colliejoanie Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 All you people on LS that honestky think you can tell people how to live their lives. All of you who talk like philosphers and yet can't socialize. I came here looking for advice about two years ago because I was new to the dating sceen.. Suddenly it's become this horrible forum where people make fun of others and debate absolutely ridiculous things just to experience themselves fighting with someone else......?????? WHY??? THIS IS NOT A PRODUCTIVE site any longer. It's become a place where blow hards can blow hard. And good luck to you all. Not that I will be missed......I was truly in this for advice......Good luck to all of you who either need advice, or just want to listen to the drama of a bunch of over stimulated people who think they're the most intelligent species on the planet.
Cracker Jack Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Aw, don't leave. I never talked to you before, but I always enjoy reading your posts. You just have to pinpoint which posts are actually worth reading here--and of course, which posters are worth responding to. There's a ton of positive posts here that are really helpful, and then there's a ton of crap. Some of the most judgmental people here are the main ones with issues. I'm sure you know which posters annoy you, so it's best that you just ignore them.
jobaba Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 All you people on LS that honestky think you can tell people how to live their lives. All of you who talk like philosphers and yet can't socialize. I came here looking for advice about two years ago because I was new to the dating sceen.. Suddenly it's become this horrible forum where people make fun of others and debate absolutely ridiculous things just to experience themselves fighting with someone else......?????? WHY??? THIS IS NOT A PRODUCTIVE site any longer. It's become a place where blow hards can blow hard. And good luck to you all. Not that I will be missed......I was truly in this for advice......Good luck to all of you who either need advice, or just want to listen to the drama of a bunch of over stimulated people who think they're the most intelligent species on the planet. That's kind of what internet forums are... If you think this one is bad, visit any one that has to do with politics or sports. Wow! Most of the regulars just come here to blow off steam. Dating advice is so subjective that no one person is ever wrong or right. But good luck. And if I was one of the blowhards you were talking about I take that back. Nah. Good luck anyway.
ptp Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 There are plenty of good posters here, you just need to filter out the noise. Spot the obvious posters who come in with a strong agenda and ignore them. You should check out the other areas besides the dating section too. They are less trafficked, but often you get better advice there. Go to the self-improvement area or maybe the off-topic area. Stop by the man cave sometime, its one of the most civil places.
Dust Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 can you atleast pm me your phone number before you leave so I can call you when I get really drunk and horny... God would I like to blow hard on you. (her words not mine)
kaylan Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Well this is an open forum OP. Everyone has their own opinion, and many different views will exist, just like in real life. What I find is that whenever someone creates a thread such as this one, it is usually because they dislike the lack of validation that posters will give OPs in a given thread. Open forums are about sharing honest viewpoints with one another, not tailoring ones response to appease other posters. Trust me, if you talked openly about numerous topics in real life, like people do in forums, youd find people would behave the same way. At least the outspoken people who wish share honestly and not censor themselves.
Anela Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Why make the above assumptions about everyone here? Sometimes it's easier to see what might be wrong, when you aren't in the thick of it. People post looking for help, and people respond as to what might be causing the problem(s). I come and go from this forum, because of all the negativity that can be found here, but at times, the interactions between others have helped something to sink into my own mind. Put the blowhards (like me, presumably, although I can socialize, I'm just not up for any rejection right now - I've been in a wobbly state for a while), on ignore, and just restrict your posts to the cool, together people like yourself. I can guarantee you, that no matter where you go to talk about dating and relationships, you will find "blowhards" trying to give good advice, because they want you to do well. If you don't like what you see here, then start your own topics. (I've mostly seen you joking around here - if someone derails your thread, then report them.)
Thieves Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 I come and go from this forum, because of all the negativity that can be found here, but at times, the interactions between others have helped something to sink into my own mind. I agree with this. Even though I haven't actually been on these forums for a long time, it's been long enough to where I can remember when I used to come on here very frequently because I genuinely liked the mostly positive vibe and the community feeling of it -- something which felt unique compared to other forums I've visited before. And even still, there are a lot of posters who give really insightful posts to others. But blatant negativity seems to creep up on a lot more threads lately, and now a lot of posters just seem to harshly attack/criticize the same posters again and again, where it's more of a game of who can sneak in the most character insults without really contributing much to the topic. I get that people come here to let steam off, but I hadn't really noticed the great amount of negativity until recently. Maybe another poster is right, and maybe it's just the "Dating" section that is mostly like this. I always try to give threads a chance before judging them, so it could just be a case of 'picking your battles'...
RecordProducer Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Don't leave, CJ. I've been here for 6 years and have created strong bonds with some great posters. We've gotten used to each other's quirks and respect each other's opinions even when we disagree, even when we criticize each other. And because of that bond, we choose our words carefully. And then ther are posters who are newer and can't fit in the traditional LS mentality, so they try to impose their own "You suck!" mentality upon everyone who disagrees with them. LS has been "filthy" in the past year or so, but by leaving, you deprive a wonderful board - temporarily defective - of a great and wise poster. Please don't be a quitter. Don't get into a discussion with the dumb people. Posts with constructive advice are valued because they are published in a thread and the fact that some idiots will attack you doesn't devalue the content of your post. You don't need anybody's vote to survive on LS. I get your frustration, but you're not alone. We all feel it. LS has changed, it doesn't have the Small-Town-Loveshack mentality anymore where everybody loved everybody. But we have to keep maintaining our lovely community despite the venomous newbies. Hopefully, some of them will go away, and some of them will fit in.
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