xpaperxcutx Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I'm normally not terrible at reading people but my gaydar is tingling. He admits to being a real man- liking sports and whatnot but I recently found put he watches romcom l 500 Days of Summer. He has an affection for David Bowie, even commenting Nick from the Jo Bros was goodlooking. He texts with exclamations and smiley faces ALOT using vocabs like OMG and smooches. We have literally became text buddies and he has no problem asking me abot my day. He doesn't ask me on a date, he asks me to hang out. Honestly is he gay?
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Why not throw some sexting his way... see what his response is
johan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 If you need a control case, sext me. I'll show you how a straight guy responds.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 He also told me one of his favorite movies is Edward Scissorhands. @johan if you were still a green robot i'd sext you until you short circuit.
johan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I might call your bluff and put my avatar back.
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I'm normally not terrible at reading people but my gaydar is tingling. He admits to being a real man- liking sports and whatnot but I recently found put he watches romcom l 500 Days of Summer. He has an affection for David Bowie, even commenting Nick from the Jo Bros was goodlooking. He texts with exclamations and smiley faces ALOT using vocabs like OMG and smooches. We have literally became text buddies and he has no problem asking me abot my day. He doesn't ask me on a date, he asks me to hang out. Honestly is he gay? Tons of guys I know watch romcoms like 500 Days, and like Bowie. Why would such things make a guy gay? I mean, if he performed acts from West Side Story or Chicago or Rent for fun in the middle of his living room walked with a swish and was overly affectionate with men, THEN I'd wonder... but from the things you've mentioned? Nah.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 Why not throw some sexting his way... see what his response is Because he. Will deliberately change the topic. Never met a guy who responds to me saying something flirtatiously with " lol... so what ru up to now?"
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 Tons of guys I know watch romcoms like 500 Days, and like Bowie. Why would such things make a guy gay? I mean, if he performed acts from West Side Story or Chicago or Rent for fun in the middle of his living room walked with a swish and was overly affectionate with men, THEN I'd wonder... but from the things you've mentioned? Nah. He sounded like a girl when we first talked on the phone. He has a really soft voice. He likes to play things safe... All I'm getting from him is this really strong feminine vibe. And one thng about him likijg david bowie was the fact he got overly excited when I told him I liked bowie too ( remember bowie was supposedly bi?)
turt Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Did he grow up with female siblings? I don't think the texting thing is going prove either way.
kaylan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) I'm normally not terrible at reading people but my gaydar is tingling. He admits to being a real man- liking sports and whatnot but I recently found put he watches romcom l 500 Days of Summer. He has an affection for David Bowie, even commenting Nick from the Jo Bros was goodlooking. He texts with exclamations and smiley faces ALOT using vocabs like OMG and smooches. We have literally became text buddies and he has no problem asking me abot my day. He doesn't ask me on a date, he asks me to hang out. Honestly is he gay? Wow...way to pigeonhold people cutz. I hate how some women obsess over little things guys do and wonder if they are guy. And then society complains when dudes overcompensate to show their masculinity and that usually comes off as being homophobic. 1. 500 Days of Summer is like a guys rom com. Most guys can relate to that movie, because its realistic and its about getting really hurt in love despite giving your all to a chick. I really loved the movie for its realistic view of relationships. And one of my fave movies in When Harry Met Sally. Its less realistic, but a feel good movie. A lot of guys out there dig certain romantics films, and its a shame some are afraid to admit it because some folks still see romcoms as "girl movies" 2. David Bowie is a good musician. I mean, not for nothing, I had some serious fandom going on for Davey Havok of AFI back when I was in high school. I idolized the dude because I wanted to be like him and rock out and stuff. Guys get man crushes, but its an admiration thing. They want to be the person they admire. The guy commented on the Jo Bros is no big deal. Why cant guys be honest and say when someone is good looking? Its not like he called them cute or hot. If someones a good looking cat, ill be honest and say so. 3. The texting is just goofy....dont see the big deal. Many society seems to really have pummeled into your head a lot of silly things that apparently men cannot do. None of these things are big deals. The guy could just be joking off and trying to be dramatic with his texts for humor. And guys ask to hang out instead of actually say date, because they want to take the pressure off the whole male-female dynamic. Hes feeling you out and getting to know you as a friend first. P.S. - I wouldnt date him if I were you. Only because I dont see it working out. I have seen some of your previous threads and you seem like the kinda girl who would stay fixated on this. Plus, anytime I have seen threads regarding this issue, or heard women talk about it....it seems to ultimately not work out because of the womans insecurities. She obsesses over it and already makes up her mind that hes not manly enough for her despite enjoying time with him. If you think you might not be able to let those thoughts go, let him find a girl whos ok with him not only having stereotypical macho man interests. Thats easy to find in NYC. I dealt with this myself when I was younger and in the punk scene. Girls who werent in the scene didnt understand my dress style or interested. They assume the nail polish, eyeliner and fitted pants meant I was a gay. They would want to hang out or hook up, but would still be annoying about my interests. Girls in the scene of course had no issue with me. Edited January 30, 2012 by kaylan
ptp Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 straight guy here, I don't know if this dude is gay, but i have never seen 500 days of summer, don't know who Nick from Jo bros is and I don't like David Bowie. Why don't you just tell him that you like him and want to go out on a date with him? What is the worst that could happen?
