Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 Legitimately tried to fix? That's pure comedy right there!!! Sending uninvited FB friend requests or "How've you been?" emails does NOT equal efforts to repay a BETRAYAL OF CONFIDENCE. You have NO CLUE how to rebuilt lost trust. Not a clue. 100% correct. I honestly had and still have no idea how I could have fixed it. And I even asked you long ago how I could even begin to fix it, and I never got a straight answer. Or even a crooked answer. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I don't know. I tend not to want the entire forum involved in my private relations. Every time I've ever tried to settle a private issue in public, I came away from it feeling the same freaked-out kind of shame you get when you dream about showing up to the office naked. I feel it worse when I think I have the upper hand on someone. There's a fine line between winning an argument and going over the top and trying to dominate someone outright. It's at that point you lose no matter how well you think you fought the battle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 No, just what you thought about me; which seems to be congruent with your express opinions in this thread. You quoted Johan who was talking about me "outing" you (your texts vs. this thread), and you said that yes, I had shared those thoughts with you in private. I had not. That said, you are correct that everything I say to you in private matches what I say to you here. I am consistent. I am not two-faced. You, on the other hand, are two completely different people. Between the betrayal and your constant and complete flip flopping, I just cannot trust you. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Anyone else here get it? I get it. I know why this happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I don't know. I tend not to want the entire forum involved in my private relations. And here I thought this thread was supposed to be about being funny... Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I get it. I know why this happens. Could you please fill me in...? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm not so sure about this one...because you sure do go to great lengths, in this thread and many others, to constantly remind everyone of what you are and what you aren't under the guise of "not caring." I run around from thread to thread saying I don't care whether anyone thinks I'm insecure? Can you site to this, because I really don't think I've done that. Those things you're grasping at? They're called straws. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 And here I thought this thread was supposed to be about being funny... For a thread about humor being the key, there hasn't been any here in the while. But it's entertaining nonetheless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I run around from thread to thread saying I don't care whether anyone thinks I'm insecure? Can you site to this, because I really don't think I've done that. Yes. I'm going to the gym in a little bit, but upon my triumphant return, I will compile a list of citations per your request. But of course, only if it will please you. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Could you please fill me in...? Are you that clueless? You hurt me. You betrayed me. You mock that betrayal and act like it was some little thing, but it was huge to me. You took away something that was very special and important to me when you did that. And you NEVER tried to fix it. EVER. Instead, you tried to act like everything was normal. And it was only the tip of the iceberg. You'd reach out in these sweet ways to me in private, and have me on the verge of trusting you again, only to have you publicly pull a 180 in some way or another. I expected so much more from you as a friend and a human being. And so now, I'm angry. I'm angry because I was wrong. I was wrong about who you are and what you're capable of, and I don't like being wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 No. That's not it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 You hurt me. You betrayed me. You mock that betrayal and act like it was some little thing, but it was huge to me. You took away something that was very special and important to me when you did that. It is actually quite upsetting that you'd think that it wasn't just as special and important to me. But you will only believe what you want to believe. And you NEVER tried to fix it. EVER. Instead, you tried to act like everything was normal. I didn't "try" because I didn't know how. Nothing I did was ever right. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Arg I can't stand it! Did Hokie sacrifice Gazers first born son?! (There's that humor ) Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 It is actually quite upsetting that you'd think that it wasn't just as special and important to me. But you will only believe what you want to believe. I didn't "try" because I didn't know how. Nothing I did was ever right. If it was special and important to you, you would have at least tried. You didn't even try. You did nothing. I had trusted you to my core, and you couldn't even be bothered to try. Instead, you just kept giving me reason after reason not to trust you. It was like being slapped in the face over and over again. So yeah, I'm angry. As much with myself ("fool me twice") as with you. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 If it was special and important to you, you would have at least tried. You didn't even try. You did nothing. I had trusted you to my core, and you couldn't even be bothered to try. Instead, you just kept giving me reason after reason not to trust you. It was like being slapped in the face over and over again. So yeah, I'm angry. As much with myself ("fool me twice") as with you. Why get on here and give him such a hard time when its obvious to me and others you still have feelings for him? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Why get on here and give him such a hard time when its obvious to me and others you still have feelings for him? Depends on your definition of feelings. My feelings are not romantic in nature, if that's what you're suggesting. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Depends on your definition of feelings. My feelings are not romantic in nature, if that's what you're suggesting. Come on you wouldn't be up here giving this guy sh*t it they weren't. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Come on you wouldn't be up here giving this guy sh*t it they weren't. *shrug* I give tons of people sh*t that I don't have ANY feelings one way or another for. Stick around long enough, and you might be one of them! I don't have anything to prove; I don't have romantic feelings towards him. Haven't in a long, long time. I won't be posting anymore in this thread. You guys can have your field day, enjoy it! Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Why get on here and give him such a hard time when its obvious to me and others you still have feelings for him? Damn ... people actually hook up from LS? Maybe I shouldn't have been such a condescending d@uchebag... Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Damn ... people actually hook up from LS? Maybe I shouldn't have been such a condescending d@uchebag... Happens quite often. Most of the time it ends in people fighting and awkwardness for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Yeah somebody ends up in tears and pregnant. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 (edited) Still, there's more mature ways of handling things than how Star Gazer did. I lost a lot of respect for her actually. TMI. Cripes workplace romances end with less drama than this. And she trusted some guy "to her core" when there wasn't much reason to? Please. Bad judgment. Edited January 31, 2012 by Imajerk17 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm still trying to figure out what Hokie did to "hurt her so badly and betray her trust." Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm still trying to figure out what Hokie did to "hurt her so badly and betray her trust." Yenta ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 wow. did u guys date in real life? Back when we used to interact, on here, u guys were always lovey towards each other haha... By the way, I have changed; I am almost 130 lbs now, and I now know that working out and being fit is much mroe attractive than being thin alone.... So ya, u were right about something:) Hop eyour cross fit is going well!!!! I am loooking to get into it, or somthing similar:) Link to post Share on other sites
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