El Brujo Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Some people will say I'm burning my bridges, but I prefer to think of it as sticking up for myself... Two days ago, I logged onto my Meetup.com account and left all the dating and singles groups which haven't worked for me (or won't work for me). A day later, I get a pleading e-mail from one of the hosts whose group I left, offering me a FREE invitation to one of his speed dating parties, WHICH I POLITELY DECLINED, despite his insistence that his events are "full for women" and need more men (apparently the strike is working, ha ha). I told him what I learned a couple of years ago: speed dating is not for those of us who know what we like. That's why I started a singles meetup group of my own. If anyone loses out in this scenario, it's the women who sign up for those speed dating events... they don't want to take the initiative and hit on men, so they'll end up getting hit on by jerks instead. Poor devils...
phineas Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 I'm an acquired taste. LOL! Speed dating is not for me.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Haven't seen El Brujo in a bit. What is so bad about speed dating? I was actually thinking about trying it cuz folks said there are more women than men who show up.
Star Gazer Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 They used to do speed dating at the Coffee Bean next to the Walgreens on "Big" Santa Monica Boulevard and Beverly Glen in LA. I used to go to that Walgreens all the time, and one day I saw a bevy of young, nicely dressed, attractive men going into that Coffee Bean, and learned why they were there. I peaked in, and it was like 75% men. I peaked in every week, and saw the same thing - way more men than women. Where I am now in NorCal, my girlfriends have gone to a couple events, and found them to be sword matches as well. In other words, this Meetup dude must be really struggling, because these events are typically overpopulated with men.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 because these events are typically overpopulated with men. I've been hearing the opposite about speed dating. I've read several articles and posts on the internet that say it's either overpopulated with women or evenly matched. Only on occasion did I hear men are overpopulating the events. It's the same thing I hear with these cougar cruises too. More women than men.
jerbear Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 I've been to speed dating and it was interesting. My experiences, it was mixed, sometimes it was a sausagefest and another time it was ok. Ok as in the women to men mix was 2-1 but the women were older, single moms, and not a match for me. Another time when I didn't care, I went to help fund raise for a non-profit; needless to say the women were eyeing the bar tender while guys were trying. I found out two women "liked" me while I didn't care and was there to support the non-profit.
Star Gazer Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 I've been hearing the opposite about speed dating. I've read several articles and posts on the internet that say it's either overpopulated with women or evenly matched. Only on occasion did I hear men are overpopulating the events. It's the same thing I hear with these cougar cruises too. More women than men. I can only share my experience. My girlfriends were also comped, whereas the men I know paid. That's fairly typical of many dating services.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Speed dating to me is like starting from one end of the bar and working your way down...except instead of a bar where the light is dim and the women might look half-decent and not so run down you can see them in all their glory and boring conversation...and then on top of it you get to be judged? blasphemy! But really, I'm sure decent people try it or just even being adventurous however I'm just not that daring I guess...I'm not going to go so far as to say I have such an acquired taste that I can't possibly meet someone where and when I'm intending to...however I am pretty picky and already have a bad taste in my mouth just from the random generator type feel of it and what kind of people would be most attracted to them (desperate types, whores, awkward). But maybe I'm being too judgmental having never tried it, I suppose with the right influence I'd go just to try it since It's not hard for me to be sociable, one on one especially and It wouldn't make me feel less confident about myself.
spiderowl Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 I haven't tried speed dating but who knows where you might bump into the one that appeals to you. I should think most speed dating events are only successful for some who happen to meet someone who appeals, but that doesn't mean that they aren't a further opportunity. You've found they don't work for you, which is fine. It's great that you are taking this further by providing your own creative solution.
Author El Brujo Posted February 1, 2012 Author Posted February 1, 2012 Haven't seen El Brujo in a bit. I do other things besides hang out on the web... I do after all have a life, boring and uneventful though it is... What is so bad about speed dating? It's so random, so hit-or-miss... people who have the "any old cow/bull" mentality won't understand what's wrong with that, but as for me the only thing worse than a shot in the dark is ending up with some woman trying to drop-tackle me when I don't feel any attraction to her. I've been hearing the opposite about speed dating. I've read several articles and posts on the internet that say it's either overpopulated with women or evenly matched. Only on occasion did I hear men are overpopulating the events. That occasion must be here in Los Angeles. IIt's the same thing I hear with these cougar cruises too. More women than men. Definition of a cougar: a woman who once was a roaster but who farted and f***ed around playing HTG until she ended up not gotten, and now is unwanted and avoided by eligible men. It's great that you are taking this further by providing your own creative solution. The people who have been joining the group seem to think so. I hear just about all of them say the bar/club/alcohol scene doesn't work for them... it's almost like they're coming out of the closet! Funny, I was taught that only failures/losers/sadsacks/people who couldn't cut the mustard didn't go to bars because they were namby-pambies who couldn't hang. It must be pretty taxing to maintain the illusion... I have a sneaking suspicion that there's some guy running around out there who looks and talks like Jeff Spicoli from Fast Times At Ridgemont High... he has been telling everyone that promiscuity and boozing are cooool, duuuuude!
thatone Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I can only share my experience. My girlfriends were also comped, whereas the men I know paid. That's fairly typical of many dating services. yeah, which is why no self respecting man would do such a thing, honestly.
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