Girls Who Don’t Like Sex, and Girls Who Do!

[Janesays]

But...it could be said in the exact opposite way as well. Treat your man like a man, give him sex, and he will be more likely to give you emotional support.

 

I mean, the argument seems to be women need emotional support to want to have sex.

 

And if the opposite is true? that men need to sex to want to engage in emotional support, then what?

 

Oh, I tried that. I thought, "Maybe if I just sexed him up some more, he'll be a little more romantic." So for a solid month, I blew his mind in the bedroom.

 

Didn't work.

 

We're divorced, obviously.

[carhill]

When this topic comes up, I always find this thread to be a good read and, since I haven't done so recently, will give it another review.

 

Sticking to the topic of the thread, I would hope a girl who likes sex, if she is feeling ignored/unheard/unloved/unattractive to the point of her libido waning, would communicate with her partner about it and take proactive steps to preserve and re-energize her like of sex. For those who don't like sex or otherwise have issues surrounding sexual contact, I hope they would be honest about that.

 

The most memorable death of a canary in my M was a period where a number of iterations of me performing cunnilingus with my exW rolling over and going to sleep after she was 'done' kinda beat up my libido and talking about it wasn't very effective since I 'talked too much'. So, now I have a cat and am much happier in general about life. I'll hold out for a woman who likes lovemaking.

[Anela]

Considering that most modern relationships start with sex pretty quickly and before there is love and emotional support between the two partners, I would say it looks like most evolved women are aware of what it takes...

 

I'm evolved, but I won't jump into bed with anyone unless I've known them for a while, and trust them.

 

I've never understood sleeping with someone, and then after a while, having an "exclusivity" talk.

Edited January 27, 2012 by Anela

[maybealone]

But a lot of women will not have regular sex as little as once a week. Fact.

 

That is absolutely true about some women. And some of those are good enough actresses to fake liking sex in the beginning of a relationship just to get a guy hooked.

 

I just don't think it happens as much as you think it happens.

 

I think that in a lot of cases where sex was once enjoyed quite frequently but no longer is, there is usually a reason beyond "women don't like sex." Either one or both people no longer enjoy it as much as they used to (lack of foreplay, more tired from work or kid responsibilities) or one or both people no longer feel that emotional connection to the other.

 

When appetites no longer match up, the couple needs to talk about it opening. If the couple is not comfortable talking about it openly, then there probably are a lot more issues than a simple lack of sex.

 

When it comes to relationships, there also should not be a sense of entitlement. A man doesn't deserve sex after ignoring his woman all day or phoning it in when it comes to foreplay any more than a woman deserves an emotional connection after emasculating or nagging her man all day.

 

Lack of sex, in my opinion, is often a symptom -- not a direct result of some clever actor investing a year or two into getting a significant other with a much higher sex drive fooled into thinking that they are perfect for each other.

[ditzchic]

I'm evolved, but I won't jump into bed with anyone unless I've known them for a while, and trust them.

 

I've never understood sleeping with someone, and then after a while, having an "exclusivity" talk.

 

I usually don't sleep with guys I'm not exclusive with either. Sleeping with a guy is usually about the same time as exclusivity for me. But just because I've decided not to pursue other people doesn't mean I'm in love or depending on him to fulfill all my needs. It means I want to see if the two of us can get to that point without being distracted by other people. Long term commitment and exclusivity are two different things to me.

 

Besides, I'm a highly sexed woman. I could never last longer than a month or two of regularly seeing a guy I like without needing some kind of physical affirmation.

[Quiet Storm]

A woman's desire in a long term relationship can be very much affected by her perception that her man is not emotionally connected to her. Notice that I said "perception" because in many cases, her perception is wrong. Some men simply aren't capable of expressing their emotions in ways that women prefer.

 

After the honeymoon phase, most men don't want to talk about feelings and emotions. Although the feelings are there, expressing them doesn't come naturally. In the honeymoon phase, men are usually very expressive of their love. They give compliments freely. They can't keep their hands off us. They want to know everything about us and can talk to us for hours. They want to kiss us and smell us and taste us...they can't get enough. They tell us their thoughts & dreams. This make a woman feel desired and loved.

