veggirl Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is important. it's a fabulous ice breaker. It helps people feel comfortable around you. Humor goes a long way, esp at the beginning.
tman666 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. Duddeee, come on... Does this kind of thing really need to be aired on a public forum? If you consider Hokie a friend, public embarrassment isn't going to help his situation in any way, shape or form...
Dust Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Duddeee, come on... Does this kind of thing really need to be aired on a public forum? If you consider Hokie a friend, public embarrassment isn't going to help his situation in any way, shape or form... Unlike you I come here for entertainment. Please don't try to stop one of my favorites from entertaining me!
tman666 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Unlike you I come here for entertainment. Please don't try to stop one of my favorites from entertaining me! Hahaha don't worry, I'm sure my post will affect your entertainment very minimally or not at all. Just callin' 'em like I see 'em.
Ross MwcFan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is insanely important, but it doesn't overcome other necessary qualities. What is quite humorous is thinking for even a second that anything that happened with any woman during a weekend in VEGAS is something you can actually learn relationship skills from. What happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas. Except STDs and pregnancy. It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. Why are you always so mean to him? He seems like a genuinley nice guy to me.
razz90 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Humour is SUPER important to me, definitely up there with physical attractiveness. I often find that if an average looking guy has an amazing sense of humour I get more attracted to him. And if a really hot guy can't make me laugh, I just don't feel comfortable.
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Duddeee, come on... Does this kind of thing really need to be aired on a public forum? If you consider Hokie a friend, public embarrassment isn't going to help his situation in any way, shape or form... He already publicly admitted on LS that he has unresolved feelings and was sending me texts from Vegas. My post isn't news. He already announced it himself.
tman666 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 He already publicly admitted on LS that he has unresolved feelings and was sending me texts from Vegas. My post isn't news. He already announced it himself. Ahhh I was not aware of this... My bad.
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 Are you PUA... how did you come across this great secret that women like a witty fool? No, absolutely not. I am probably the polar opposite of the acclaimed PUA... Anyway, long story short, I went out with one of the guys in the group the other night. He is the epitome of the good looking, smooth talking player. I tagged along because everyone else was at a concert for the night. At the beginning of the night, he sees this very attractive girl who he is interested in, and she is with a friend. I play the loyal wingman. I am never the center of attention, and in situations like this, more often than not, I end up playing 4th wheel as both girls give all their attention to my friend...anyway, we spend a few hours with them hopping around between clubs and casinos...and I'm just myself, injecting my brand of humor at just the right times...and they were laughing and having a good time...and by the end of the night, it was fairly obvious that both girls were more interested in me than him... I somehow got most of the attention, and for the first time, my friend ended up as 4th wheel...and even he knew what had happened when we talked the morning after...it was eye-opening...
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Ahhh I was not aware of this... My bad. No worries. I don't think anyone other than Dust follows the details and intricacies of our history enough to ever really understand the dynamics. Just know that there's always a justified reason for why I respond to him the way I do, and if you or anyone else ever chooses to stick around and watch a discussion evolve, Hokie himself will admit the reason I'm...annoyed.
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is a double edged sword. Its good to inject some humor in a conversation to lighten it up but you have to understand the line between being entertaining and being the entertainer. Its the entertainer that get delegated to the friend zone This is absolutely true, and I sometimes feel like women see me as more of an entetainer or a clown than a guy they'd want to date...not because I'm trying to be the goofy center of attention, but because I'm just that damn funny that they cent stop laughing...
cerridwen Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 No, absolutely not. I am probably the polar opposite of the acclaimed PUA... Anyway, long story short, I went out with one of the guys in the group the other night. He is the epitome of the good looking, smooth talking player. I tagged along because everyone else was at a concert for the night. At the beginning of the night, he sees this very attractive girl who he is interested in, and she is with a friend. I play the loyal wingman. I am never the center of attention, and in situations like this, more often than not, I end up playing 4th wheel as both girls give all their attention to my friend...anyway, we spend a few hours with them hopping around between clubs and casinos...and I'm just myself, injecting my brand of humor at just the right times...and they were laughing and having a good time...and by the end of the night, it was fairly obvious that both girls were more interested in me than him... I somehow got most of the attention, and for the first time, my friend ended up as 4th wheel...and even he knew what had happened when we talked the morning after...it was eye-opening... Woohoo!! Keep it going!
