FaithInTheDark Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 On new years I hooked up with a guy -I have had a crush on for years. we didnt go all the way though. he left for work and just got back a couple days ago. I found a piece of his work ID outside our buddies house. so i emailed him, letting him know I have it. He emailed me asking me if i go to this concert tonight to bring it with me. hope to see you there. A part of me really wants to see him again, and hopes maybe we can start were we left off lol. but part of me is nervous .. im thinking when i see him i will get my hopes up and be disapointed.. if he ignores me or doesnt show much interest in me like he did on new years. i honestly cant stop thinking about him. any words of advice for when i run into him tonight??
turt Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Don't come to a conclusion that quick! Has it been since New Year's since you talked to him?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 we have talked a bit on facebook but i have not seen him since new years
Author FaithInTheDark Posted January 29, 2012 Author Posted January 29, 2012 So he came to the show with a group of us. i didnt really feel like i got the greatest vibe from him thats forsure. I just dont know how to act around guys, expect being myself. and usually being myself doesnt work the way i want it to. we didnt talk to much at the show. then he seemed like he was chatting up this girl all night. i tired not to observe too much due to a blow at my ego. we all walked back to a friends house after the show and the girl came with. again, i didnt really talk to him at our friends show. then the girl ended up leaving later on. long story short we shared the couch together and fooled around a bit. then in the morning he got up and left without saying good bye or anything. a part of me is mad . i felt like since the girl he was chatting too didnt pan out i was the next best thing. i know guys are harsh that way. and i never usually allow that **** to happen. i realized i was into to him based on physical attraction.maybe im being too sensitive and should just take it for what it is. i never want to put myself in a position like that again.
stillafool Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Are you saying he didn't give you any attention until the girl left?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted January 29, 2012 Author Posted January 29, 2012 kinda. we didnt really interact that much until we shared the couch
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Faith, I get the feeling there's more to this story and your behavior that you're not telling. Why do you two keep only kissing but nothing more? Why have you waited years to get with this guy you've liked for so long? You also seem to be quick to think about negative things real quick. You're always fretting about whether or not one of you is going to be disappointed with the other one. That way of thinking leads a person to exaggerate negative things and overlook the positives. Are you another verhzhn? It's all right if this guy talks to another woman. He's not exclusive with you. The other woman might be more receptive to his interest than you are. Why shouldn't he pursue every option?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted January 30, 2012 Author Posted January 30, 2012 you're right. your opinion has made me open my mind. It's just I have been soo disapointed by men in the past..my mind has started to exaggerate negative thoughts over positive ones. what is a verhzhn? lol and yes. maybe the other woman was more receptive to his interest than I was. I dont know. thanks for the insightful feedback
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 A verhzhn is a woman who complains constantly about how her dating life is terrible and it is all the man's fault. The male version of a verhzhn is somedude.
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