 

However, once the honeymoon phase is over and once the man has gotten the girl, he usually tones down quite a bit. He is less focused on nurturing the relationship. This doesn't mean that he doesn't want the relationship, just that he no longer feels the need to put as much effort into it. He is not prompted to pursue, and many women take this as a sign that he is losing interest.

 

I think it is unrealistic for a woman to expect him to remain in pursuit mode, but many do. Many women need lots of attention to feel loved. Many need daily reassurance, in words and actions. Women are much more relationship oriented than men, IMO, so any perceived problems in the relationship are going to weigh heavily on her mind. A few words of reassurance can go a long way to making her feel connected.

 

So most men don't get how important a womens emotional needs are, just like most women don't get how important sex is to a man. It will become a vicious cycle, with both feeling resentment towards the other because neither's needs are being met.

 

I would say that out of all the long term couples that don't have sex, most of the time it is because of resentment and relationship issues. In an otherwise healthy woman, resentment towards her partner will KILL her libido for him. I am not saying she is justified in feeling resentful, but if she does...no desire for sex with him. These are the situations where you will often see infidelity. The man will get tired of a sexless life and seek sex elsewhere. The woman's feelings for her husband die, and she seeks emotional fulfillment elsewhere which sparks her libido for the other man. So many men that have been cheated on are absolutley shocked when they discover it because they thought their wives didn't like sex. That was not the issue...the issue was that she did not feel loved and desired and got her emotional needs met elsewhere, which re-ignited her sexual desire.

 

It's very hard for men to understand this because most men do not have to be emotionally fulfilled to want sex. It is more of a physical need for them, regardless of their mood or the health of their relationship, so it's a tough sell for them to get what the women on here are saying.

 

What women need to understand is that most men aren't naturally romantic and aren't going to walk around professing their love everyday. The burning desire to have you right NOW! is not there anymore and that is often what prompted him to express those feelings in the pursuit phase. As a man becomes comfortable in his partnership, he will show his love in other ways, usually by actions. For example, my husband warms up my car for me. He'll set out my towel when I take a shower. He'll bring home my favorite snack. He wants me to be safe and is protective of me and our kids. In the bedroom, he is expressive and giving. So a man's natural way to express his love is often through actions, INCLUDING SEX. Not words. Women in long term relationships that look for words and conversation as signs of love, often ignore the acts of service that many men do naturally to show their love. Then she'll feel neglected and resentful, which kills her desire. Meanwhile, the man loves her but is just not showing it in the way that she is looking for.

 

So the bottom line is that in a long term relationship, you are going to have to show your love in ways that don't always come naturally. Both men & women need to feel loved. So even if it is not in your comfort zone, women should initiate sex & do other thoughtful ACTIONS for your man, even if you are the type that likes to be pursued. Men need to try to express their feelings in WORDS and genuinely listen to their women, even if it annoys them and don't think it's necessary. When problems & disagreements come up, talk them out, no matter how much your wife's arguing voice sounds like nails on a chalkboard. Even if YOU think the issue is no big deal, it may be a huge deal to HER. Stuffing feelings and brushing things under the rug will only breed resentment.

 

People are like flowers and need to be nurtured. For men, sex is the water they need to grow. For women, emotional connection is what makes them thrive. Without these basic needs being met on both sides, the relationship will wither and die.

 

For the small number of women that don't want sex but are not feeling emotionally neglected, it is likely a hormonal issue. Hormones play a HUGE part in a woman's sex drive. It is impossible to predict if this will be a factor in the future with a woman because hormones change so much in women. During one month alone, our estrogen and progesterone levels fluctuate and affect our desire greatly. Pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, aging, peri menopause & menopause can all affect sex drive, and there is no way to predict whether a woman will have any of these issues as she ages.

