two if she really meant something to me.

[123321]

Men who have gone through a similar experience, how did that make you feel psychologically?

 

If I made the mistake of asking such a thing I would feel relieved that she said no, and remember never to suggest such a thing again. I have plenty of friends and i don't date so I can pick up awkward new friendships.