dragonfly999 Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 i need help with a situation that happen the other night with H.. we had sex and i really didn't want to because things haven't been all that great hear lately and sex don't make things better.. well afterwards he was all content was holding my hand and then i told him i wanted to talk and he said ok talk i was hesitant to do so but i did .. i told him the way i felt about things that i feel i can't communicate with him and feel that i have to walk on eggshells around him for fear that he will get anger with what i have to say.. i want to be with my husband but he acts like he doesn't have time for us anymore always doing other things for other people.. sometimes i feel he thinks he is doing us a favor doing things with us.. when this other person calls he jumps and does stuff no question asked but if im asking him to do something im bitching or nagging.. while we were talking that night he became very angry started raising his voice and said there i go bitching and nagging and saying it was all my fault our relationship was like this .. i dont understand were this relationship lies if we can't even communicate with another.. i feel that i can't tell him anything with him blowing his lid .. i am so tired of not having a realtionship where i can talk with someone.. sometimes im quiet because i don't want my daughter to be subjected to us arguing anymore .... i want to be together with my husband but sometimes i feel that it has to be his way or nothing and if not he gets angry.. im just want to have a better realtionship .. i want to be able to have someone i can share my feelings with not be scared of what to say for fear that he will be angry... please give me any advice.. he has never really been shown from his parents how to love and be love ... thanks for listening
The_Analyzer Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 Have you and your H been to counseling? Sounds like he might have a few things going on here. anger, control, lack of respect and communication problems. Not to mention the fact he wasn't taught or brought up in a family where there was love or respect. That makes for not being able to have the best relationship with anyone. You're right you shouldn't feel like you have to walk on eggshells either. No one should. If you all haven't been to counseling maybe you can suggest that and if you have been before it must have not helped alot. Its one thing to go to counseling but another to not stick with what has been suggested of people to try. Best of luck.
lilmoma1973 Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=darkblue][/color] thanks analyzer for the reply yes we have been to counseling and no i do not think it helped.. he is alot like his father in a lot of ways .. his father thinks that i blow all his money and that i can't be trusted in my opinion i think he is jealous of mine and my husbands relationship because he wants what he doesn't have .. you know the saying when people are trying to cause conflict it is because they aren't happy in their current one and i feel he doesn't want my husband to love noone else but him and him only .. oh yeah by the way the other person that calls all the time is his father and he jumps all the time.. he don't like us to spend anytime together at all .. thanks for the advice
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