[Dust]

For the small number of women that don't want sex but are not feeling emotionally neglected, it is likely a hormonal issue. Hormones play a HUGE part in a woman's sex drive. It is impossible to predict if this will be a factor in the future with a woman because hormones change so much in women. During one month alone, our estrogen and progesterone levels fluctuate and affect our desire greatly. Pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, aging, peri menopause & menopause can all affect sex drive, and there is no way to predict whether a woman will have any of these issues as she ages.

 

I wouldn't say its a small number of women. I'd say its 50/50 or above... women who just don't want sex. They are often dilusional too and will blame emotions any ways. (anything to blame the man) because the fact is if they were with another man they'd be able to have sex again... till the same problem started!

[xxoo]

I feel many girls here are completly missing the mark when they bring up emotions and start to blame the guy for little to no sex.

 

You want to know the key to keeping sex longterm. Well, this is the best advice we women can give, offered by women in both successful and unsuccessful longterm sexual relationships.

[Dust]

You want to know the key to keeping sex longterm. Well, this is the best advice we women can give, offered by women in both successful and unsuccessful longterm sexual relationships.

 

Read what Carhil wrote. This isn't a thread about women who are mistreated and don't want sex. It's very obvious that there are some women who just hit a point where they no longer want sex or only want very rarely like once every few weeks or months. Nothing you can do about it. You're thinking on the subject is pointless because you will never have to deal with this type of woman unless you become a lesbian. And from what I hear most lesbian couples stop having sex.

[zengirl]

I feel many girls here are completly missing the mark when they bring up emotions and start to blame the guy for little to no sex.

 

And I feel you're missing the mark when you assume that sex waning in the relationship is always about the woman not 'liking' sex. So do some other women. That's why we shared this perspective.

 

I mean, the argument seems to be women need emotional support to want to have sex.

 

And if the opposite is true? that men need to sex to want to engage in emotional support, then what?

 

I think the argument is more: a relationship needs to be good to nurture a good sexual and emotional environment for both parties. It's not like women want to 'trade' sex for emotional support or vice versa for men. And, really, men DO want emotional support, and women DO want sex, for the most part. But when a relationship is unhealthy, both of those things often wane.

 

Sticking to the topic of the thread, I would hope a girl who likes sex, if she is feeling ignored/unheard/unloved/unattractive to the point of her libido waning, would communicate with her partner about it and take proactive steps to preserve and re-energize her like of sex. For those who don't like sex or otherwise have issues surrounding sexual contact, I hope they would be honest about that.

 

Carhill, I imagine you would listen if your partner brought you an issue, knowing what I know of you, but not all men (or all women!) would. And a lot of people find relationships difficult to talk about, unfortunately. I do think you're right that if the relationship is to be preserved, both parties will have to have very open lines of communication when it hits a rocky patch.

[Dust]

And I feel you're missing the mark when you assume that sex waning in the relationship is always about the woman not 'liking' sex. So do some other women. That's why we shared this perspective.

 

 

You're quoting me yet I'm not seeing the part where I said sex waning in a relationship is always about the woman not liking sex... I'm just saying that scenario exists. Why do you all insist on going off topic?

[xxoo]

Read what Carhil wrote. This isn't a thread about women who are mistreated and don't want sex. It's very obvious that there are some women who just hit a point where they no longer want sex or only want very rarely like once every few weeks or months. Nothing you can do about it. You're thinking on the subject is pointless because you will never have to deal with this type of woman unless you become a lesbian. And from what I hear most lesbian couples stop having sex.

 

I did read Carhill's post.

 

A lot of women do try to discuss it when they are feeling disregarded, or resentful. Sometimes that is also disregarded, in stereotype, as "nagging" and "hens clucking", and the like.

 

Ah, yes, LBD (lesbian bed death) One reason I revere my H's sex drive is that it is so much more constant than my own! I joke that men are at least 30% aroused at any given point in the day, no matter what is going on around them. Lesbian couples may not have the benefit of a partner with that kind of drive. I can kind of understand how sex could fall by the wayside with two women after a while...