kaylan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) Because he. Will deliberately change the topic. Never met a guy who responds to me saying something flirtatiously with " lol... so what ru up to now?" Lmao...its possible he only sees you as a friend. Just because a guy likes to talk to you, but doesnt make a move, doesnt make him gay. Then again Ive met a few girls who called me gay because they were butt hurt when I turned them down lol. It could also possibly be that hes not comfortable flirting with you yet and diffuses the situation with lolz...Ive been known to do that...but then again...only if Im not feeling the chick haha. He sounded like a girl when we first talked on the phone. He has a really soft voice. He likes to play things safe... All I'm getting from him is this really strong feminine vibe. And one thng about him likijg david bowie was the fact he got overly excited when I told him I liked bowie too ( remember bowie was supposedly bi?) I lol'd at femme voice. I wont lie...femme voices make me wonder about some dudes, the same way deeper voices make me wonder about a chick. But ive learned you can never really be sure. And did he get giddy excited for Bowie? Like "omg I totally love Bowie lolz"? Like right now John Mayer is my favorite artist...and also My Chemical Romance...and if a girl says she likes them ill excitedly respond "oh ****...werd...theyre awesome...big musical influences of mine..I freaking love their music" Edited January 30, 2012 by kaylan
USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 A woman once asked me if I was gay because I don't have hair on my arms. Let the inquisition begin.
johan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) Why don't you have hair on your arms? And don't tell me it's because you Asians don't really grow it. I'm not buying that. Next you'll say you don't have much hair on your legs either. I always liked David Bowie, by the way. Edited January 30, 2012 by johan
monkey00 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I have a friend who's into Rom Coms, David Bowie, and dressing up for parties/events. A lot of my friends, other people including me have wondered if he's gay waiting to come out. Apparently he's just straight but very extremely passive with women and will never ask them out or make a move, but he will ask to hangout. OP, are you into him and annoyed he's not asking you out? Maybe you can ask him out on a date or something?
Titania22 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) This thread reminds me of the katy perry song. Edited January 30, 2012 by Titania22 spelling mistake
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 You should give him a cucumber and see what he does with it. But really, I do love Edward Scissor hands and David Bowie, so If that makes you gay...color me rainbow!! hey hey heeeey!
gaius Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) Sounds gay to me, when I'm single I enjoy flirting with girls even if they aren't my type. Edited January 30, 2012 by gaius
kaylan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 ^What? So if a guy doesn't flirt back with every girl who flirts with him, it means hes gay?
betterdeal Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Being effeminate or camp doesn't mean someone is gay. Only being sexually attracted to other men does. There are butch gay men just as there are effeminate straight men.
gaius Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 ^What? So if a guy doesn't flirt back with every girl who flirts with him, it means hes gay? No, but papercut isn't unattractive and mixed with the fact he gives off a strong feminine vibe I'd say it's a pretty strong case. I don't think his music tastes or mentioning Jonas being attractive matters much, I mentioned Ross was attractive the other day.
kaylan Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 (edited) No, but papercut isn't unattractive and mixed with the fact he gives off a strong feminine vibe I'd say it's a pretty strong case. I don't think his music tastes or mentioning Jonas being attractive matters much, I mentioned Ross was attractive the other day. It is possible that he just isnt into her in that way, attraction or not. I have been attracted to certain chicks and refrained from acting on it for a number of reasons. And for a second I thought you meant Ross from "Friends" lol.Being effeminate or camp doesn't mean someone is gay. Only being sexually attracted to other men does. There are butch gay men just as there are effeminate straight men. I have to agree with this. An ex co worker of mine was gay, and when I met his boyfriend one day when he visited. I had no idea it was his boyfriend at first until he hugged him goodbye and called him sweety. His bf looks like your typical suburban American Eagle guy. Hes masculine, has a deep voice, and looks like he could kick a lot of people's asses. I was really surprised. Also there was this butch looking chick from the basketball team at my school who was about 5'10 with a less girly voice, and was slightly built. She always dressed like a tomboy as well, then one day I saw her dressed girly to the 9s at the bar. She was grinding this dude hardcore, and one of my friends who knows her mentioned she was straight. So again, sometimes you cant tell with people. Whats bothersome about this is that the one hot girl on the freaking rugby team of course was lesbian. Practically all the the ruggers were bisexual or lesbian. Only a few were straight...and its a damn shame she wasnt. She reminded me of Xena....damn I wanted her. Edited January 30, 2012 by kaylan
LexiB Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I'm normally not terrible at reading people but my gaydar is tingling. He admits to being a real man- liking sports and whatnot but I recently found put he watches romcom l 500 Days of Summer. He has an affection for David Bowie, even commenting Nick from the Jo Bros was goodlooking. He texts with exclamations and smiley faces ALOT using vocabs like OMG and smooches. We have literally became text buddies and he has no problem asking me abot my day. He doesn't ask me on a date, he asks me to hang out. Honestly is he gay? What you've described is a straight dude with slightly feminen tendencies who's also not interested in you. Mystery solved, unless you have more to go on.
Anela Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 500 Days of Summer, seemed to be a favourite with a lot of men after it came out.
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