Lonelystar Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 I need to express my feelings so here I am again. I just don't know how to get over this rut anymore. I know my ex is a jerk, but I still miss him. I know that isn't healthy or right....but is it normal? I guess it is hard because we have mutal friends and I have to here about him and whenever I talk to them I think of him. It is going to be 5months since we broke up...I thought I was okay until yesterday. Is it normal to be okay for a long time and than suddenly start missing him? Thanks for the advice though. I wish you guys goodluck.
vhshowdown Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 Lonely, I know exactly what you are going thru.... It has been 3 months since me and my ex broke up. She has someone else now, but yet still calls me and stuff. Someone brought her up in a conversation yesterday, and my heart stopped for a minute or 2. But lets face it, we wouldnt have any of this, if we didnt care for them, no matter how terrible they may have been. And my ex gf had the gall to tell me that I wasnt a really bad bf, alot of it was her fault. But I went thru the lowest of low a few months ago, I am NOT going thru that again. So, we just need to give it a little more time, we will have our setbacks, but we can go thru this. And just remember that we are not alone.............
Author Lonelystar Posted June 3, 2004 Author Posted June 3, 2004 I just hate having feelings for him when he doesn't care. bleh! I saw his friends today, we ll hung out. He wasn;t there but I missed him. I just wish I could wake up and be like "who is ( insert my exs name) " ?
quyster Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I totally feel what lonely is going thru Me and my ex-gf have broken up for 3 months now. I only stop the contact for about 1.5 weeks. I was doing fine until today, I accidently saw her picture and my heart have been aching for the whole day until now. I couldn't stop thinking about her. This uncomfortable feeling is a bieatch. I know that i have to keep her off of my mine so that I could live my life again. I know that she is not any good for me to think about, but I still miss her. I'm trying hard to fight this feeling. Showdown, you are better because your ex blame herself. But my ex blamed me for how bad i was but everybody else say that I wasn't bad at all, it's her whos trying to bring up excuses to make herself looking good. Still, her excuses hurted me.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 3, 2004 Author Posted June 3, 2004 I know how you feel. I was talking to one of his friends when they mentioned him. It made my heart skip a beat. I lost all my confidence when we broke up, and some how I managed to get it back. I just wish he would go far away ( i know that sounds mean and selfish) , somewhere where I couldn't even hear about him. I guess with time though he will go far away...in the back of my head. I wonder why it is when we break up with someone the confidence goes down? I guess feeling rejection does that.
quyster Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I agree with you about confidence goes down I have always lived my life alone. I lived on my own since I was 17, without parents or any help from family. Now I'm 22. I had many girlfriends before. I am very successful with my life and career. I was always confident about myself and proud. Until I fell in love for the first time with the last one. She broke up with me after 3 yrs and now I'm the weakest link, I feel very low, like a loser. I never know how weak i am until the break up. Man, it sucks
Author Lonelystar Posted June 3, 2004 Author Posted June 3, 2004 I think it takes time to be who we were without that person. We can't blame ourseleves and just need to move on. I just wish it were that easy.
vhshowdown Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Ya I hear what both you are saying. I feel like I lost part of me when we broke up. So in March, I felt like never getting outta bed, didnt want to hang out with my friends. i was a wreck. The rejection from her was a big part of my pain. Now months past, I am getting better, my confidence is coming back, but I still have those set backs, and thinking about her again. I am not sure what the answer is to all this, cause you are right Lonely, it isnt easy to move on.... I am realizing what she really meant to me, she was my best friend, we did everything together. Now I feel so alone, it sucks!! Cause talking with her again, the thoughts of wanting her back are getting stronger and stronger, but she is playing those mind games. Acting like one minute we can work things out, but then she is gone for a week. guyster, i feel for you man.... hang in there, it will get better... And I will tell you what, even though our exes have someone else, those are rebounds, which they will not last. I am hoping by us going thru this pain NOW, when we both find someone else, it will last for us.... Hell, my ex has been with someone else since March, they have already had 2 major fights where they broke up and stuff.... hahhahahahaaha But the last one sucked, cause she came running back to me and that is when I thought we had a great chance to get back together. Well, havent heard from her now for about a week, so I assume they got back together. That is why I have got to move on, I got those feelings of no self worth again, etc.... I hate feeling like this...
Author Lonelystar Posted June 3, 2004 Author Posted June 3, 2004 I wish you both the best of luck with your exs. Sometime it is just better to let go, but I know that can be hard. I guess it just takes a long time for things to heal.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 4, 2004 Author Posted June 4, 2004 A good song to listen to is Roughdraft by Yellowcard. It is a sad song..but so nice. Just wanted to let you guys know..any other good songs?
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