mariss3 Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Hello, Me and this guy just started seeing each other. He texts me a few times a day and he's really sweet. The first time we met we just talked for hours and everything was great. The second time he came over and watched a movie with me and then kissed me goodnight. He's come over two other times to watch movies and we cuddled and kissed a few times. I just got out of a horrible relationship about 2 months ago and idk if that's why he's taking it slow. But sometimes I feel like he doesn;t want to be with me because he's a very blunt texter and messager. I really like him and I want to be official. It's been 4 times that we have done stuff together so I think maybe he could be wanting to see if it will work out first? I'm not sure. Opinions please )
xpaperxcutx Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 I would be gullible if I keep inviting the same guy over to my place again and again without him thinking I'm some kind of booty call. You guys need to date outside. Let's cut the cuddles and do more active things.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Well first off, two months ago you were in a horrible relationship and you're ready to jump back on the horse? ::sigh:: do women just refuse to ever want to put back the broken pieces before going into something else? you think that repairs you? I don't know how old you are but you sound pretty young, the guy comes over and kisses you a few times though and you want it to be official? I think you're getting ahead of yourself for no reason, Is there a rush for something? Anyway, I would just let it flow and see what happens...you'll find out If he really wants to be with you or not, but he's probably going to make a move to stick it in sometime soon so I wouldn't worry about it much (not that it means you'll be official). However since you have so much communication don't you think it would be a good idea to ask what he is looking for right now? maybe ask him a few questiosn here and there hmmm? Otherwise you're going to be doing things backwards, then you'll be asking us "does he wants something serious or did he just want to have sex?" on your next journal entry. And for the record, any guy can be nice and sweet in the beginning If he really wants to, the fact that he's blunt though is a sign he can probably be crude and insensitive so watch out for that.
Author mariss3 Posted January 28, 2012 Author Posted January 28, 2012 My ex treated me poorly and left me for someone else he had just met after almost 3 years. I wasn't looking for a relationship but this guy came around and has been making me feel more confident and happy. I don't necessarily want something serious but I'm not a so called booty call for him because he knows my views on sex and respects them. I want to be with him because he is a great guy. Thank you for the advice though. Sometimes it's just hard to read people but you gave good advice. Thanks
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 I would be gullible if I keep inviting the same guy over to my place again and again without him thinking I'm some kind of booty call. You guys need to date outside. Let's cut the cuddles and do more active things. Yep. I find myself repeating this a lot: if he were really interested in you as LTR potential, he'd be asking you out on dates, not lounging on your couch watching movies. Suggest an actual date and see what his reaction is, and guage his interest from there.
thehead Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Hello, Me and this guy just started seeing each other. He texts me a few times a day and he's really sweet. The first time we met we just talked for hours and everything was great. The second time he came over and watched a movie with me and then kissed me goodnight. He's come over two other times to watch movies and we cuddled and kissed a few times. I just got out of a horrible relationship about 2 months ago and idk if that's why he's taking it slow. But sometimes I feel like he doesn;t want to be with me because he's a very blunt texter and messager. I really like him and I want to be official. It's been 4 times that we have done stuff together so I think maybe he could be wanting to see if it will work out first? I'm not sure. Opinions please ) Official after 4 dates is a lot to ask when its been more "hanging out" watching movies than actual dates. I'm assuming you're a teenager. As a teen dude I wouldn't have wanted something so serious so fast. Especially if there's a good chance I'm the Rebound Guy. Why are you so eager to jump into another relationship?
Dust Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Time will tell. Don't let every ones negativity get you down. If you find a girl you like down to just cuddle on the couch and watch movies thats a special thing. I think he may want a relationship he may not. You could bring the subject up. I always tell guys to do it cause I know how shy you girls are. You could atleast try to get him rolling?
turt Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Maybe he's trying to get to know you. I don't think it's possible to get to know someone well enough to be "official" after 4 dates! Like already mentioned, ask him if you want to know. Also, don't take the texts as an indication of how the person will treat you. Some people like to get to the point.
Cypress25 Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 Go out on an actual date with him. You can't get to know someone by watching movies in silence.
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