monkey00 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Since getting back into dating a couple months ago I've noticed a lot of women prefer to text or respond via text with a guy when setting up dates or making small talk. Even with my ex we would text or email all the time mostly to communicate. I find myself getting sucked into this and pretty much texting girls and not feeling like calling them. Traditionally I've always been a call to make date kind of guy but I just have to roll with the times. Does anyone else feel the same way? While it's easier and faster to talk and make plans (which seems quite intrusive these days), the convenience factor of text is preferred.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Meh. I don't care for texting. I tell women that straight out. If you don't like texting then just tell women and I'm sure most of them will be cool with phone convos.
oaks Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I'm sure that texting has changed the landscape of dating compared with, say, 1994, but it's hardly a new phenomenon any more.
Dust Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Txtings really good for talking to multiple girls at once haha
Pyro Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 when it comes to dating I feel that it shows a lack of confidence if you choose to communicate primarily through text messaging. Establish basic communication with the person before you start texting.
reptilelover88 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I agree that it is easy to fall into the pattern of constant texting but I think it's best to try not to. In my opinion, texts should be limited to short factual messages such as 'please pick up some milk on your way home' or perhaps the occasional sweet 'thinking of you xx'. They're too insubstantial and easily misinterpreted to be used for anything more complicated than that. When a guy (or a friend, for that matter) texts me a lot instead of calling or arranging to meet up in person, I feel short-changed. I don't want 100-character crumbs; I want to hear his voice and have a proper, grown-up conversation with him! My ex communicated almost exclusively by text and it left me feeling, rightly or wrongly, like I got very little from him emotionally. Men (and women too for that matter), if you like someone, pick up the phone and let them hear your voice.
veggirl Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I don't have a problem with texting in general, BUT it's RIDICULOUS how many 20somethings and teens nowadays say they are TOO SHY TO TALK ON THE PHONE. So we must text. No one I knew when I was growing up before there were cells and texting was too shy to talk on the phone. Even the legitimately shy people!! I'm 28, it kills me when I hear people MY AGE claim they are too shy to talk on the phone. Or they say, I'm not good on the phone. I'm better texting. That I find pathetic! The problem with texting during dating is it makes people TOO AVAILABLE. You don't have to call and leave a message, you can be in constant contact. I think a lot of relationships burn BRIGHT and fizzle FAST in part due to texting and the the ability to "connect" via a very impersonal medium.
turt Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I think text conversations are annoying. It's alright for quick messages but it's just an annoyance when you have to keep checking your phone...
Author monkey00 Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 I don't have a problem with texting in general, BUT it's RIDICULOUS how many 20somethings and teens nowadays say they are TOO SHY TO TALK ON THE PHONE. So we must text. I've never heard of 20's something say that but I have heard about the teens part. Social networking, short attention span, and quick gratification of smartphones are hurting that generation's communication skills (and probably other generations before/after. No one I knew when I was growing up before there were cells and texting was too shy to talk on the phone. Even the legitimately shy people!! I'm 28, it kills me when I hear people MY AGE claim they are too shy to talk on the phone. Or they say, I'm not good on the phone. I'm better texting. That I find pathetic! The problem with texting during dating is it makes people TOO AVAILABLE. You don't have to call and leave a message, you can be in constant contact. I think a lot of relationships burn BRIGHT and fizzle FAST in part due to texting and the the ability to "connect" via a very impersonal medium. While I find the phone has good purpose in setting up dates in the beginning and not using it to talk hours on end before a date, you do make a good point about fizzling. It's easy to reject someone over text, and it's too easy to make a date also without putting much effort in making a small conversation via phone call. The instant gratification and convenience is there, but when it comes to building a connection/bond it is weak in that department. I've been seeing someone lately and we only text when we want to hangout, it's okay by me because it's casual. But if it were something more serious I would probably avoid texting. Texting is what friends do with each other, but relationships are kind of a gray area for it.
phineas Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 Meh. I don't care for texting. I tell women that straight out. If you don't like texting then just tell women and I'm sure most of them will be cool with phone convos. THIS! I've learned to tell women this right from the start. It's annoying & my fat fingers don't like the tiny buttons. Also, more often than not i've wound up FZ'd because I txt'd someone too much when I should of been face to face with them. with OLD i'm kinda stuck e-mailing but it's a full sized keyboard & not as annoying or in your face so I can take a day to respond if I want to.
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