Co worker in R, but still hits on others

[Sugarkane]

Why do people do this? One of my co workers says I should go out with this guy. He always says complete BS. He's been engaged for years, but always says he's having trouble with his SO. But actions speak louder than words! He is still with this woman YEARS later. And he always hits on people and gives them false hope. I think this guy has a massive ego!

[Ninjainpajamas]

He's always having "trouble" with his SO because that's what makes him appear "available" when he's really not. Some women think that "Oh If he's having trouble maybe he'll leave her and be with me" which is a joke, but c'mon who uses their head in romance!

 

You see the other side of the story here from the woman's perspective, they know somethings awry but they're just "confused" and can't let him go, so they're stuck in a relationship with this guy.

 

However this guy is busy spending his time trying to get action on the side, and doesn't want to leave his current girl because she's his backup and comfort, I'm sure he plays the whole "boyfriend/fiance" roll when he's around her.

[Sugarkane]

So true. And one of my co workers is also like him too . I overheard her nagging him once, why did he never call her back! Sad I would never do that.

[phineas]

I know guys like this.

They have the GF for his couples stuff & steady sex then he's got a rotation of ex's who he strings along for sex & keep's thinking he'll leave his "GF" for them & give them the relationship.

 

Those women in turn string men along the same way emotionally because they don't want to be alone in the time between their booty calls.

 

These guys are extremely good looking, speak with a silver tongue & in good shape.

 

 

It's all F'd up & everyone involved is F'd up also.

 

If I get even a whiff of this type of behavior from either men or women I know they get ejected from my life & have in the past.

 

I don't want or need that kind of drama in my life, thank you.