laotzu Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 I have a question for girls. There's a girl I'm really attracted to at my gym, and I've often thought that she's looking at me. (Or maybe I'm just looking at her.) Anyway, the other day I was running on a treadmill and she walked up the row in front of me, past about seven other empty treadmills, and started using the one right in front of me. The gym was dead - it was odd for her to choose that one. As a guy, even I'm conscious of when there are empty treadmills with no one behind them, and try to use them. After a while I got off and started lifting weights, and she eventually got off the treadmill and started doing a routine right next to me. Two things: A. She often does that lifting routine, so it wasn't abnormal. It's just she could have done it in another spot, instead of right near me. B. She constantly has headphones in. I would totally talk to this girl, but the headphones are a big barrier. Am I reading too much into this? Is she throwing me signs, or should I stick with my "girls + headphones = not interested in random gym dude" formula? I am weak and need a new girlfriend...
Ruby Slippers Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Just talk to her. I always wear headphones at the gym, but if a cool guy approached in a friendly way, I would definitely pause the music to talk to him.
Imajerk17 Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 You: "Hey..." {friendly smile} Her: {Removes headphones} You: "I see you in here all the time. You look like you're working out so hard. What are you training for?" Then you're off to the races.
Freddys Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 B. She constantly has headphones in. I would totally talk to this girl, but the headphones are a big barrier. I am weak and need a new girlfriend... Her, listening to music all the time isn't a barrier at all! You know that she loves music & rhythm, so now you have something to catch her interest for sure, MUSIC. Perhaps you should try yourself a mp3 player and make some funny - silly question about it to her. No better way to approach her than a light funny comment. Well, if you approach her like: "hey, are you here all the time?" you make obvious you want to have her as a girlfriend, be different and hit her underneath the surface. Just, hit her with a strong funny comment and go away . . . Let her wondering, who are you, why you talked to her, etc. Do not stare at her, all the time, if you already do this, she knows it. Wanting a girlfriend, isn't weak . . is normal. They way you want it might be weak.
Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 It depends how good looking you both are. For starters, though, she is not TURNED OFF or PUT OFF by you, otherwise she would not even be near you. trust me. If an attractive girl goes near a guy at the gym ( namely, treadmill right in front of, or weights next to them), u can be SURE she is either NEAUTRAL, trying to boost her EGO, or lastly, actually INTERESTED in u talking to her:) At least u know she is not against u talking to her; if she thought u were NOT thr type of guy she wanted to even TALK to her at ALL, she would not put herself in a position where she was CLOSE to you even............ If a girl, especially an attractive girl, wanted to avoid talking to certain people, they would probably NOT work out close to them, or be near them in general. Chat to her, give it a go. If you are fit and average looking, u have a chance to win her over for sure:)
Author laotzu Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 Ugh, I have to go for it, I suppose. I don't think she's more attractive than I am, and I'm very fit. I just don't want endless gym awkwardness afterwards if she gives me the cold shoulder. Her taking that treadmill was the weirdest thing... it seemed almost very forward, which makes me wonder if she just prefers that one no matter what or something. I will report back with success or failure, if the opportunity presents itself.
lilyblue Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Just do it. It shouldn't lead to awkwardness. You're not going to ask her out right away right? You're going to make conversation. People talk to each other. It will be fine Good luck!
Author laotzu Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 Nah, I wouldn't ask her out right away. I'm really good at telling if a girl likes me at a bar, party, or work, but this is a little more "odd". I don't go to the gym to pick girls up, but I've had my eye on her for a while and it seems like there might be some reciprocity. I wish I could not care, but that's impossible...
Author laotzu Posted February 1, 2012 Author Posted February 1, 2012 So, in class LT form, I talked to her today. She was working out near me and I made a joke, she took her headphones off and we made another couple of jokes. Then we went back to working out. She looks very serious all the time, but laughed. I want one just like it. She might be intimidated, because most girls thing I'm pretty good looking and assume I'm an ******* because of the weight-lifting thing. Or she might have a BF. I will continue trying to hit on her so that she can be my podium-wife during my senate campaign.
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