[zengirl]

You're quoting me yet I'm not seeing the part where I said sex waning in a relationship is always about the woman not liking sex... I'm just saying that scenario exists. Why do you all insist on going off topic?

 

Because you're saying that women either like or dislike sex, and really it's not that simple. You suggested that when the sex wanes the women was 'faking' her like of sex in the beginning. And that's probably not what happened the majority of the time, is all we're saying.

 

You want advice on how to spot this issue early, but really, since the issue isn't what you expect it to be (the woman no liking sex) in many of these instances, you're looking for the wrong thing and missing the thing you could impact. If you nurture the relationship, both sexual and emotional, you're more likely to have a great sex life continually. It's not just about finding a woman who "likes sex." It's about keeping her interested in sex with you!

[Dust]

Because you're saying that women either like or dislike sex, and really it's not that simple. You suggested that when the sex wanes the women was 'faking' her like of sex in the beginning. And that's probably not what happened the majority of the time, is all we're saying.

 

You want advice on how to spot this issue early, but really, since the issue isn't what you expect it to be (the woman no liking sex) in many of these instances, you're looking for the wrong thing and missing the thing you could impact. If you nurture the relationship, both sexual and emotional, you're more likely to have a great sex life continually. It's not just about finding a woman who "likes sex." It's about keeping her interested in sex with you!

 

Yes it's not that simple. But there are women who just don't like sex and there is nothing you can do. They date/ stay married to you till death do you part. You can try holding hands, taking vacations, and nothing will fix the problem. Only a problem if you're unhappy with it. Some men would be fine. If it is a problem it's only visible looking back and you have to cut your losses. Thats what this thread is about.

 

It's not about women who are being mistreated/ignored. Those should break up with their men if its that bad... plus if its going into months years and the man can't fix the problem he needs to find a woman he can work with any ways.... or if he can't work with women I guess he needs to just date new women every few years or grow up.

 

Bottom line this attitude that you feel the need to bring up women who are mistreated when I'm talking about low libido women who find sex a chore is funny to me. Very entertaining. But off topic.

 

There are girls who don't like sex. You could do everything in the world for them and they still won't. They have that right. They aren't going to keep the kind of guy who likes regular sex happy. They need a lower sex drive, lower testosterone gentlemen. A guy who doesn't ming going weeks, months, a year with out sex. The kind of guy who can do with out. Or the kind of guy who just prefers masturbating but still wants female companionship.

 

If you're a guy who likes regular sex. Enjoy the honey period and once you've determined you're with a low libido women and it isn't you ignoring her emotions or some other disrespect move on it's the only way you'll be happy. You will find a higher libido women or atleast enjoy honey moon periods and not being a friend with obligations. A priest in her order. A monk!

[maybealone]

There are girls who don't like sex. You could do everything in the world for them and they still won't.

 

There's another category I don't think has been mention: women who have never had really great sex. If it's never been good for them then they don't know what to ask for, and yes, as years go by, they might make sex a really, really low priority simply because it has never really done much for them.

 

And sometimes they have had really great sex but aren't having it with their current mate, but go into the relationship hoping the sex will get better with time. And if it doesn't, they start to lose interest.

[xxoo]

It's not about women who are being mistreated/ignored. Those should break up with their men if its that bad...

 

People stay in bad relationships for all kinds of reasons. Getting pregnant during the honeymoon period, for one!

 

 

Also, as I said above, a lot of this is what most people consider "normal". Just like you believe it is normal for women to lose sex drive after the honeymoon period, women believe it is normal for men to dismiss their needs. It is all they know, and they don't know any better way.

 

But I bet she'd like sex just fine with a new guy! That shows that it really isn't about liking sex. It is about maintaining desire for a longterm partner.

[zengirl]

Bottom line this attitude that you feel the need to bring up women who are mistreated when I'm talking about low libido women who find sex a chore is funny to me. Very entertaining. But off topic.

