lacoqueta Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Back in August, I had gone to see a surgeon about a lump I had around my waist area. Any doctor i've ever seen was old, very serious, and seemed to be rushing me out the door after 5 mins. This guy was on the younger side, late thirties/early forties. I will be 30 soon. Anyway, he walked in and had a very outgoing kind of personality. He was really sweet, wanted to know a lot about me and PATIENTLY sat there while I talked about myself. He asked what my nationality was and I told him where my parents were from. He then says "oh, I'd love to go there one day" , then told me about other places he'd like to visit, and I told him about places I'd like to go to as well. There were other things he said and i realized "this guy is flirting with me!". I will boldly flirt if i'm interested in someone but at that time I was dating someone new and told myself to behave. I made it a point not to look and see if he had a ring either because I didn't want to be tempted. I kept myself under control. We talked more out in the hallway and then I left to set up my surgery with him for 2 weeks later. Two weeks later I'm at the clinic for the surgery, no make up, wearing the awful gown and cap for my hair. I felt really attractive haha, but again, I wasn't going to try and impress him. He came in, chatted a little and then marked the lump. I was "out" for the next hour and when I woke up I could hear him talking to my mom. He was telling her how to take care of my wound and he then asks her "and you are?" and she says " I'm her mother" and he goes "so this is where she gets her good looks from". My mom ate it up! A month later, the relationship with the other guy ended. He left me mentally exhausted so I knew the best thing to do was chill out for a while. The holidays were coming up too and I don't like to hang out with someone new around that time. A lady that works for my parents showed me a lump she had on her thigh and I told her I knew the perfect doctor. I mentioned he had caught my attention but that I was dating the other idiot at the time. She starts plotting on getting an appt with him just to feel him out and see if he's single (for me), and I eventually said "no" because it will all start off as a lie. I then decided I would just get a message to him and give him my number for him to call me if he's interested and available, something i've NEVER had the courage to do. I guess I just want to know if i'm going to look like some crazy stalker? I"ve also heard that girls that give their number out come off as easy.... I just think in this situation, I have no other choice. I'm not going to make an appt and make up some fake ailment just to see him because that to me is crazier! It also worries me that he will think i'm some typical girl trying to snag me a doctor. I've NEVER been interested in finding me a doctor or lawyer. I make my own money and am not looking to be taken care of. I just can't get him out of my head for some reason. Yes, he might just be a big flirt but I won't know till I try. What do you guys think? Should I go for it?
make me believe Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Hmm. I dated a doctor once and I'll tell you that if he's youngish, good looking, and has the type of personality that charms mothers, then he has female patients hitting on him CONSTANTLY. I'm not sure he'd even remember you, tbh. (Especially since it's been several months since your appointment.) He probably flirts with all of the women that come in. I personally think you're reading too much into the comments he made to you and your mom... the stuff he said to you sounds like regular small talk, and the thing he said to your mom is just indicative of an overly flirtatious personality. If you really want to get him your # somehow, then go for it... but don't get your hopes up too much.
FitChick Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 You don't even know if he's married. I've dated doctors and wouldn't repeat the experience. I prefer lawyers or businessmen myself. By the way, watch the DVD of The Ugly Truth to see how one woman snags a doctor. The film is about dating and very funny.
Author lacoqueta Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 Hmm. I dated a doctor once and I'll tell you that if he's youngish, good looking, and has the type of personality that charms mothers, then he has female patients hitting on him CONSTANTLY. I'm not sure he'd even remember you, tbh. (Especially since it's been several months since your appointment.) He probably flirts with all of the women that come in. I personally think you're reading too much into the comments he made to you and your mom... the stuff he said to you sounds like regular small talk, and the thing he said to your mom is just indicative of an overly flirtatious personality. If you really want to get him your # somehow, then go for it... but don't get your hopes up too much. Yeah that's something I kind of figured! To be honest, he's not the type that most would find "good looking", it was something about his personality that drew me in. Fitchick, I've seen The Ugly Truth, but I don't remember about a girl getting a doctor. I guess I should watch it again...
FitChick Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Fitchick, I've seen The Ugly Truth, but I don't remember about a girl getting a doctor... That's because you were transfixed by his perfect, naked body when she fell out of the tree and he rescued her.
musemaj11 Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 A surgeon knows any woman who is interested in him is just trying to hit the jackpot even if she says otherwise. Doctors and lawyers are probably the most cynical men when it comes to women and they have a good reason for it.
Stung Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 While I'm sure that can be true, the few younger doctors I've known were paying off ENORMOUS student loans and also aware that they were actually difficult to date and have relationships with because of the hours they kept. I had a hot doctor once, OP. He was my neurologist and I saw him several times, he was really charming and had a gorgeous accent and even a quirky, stylish sense of personal fashion, plus there was that whole dreamy 'he's saving my life' aspect. I crushed on him pretty hard for a few weeks there, but I ended up meeting and getting involved with a different guy who I spent 2 years with and who's still my friend, so things probably went the way they should have there. Still, I say go for it. It can't really hurt to ask, right? You only get one life, live it fully...it could be an exciting fling, it could be a beautiful love...or you might get a little bump on your ego and a week of disappointed feelings if he says no. Big deal. Still, I think I might actually take my friend up on her offer of checking to see if he's married, first. It's not like she's going there under false pretenses if she actually needs to see a doctor. Just don't let her start any wacky sitcom shenanigans and it shouldn't be a big deal.
Author lacoqueta Posted February 1, 2012 Author Posted February 1, 2012 While I'm sure that can be true, the few younger doctors I've known were paying off ENORMOUS student loans and also aware that they were actually difficult to date and have relationships with because of the hours they kept. I had a hot doctor once, OP. He was my neurologist and I saw him several times, he was really charming and had a gorgeous accent and even a quirky, stylish sense of personal fashion, plus there was that whole dreamy 'he's saving my life' aspect. I crushed on him pretty hard for a few weeks there, but I ended up meeting and getting involved with a different guy who I spent 2 years with and who's still my friend, so things probably went the way they should have there. Still, I say go for it. It can't really hurt to ask, right? You only get one life, live it fully...it could be an exciting fling, it could be a beautiful love...or you might get a little bump on your ego and a week of disappointed feelings if he says no. Big deal. Still, I think I might actually take my friend up on her offer of checking to see if he's married, first. It's not like she's going there under false pretenses if she actually needs to see a doctor. Just don't let her start any wacky sitcom shenanigans and it shouldn't be a big deal. Thanks for the replies! I know part of what makes them "hard to date" is their crazy work hours, but that's something that appeals to me. I like a lot of space and am very busy with my career and grad classes. On top of that I help run my parent's business. I like my stressful, busy life and if I were with someone that has all the time in the world and wants to be up my butt 24/7, this would be an issue for them. When I used to run my parent's business full time, my crazy work hours drove my bf at the time crazy. It caused us to fight a lot and it bothered me that he couldn't support what I did. So in a way, I understand the work hours involved. My friend is definitely going to see him for her issue and wants me to tag along. I might go just to feel him out, see if he remembers me, and of course find out if he's married. After that, if I get a good vibe, I will get my number to him. I'm not worried about getting my ego bruised. More worried about coming off like a weirdo. I'd rather have my ego bruised than never knowing "what could have been". Her appt isn't going to be for a while, so who knows what will happen from here till then.
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