darkmoon Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I know this friend will cause me, a woman, trouble and will want to meet me
FitChick Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Avoid meeting the friend until your boyfriend is more invested in you.
ditzchic Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Yeah you should definitely consider avoiding this friend until you are more secure in your relationship with your boyfriend. And you might also want to ask yourself what kind of guy is friends with a person that tries to sabotage his relationships?
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 And you might also want to ask yourself what kind of guy is friends with a person that tries to sabotage his relationships? Oh puh-leeze! Women sabotage each other's relationships all the time. Cockblocking is a form of art to many women. Many women will let another jealous woman sabotage her relationships and stay friends with her. OP, why would the bf's friend hate you?
ditzchic Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Oh puh-leeze! Women sabotage each other's relationships all the time. Cockblocking is a form of art to many women. Many women will let another jealous woman sabotage her relationships and stay friends with her. OP, why would the bf's friend hate you? Oh I agree with you. Lots of women are jealous bitches. I can take my female friends telling me what they think about a boyfriend and why I shouldn't be with him and blah blah blah. Cuz it's not their life and I'll make my own decisions. But I've only ever had one friend that was openly really rude to a boyfriend of mine to his face. And we aren't friends anymore. My general rule is you can have your opinions all you want but you need to show respect to the people that are important to me. If you can't do that, we can't be friends. And I get the feeling the OP is talking about a female friend of her boyfriends.... Just a feeling. Because guy's generally aren't catty bitches.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Oh I agree with you. Lots of women are jealous bitches. I can take my female friends telling me what they think about a boyfriend and why I shouldn't be with him and blah blah blah. Cuz it's not their life and I'll make my own decisions. But I've only ever had one friend that was openly really rude to a boyfriend of mine to his face. And we aren't friends anymore. My general rule is you can have your opinions all you want but you need to show respect to the people that are important to me. If you can't do that, we can't be friends. And I get the feeling the OP is talking about a female friend of her boyfriends.... Just a feeling. Because guy's generally aren't catty bitches. Ok. This post is well-rounded and thoughtful. I flew off the handle with my last post thinking you were saying only dudes can be hateful toward their friend's lover. I guess I'm too cranky because I didn't get good sleep last night. Sorry, ditzy.
Author darkmoon Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Oh puh-leeze! Women sabotage each other's relationships all the time. Cockblocking is a form of art to many women. Many women will let another jealous woman sabotage her relationships and stay friends with her. OP, why would the bf's friend hate you? because they hang out alot together and he thinks I'll get his attention
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 because they hang out alot together and he thinks I'll get his attention Makes sense. Whenever three people hang out, two people end up getting close, while one of them ends up feeling left out. Solutions: a) talk to your bf and his friend about this. Try to get on the friend's good side. No one can blame you for trying. b) see if you guys can include a fourth friend so he won't be alone. Others have suggested you should get closer to your bf before meeting the friend. I disagree. By doing this you set yourself up for an antagonistic relationship with the friend. In addition, you will leave your bf uncomfortable when an argument comes up between you and the friend. I think you should see if you can resolve it early. Don't leave things smoldering. Do your best to get on the friend's good side, instead of using your boyfriend as some sort of wedge between you.
Author darkmoon Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 actually I think I'll re-assure the friend at the outset, i am independent alot of the time anyway
mickleb Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 So this is still not working out, dm? What has this guy been doing/saying and how have you and your BF reacted?
chelsea2011 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Why would you want to be with someone who can't stand up for himself?
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