 

Your whole question was on the sex drying up. Unless these women later told you they disliked sex in general and you can verify they never enjoyed sex (which seems unlikely), why would you assume those women disliked sex. We've all said those women exist, but they're probably far easier to spot, even during the honeymoon period. If you banged like bunnies for a few YEARS as some of the posts said, then she probably wasn't acting. The connection just waned, and with it went the sex.

 

So, as far as how to 'spot' a woman who dislikes sex, it's important to bring up other reasons why this 'drop off' happens IMO. Otherwise, you're not going to get all the data. Low sex drive women aren't going to be initiating, trying anything new, seem excited about sex, etc, during the WHOLE relationship, EVEN the honeymoon period, unless they're just fantabulous actresses, which most women are not.

[Quiet Storm]

I wouldn't say its a small number of women. I'd say its 50/50 or above... women who just don't want sex. They are often dilusional too and will blame emotions any ways. (anything to blame the man) because the fact is if they were with another man they'd be able to have sex again... till the same problem started!

 

If it is hormone related, they can test hormone levels. Women can go to the doctor and treat this. And there is no way to predict it because our hormones are always changing. It could happen in a year, or 10 or 40.

 

The reason the problem often persists is that its usually is not hormone related. Women that have low sex drive in one relationship, often have a healthy sex drive with other partners. This proves that it is an emotional or mental thing.

 

There are some women that don't enjoy sex, but usually this will be evident early on. You can tell by her reactions if she is truly into it. Wetness and goosebumps and hard nipples are hard to fake. A non sexual person will not talk about, think about or seek out sex. If they have sex to manipulate but aren't really into it, it will show through her body language and lack of lubrication.

 

As I said previously, a woman's perception that her man is not emotionally connected can be wrong...but that does not make her delusional. She feels what she feels, and those feelings are going to affect her...whether you think her feelings are valid or not. Her sex drive is not going be logical and

 

I'm not saying it's the man's fault. What I'm saying is that men and women have different needs. We won't always have the same needs or understand each others needs- but we should ACCEPT that these things are needed for our partner to feel loved. Men in sexless marriages often feel depressed, weak and emasculated. The fact that their wives don't want sex does not diminish their need or the effect unmet needs has on him. When men trivialize a woman's need for emotional expression, because it's not something that is important to them, a woman's bond to her man will slowly erode.

 

Both partners have the right to state their needs. It is not up for debate whether the other partner thinks that need is valid or not. Good luck trying to convince the other partner that they don't really need that.

 

If a woman only desires sex once a week, but her husband needs more, she should strive to meet that need. She should not tell the man that he doesn't really need sex that much and is delusional. Trivializing his needs will make him resentful.

 

If a woman needs to talk about her feelings and the relationship...those are valid needs. That need doesn't go away just because her husband doesn't feel like talking about it. It's going to fester and cause resentment, because he trivialized her needs.

 

Dude, you have many women giving you the answer to your question but you just don't like the answer! You are too stubborn to believe what many women are telling you. My emotions and the way I feel about my marriage do have an effect on my sex drive. When things are good, I want it. When things aren't, I don't want it. When things are good again, I want it again. There is a very strong correlation. It's just that my husband and I try to meet each others needs, even in low points. This way neither of us feels neglected or resentful.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

It's actually very few people that are not interested in sex.

 

Dust, there is no magic secret formula to find a woman who is going to be your fantasy dream lover who is always up for it, and always up for whatever you want, whenever you want. I am actually more bothered by the intial questoin of this thread because it seems to focus on the wrong thing in my opinion.

 

Throughout your life, if you find yourself in a long term relationship, emotions and hormones are going to ebb and flow. There will be ups and downs. There will be times when she doesn't want to have sex and there will be times when you don't want to be romantic. Sometimes you will think your partner is the awesome most lovable person in the world. Other times you will not. A relationship isn't built on just good times alone. It's also built on the hard times and how you deal with them. And sometimes for men, some of the hard times include a partner that might have a lacking sexual drive down the road. Women are people. And they are not perfect. And they are not fantasies that are always going to be up for it. Sometimes she does lose interest in sex. Sometimes her body changes as she ages and she sees her man looking at other women and no longer feels like being vulnerabl with him in that way anymore. Sometimes she is tired and weighed down with the troubles of life. Not every time a woman doesn't want to have sex doesn't mean she is withholding it to be mean.