jobaba Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) No, absolutely not. I am probably the polar opposite of the acclaimed PUA... Anyway, long story short, I went out with one of the guys in the group the other night. He is the epitome of the good looking, smooth talking player. I tagged along because everyone else was at a concert for the night. At the beginning of the night, he sees this very attractive girl who he is interested in, and she is with a friend. I play the loyal wingman. I am never the center of attention, and in situations like this, more often than not, I end up playing 4th wheel as both girls give all their attention to my friend...anyway, we spend a few hours with them hopping around between clubs and casinos...and I'm just myself, injecting my brand of humor at just the right times...and they were laughing and having a good time...and by the end of the night, it was fairly obvious that both girls were more interested in me than him... I somehow got most of the attention, and for the first time, my friend ended up as 4th wheel...and even he knew what had happened when we talked the morning after...it was eye-opening... You may have the late bloomer syndrome going on, knowing nothing about you or your age... My best bud had one or two girlfriends by his early 20s but wasn't that great with women. Once he got a little more confidence (and humor is a big part of confidence), he played the field and racked in women like poker chips throughout his mid to late 20s. Of course, he was always good looking. Girls always thought so. He always had the baseline physical attractiveness, he just needed to exploit it. I also know a few guys who revved up their confidence and social skills, spiffied up their wardrobes, hit the town three to four nights a week for long periods and FAILED MISERABLY. As in, never got one woman in the bar/party/social networking scene before they decided to give up. They were just not as good looking as my bud. So it's a lot about your baseline attractiveness. Maybe you're a diamond in the rough! Edited January 30, 2012 by jobaba
somedude81 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 So it's a lot about your baseline attractiveness. Maybe you're a diamond in the rough! Hokie never struck me as the guy who did poorly with women. And here he puts in a little effort and that happens. Yeah...
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Hokie never struck me as the guy who did poorly with women. He doesn't do well though. It's pretty easy to appear confident on LS. How it all shakes out when actually interacting with a member of the opposite sex is really something quite different.
somedude81 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 There are several levels Player Doing well Average Get's lucky once a while Quasimodo Considering how this forum seems to be full of hunchbacks, Hokie seemed average. Which isn't a bad thing at all.
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 You may have the late bloomer syndrome going on, knowing nothing about you or your age... I didn't start dating or getting anything in the way of female attention until I was in my mid-20's. I'm 28 now. My middle and high school years were filled with girls rolling their eyes when they found out I liked them. The result was that I avoided women during college and most of law school.
jobaba Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 He doesn't do well though. It's pretty easy to appear confident on LS. How it all shakes out when actually interacting with a member of the opposite sex is really something quite different. There are several levels Player Doing well Average Get's lucky once a while Quasimodo Considering how this forum seems to be full of hunchbacks, Hokie seemed average. Which isn't a bad thing at all. Exactly. Define doing well. Everybody has a maximum potential based on what they have to work with physically. You cannot go from Quasimodo (sp) to Player. It is just impossible. I'd currently place myself squarely in 'Gets Lucky Once In A While'. And I'm pretty happy with that. This is a good idea for an offshoot thread. I didn't start dating or getting anything in the way of female attention until I was in my mid-20's. I'm 28 now. My middle and high school years were filled with girls rolling their eyes when they found out I liked them. The result was that I avoided women during college and most of law school. Sounds similar to me, although I did have a GF in college. You sound like you're just hitting your peak, so roll with it and go balls out dude!
PJKino Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Thee needs to be some attraction to begin with otherwise youll just enter the friend zone
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 Thee needs to be some attraction to begin with otherwise youll just enter the friend zone Of course, but you always hear about otherwise unremarkable looking guys with quality women because they had "good personalities" or were funny...can it really be true...?
PJKino Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Of course, but you always hear about otherwise unremarkable looking guys with quality women because they had "good personalities" or were funny...can it really be true...? Possible though 99% of couples are pretty evenly matched in terms of looks My friend who is hysterical and not obese but a little overweight was just known as the jolly fat guy the girls we hung out with loved to hang out with him but didnt want to f him because of his humor
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Of course, but you always hear about otherwise unremarkable looking guys with quality women because they had "good personalities" or were funny...can it really be true...? Yes, as is the reverse, that good looking guys can't get quality women because of their personalities. You're good looking. Your appearance is thus not the reason why you struggle.
jobaba Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Of course, but you always hear about otherwise unremarkable looking guys with quality women because they had "good personalities" or were funny...can it really be true...? Yea. That can happen. I have a friend who married a girl who is an example of that. He had to wear her down over years. But a girl in Las Vegas doesn't jump your bones because you told a good joke. You had the baseline to begin with...
jobaba Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 You're good looking. Your appearance is thus not the reason why you struggle. Struggle? Did he not just score two chicks without a million dollars? Two chicks man...
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