 

Maybe the key isn't looking for impossible signs about how sexual a woman is, but maybe the key is your real knowledge of how women operate and the strength you might need for a life long relationship where things aren't always going to be perfect. Just as you won't always be the perfect romantic dream lover partner she always dreamed about either.

 

Now, for women that NEVER have sex with their mates after being married a long time and make no effort to try and communciate with their partners in sexual matters, that's a seperate issue. But there is no set of things to look out for that are going to give you a look into the future of either how YOU act or how your partner acts.

 

With that said, I do think sex is a very important part to a romantic relationship. But i think other parts need to be built first and should be stronger before sex. I also don't think it's fair when women do actually withhold sex for selfish reasons. But I also don't think it's fair when men do the same by expecting their partner to be up for anything when they don't make the effort to be the emotionally connecting partner they might have been in the beginning of the relationship.

 

 

By the way, you said this to another poster, Jane.:

Uhhh yet again another jaded woman who can't except the facts.

 

To me, this says that you are not very interested in a wide range of female opinons on this topic and that you will even go as far to attempt to put them down for it by, when they share their opinion, you resort to a shaming description such as calling the poster "jaded". Also the fact that you said "yet again another jaded women..." sounds a little unfair. Especially in regards to a topic that envolves both men's and women's opinions so intimately.

[Dust]

Your whole question was on the sex drying up. Unless these women later told you they disliked sex in general and you can verify they never enjoyed sex (which seems unlikely), why would you assume those women disliked sex. We've all said those women exist, but they're probably far easier to spot, even during the honeymoon period. If you banged like bunnies for a few YEARS as some of the posts said, then she probably wasn't acting. The connection just waned, and with it went the sex.

 

So, as far as how to 'spot' a woman who dislikes sex, it's important to bring up other reasons why this 'drop off' happens IMO. Otherwise, you're not going to get all the data. Low sex drive women aren't going to be initiating, trying anything new, seem excited about sex, etc, during the WHOLE relationship, EVEN the honeymoon period, unless they're just fantabulous actresses, which most women are not.

 

It was more of rant where I wanted to tell guys not to put up with it. Same way girls have to kiss a few toads before they find their prince... Men have to battle it out get our princess. In the long run any way you look at it the battle is won when you accept yourself. So you're all right I shouldn't make it so external.

 

I"M NOT SURE WHAT HAPPENE HERE HAHA THAT WAS THE WRONG NAME IN THE QUOTE I MEANT TO WRITE A REPLY TO QUIET STORM TOO BUT SOMETHING WEIRD HAPPENED

To me, this says that you are not very interested in a wide range of female opinons on this topic and that you will even go as far to attempt to put them down for it by, when they share their opinion, you resort to a shaming description such as calling the poster "jaded". Also the fact that you said "yet again another jaded women..." sounds a little unfair. Especially in regards to a topic that envolves both men's and women's opinions so intimately.

 

I guess jaded is as jaded says.

 

I came in here with a set way of thinking that for the most part hasn't changed. I've enjoyed reading everyones posts even the ones I didn't agree with. I'll continue to enjoy reading anyones posts because I feel this is a major issue especialy for men. Heck even the men who don't have a problem with this think about it and don't want it to happen.

 

I shouldn't have shamed any one but if you notice there was a lot of shaming going on toward men in general. Blaming them for the sexlessness of a relationship. I would almost compare that to blaming some one for cheating.

 

I want to be clear we're not talking about a couple getting in a fight and not having sex for a week or a few weeks. We're talking about months, years of little to no sex.

 

I make all my posts with guys in mind... mostly haha. Like my recent post about "forever alone" I had the guys who never or rarely get a gf. This post was for the men who find themselves in sexless relationships whether it be no sex or non regular sex with a woman that treats it like a chore.

 

But this does involve both men and women and it really gets you thinking to hear both sides. So keep it comming!

Edited January 27, 2012 by Dust

[Dust]

Dude, you have many women giving you the answer to your question but you just don't like the answer! You are too stubborn to believe what many women are telling you. My emotions and the way I feel about my marriage do have an effect on my sex drive. When things are good, I want it. When things aren't, I don't want it. When things are good again, I want it again. There is a very strong correlation. It's just that my husband and I try to meet each others needs, even in low points. This way neither of us feels neglected or resentful.

 

You should have sex with your husband in the good times and the bad. What I'm talking about here isn't a one time fight or situation. I'm talking about over months/years of little to no regular sex.

 

But I apreciate the opinions a lot to think about. I shouldn't act so cranky. very entertaining.

[Ross MwcFan]

When you start dating a girl how do you know if she likes sex? More importantly how do you know she likes sex for the long run…

 

Avoiding a girl who doesn’t like sex is best. I mean who wants a serious relationship with a girl who is always going to have some excuse why she isn’t in the mood? I guess a guy who doesn’t like sex would be happy with that. I mean if you’re a guy who doesn’t like sex it would be annoying to have a woman who did. But if you’re a guy who likes sex you’re going to want a dump a woman sooner or later if she’s constantly not in the mood.

 

When you first start dating a girl she’ll really want you to like her. She’ll say and do things that aren’t necessarily her true nature. The honey moon phase is not a reflection of truth. A year or more into the relationship you’ll see a very good glimpse at her true sex drive. At the 2-3 year mark it should be clear what you’re dealing with. If she’s the kind of girl who just doesn’t like sex I say its time to dump her.

 

I think time is truly the only way to spot these women, because a woman who doesn’t like sex can’t always spot it in herself. Often she has delusions that she does like sex and will blame the man she’s with. Don’t blame her for her sex drive its just unfortunate things didn’t work out. Think of it that way. Say something like you need a relationship with “passion” don’t make it all about the sex because in truth sex is about more then sex. Bottom line talking about it is fine but these things often can’t be fixed. So let time do its thing and leave if its not working out.

 

There are actually plenty guys who don’t really like sex either. Happy enough to just masturbate or go with out. The guys who do like sex and end up with a woman who doesn’t should dump her. Not dump her out of spite, but dump her out of respect for himself not to become a monk in her order. The woman should be respected and not blamed for her preferences. The man should simply move on. That way men who like sex end up with women who like sex and vice versa.

 

What makes you think that?

 

Although I haven't really had much experience, I think that if a woman in a relationship goes off sex, then there's a fair chance that the guy she is with doesn't turn her on anymore, or even turns her off. For example, a guy in a relationship may start letting himself go, he may start to not wash that often and not use deodrant, or he may start putting on a load of weight and grow a scruffy beard.

Edited January 27, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[Dust]

What makes you think that?

 

Although I haven't really had much experience, I think that if a woman in a relationship goes off sex, then there's a fair chance that the guy she is with doesn't turn her on anymore, or even turns her off. For example, a guy in a relationship may start letting himself go, he may start to not wash that often and not use deodrant, or he may start putting on a load of weight and grow a scruffy beard.

 

Maybe it's because he put her in a Dutch Oven. Thats we're the man farts while in bed with a woman. He then pulls the cover up over her head and keeps her down there till he's good and sure she breathed in his fart.

[Ross MwcFan]

Maybe it's because he put her in a Dutch Oven. Thats we're the man farts while in bed with a woman. He then pulls the cover up over her head and keeps her down there till he's good and sure she breathed in his fart.

 

Well, yeah, that's kind of funny, but I can see a guy doing something like that regulary turning her off.

[xxoo]

You should have sex with your husband in the good times and the bad.

 

 

That's interesting.

 

I'm not saying that I disagree. But I wonder if you would agree that a man should prioritize his wife's feelings during good times and bad.

 

If both did, there would be few bad times