Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 When you start dating a girl how do you know if she likes sex? More importantly how do you know she likes sex for the long run… Avoiding a girl who doesn’t like sex is best. I mean who wants a serious relationship with a girl who is always going to have some excuse why she isn’t in the mood? I guess a guy who doesn’t like sex would be happy with that. I mean if you’re a guy who doesn’t like sex it would be annoying to have a woman who did. But if you’re a guy who likes sex you’re going to want a dump a woman sooner or later if she’s constantly not in the mood. When you first start dating a girl she’ll really want you to like her. She’ll say and do things that aren’t necessarily her true nature. The honey moon phase is not a reflection of truth. A year or more into the relationship you’ll see a very good glimpse at her true sex drive. At the 2-3 year mark it should be clear what you’re dealing with. If she’s the kind of girl who just doesn’t like sex I say its time to dump her. I think time is truly the only way to spot these women, because a woman who doesn’t like sex can’t always spot it in herself. Often she has delusions that she does like sex and will blame the man she’s with. Don’t blame her for her sex drive its just unfortunate things didn’t work out. Think of it that way. Say something like you need a relationship with “passion” don’t make it all about the sex because in truth sex is about more then sex. Bottom line talking about it is fine but these things often can’t be fixed. So let time do its thing and leave if its not working out. There are actually plenty guys who don’t really like sex either. Happy enough to just masturbate or go with out. The guys who do like sex and end up with a woman who doesn’t should dump her. Not dump her out of spite, but dump her out of respect for himself not to become a monk in her order. The woman should be respected and not blamed for her preferences. The man should simply move on. That way men who like sex end up with women who like sex and vice versa.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 There's really no way to know, especially upon meeting her. But once the two of you are involved, you could always see: a. Does she ever initiate? If so how often? b. Is she interested in trying different positions/foreplay/fun things in the bedroom? c. Does she know how to orgasm? Does she know how to make herself orgasm? If the answers to all of the above are "yes," to me those are signs that she is a sexual person, and will likely stay that way for a while, as it's an integral part of her personality (subject to major hormonal changes of course, such as pregnancy or menopause). Even in casual conversation among female friends, acquaintances, and co-workers, I'm shocked at how many women seem to view sex as a chore. It could be because they've never learned how to derive pleasure from sex, what positions and/or foreplay work best for them, or maybe their husband or boyfriend isn't willing to spend the time to make sure she enjoys herself. Or it just could be that they are simply not highly sexual individuals and it's just part of their personality. It seems as though it's almost become the "norm" for women to not want to have sex once in a long term relationship or (especially) married. If a husband and wife are out together and the wife gets a little tipsy, it's not uncommon for a friend to remark, "Oooh, looks like ______ (husband) might get lucky tonight!" Why is it just him getting lucky? Is she doing him some kind of favour? Isn't she lucky to be getting laid too?? And these are all young couples we're talking about...twenties and thirties. Personally, I can't ever foresee myself being in a relationship where sex is a chore. If it feels that way, something's amiss. But women are all different, with different personalities and libidos. I guess the only thing you can do is live and learn.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 There's really no way to know, especially upon meeting her. But once the two of you are involved, you could always see: a. Does she ever initiate? If so how often? b. Is she interested in trying different positions/foreplay/fun things in the bedroom? c. Does she know how to orgasm? Does she know how to make herself orgasm? Definitely true. All this are things guys should ask themselves about their women before they get married. You shouldn't dump a chick if the answer is "no" to some or all of those questions. You should try to change the answer to "yes" for all those questions by talking to her about sex. A big indication a woman doesn't like sex is if you're already in a LTR with her and she seems hesitant to talk about sex in general.
Anela Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I'm not going to jump into bed with anyone right away, and it has nothing to do with holding back in order to successfully play some sort of social game. I need to feel very comfortable. When I was feeling more candid, last year, I told someone that I'm the type who might throw them against the wall, if I was in the mood (they were messing around) and he responded by asking me what I wanted for breakfast. I'm not going there with just anyone, though. I'm listening to this right now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAQE-tHjPAc and this: - sweetness, warmth.
veggirl Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) According to my bf, he knows I like it (which I do!) because: -I will initiate -I will try diff positions -I am vocal in bed -My drive hasn't lowered since we got more serious (7 mos, so not the year mentioned yet) -IT'S GOOD. He says sex isn't that good with a girl who isn't into it, and if she fakes enjoyment etc at first, it'll either stop when exclusive or a few mos into the R when she is more comfortable. I agree with all the points, and I think the last one is the most important. Anyone who's had enough sex knows that sex is generally not BAD. It can be, but most often it's good or it's GREAT. I won't be in a relationship with someone if it's not GREAT, thank god I can tell the difference, I have friends who think all sex is basically the same, aka it's "good". I think that one sign a girl is exagerating her sexuality and true interest in sex is when she talks about it in inappropriate situations or brags about it. TRYING to hard to look like you're into sex a lot is probably a sign that they arent. Just one thing I noticed about some girls I've known. Edited January 27, 2012 by veggirl eta
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 There's really no way to know, especially upon meeting her. But once the two of you are involved, you could always see: a. Does she ever initiate? If so how often? b. Is she interested in trying different positions/foreplay/fun things in the bedroom? c. Does she know how to orgasm? Does she know how to make herself orgasm? The girl who (a) initiates and txts you while you're at work because she wants some and (b) is up for anything and © screams while she orgasms when you first start dating can easily 2 years down the line be the girl never in the mood who when you do have sex only wants to lie on her back and wait for it to be over. So I agree with your first statement "no way to know." I think you have to enjoy the time when you start dating the girl and not be jaded worrying about what could happen. If 2-3 years into the relationship things go sour in this regards you have to realize you're now seeing the person they become after the initial honeymoon phase. It may become obvious far before then. The thing is it takes time. At that point you have to be able to seperate the good times from furture stress. Because things will end with two people very out of sync with thier passions. If the answers to all of the above are "yes' date='" to me those are signs that she is a sexual person, and will likely stay that way for a while, as it's an integral part of her personality (subject to major hormonal changes of course, such as pregnancy or menopause).[/quote'] I want to be clear this isn't a thread about dumping a woman because she got pregnant, or menopausel and not in the mood. I know you understand that. It's about dating some one, and then through dating them posibly years learning they arn't for you because of sex. If the answer to all the questions is yes it will likely stay that way for the honeymoon phase but it can all change after that. Very easily. Thats what men especialy need to be aware of. Because they are kidding themselves if they think that level of rejection is going to work in the long term. Many men put up with it and cheat and or end up breaking up years/decades later then they should. They're not doing the woman a favor and certainly not doing themselves any. Personaly I could care less if a woman a) initiates and c) orgasms. As long as she realizes how important sex is and is up for it I'd be a happy man. There are just a lot of women who hate it so much after the honey moon phase. Even in casual conversation among female friends, acquaintances, and co-workers, I'm shocked at how many women seem to view sex as a chore. It could be because they've never learned how to derive pleasure from sex, what positions and/or foreplay work best for them, or maybe their husband or boyfriend isn't willing to spend the time to make sure she enjoys herself. Or it just could be that they are simply not highly sexual individuals and it's just part of their personality. It seems as though it's almost become the "norm" for women to not want to have sex once in a long term relationship or (especially) married. If a husband and wife are out together and the wife gets a little tipsy, it's not uncommon for a friend to remark, "Oooh, looks like ______ (husband) might get lucky tonight!" Why is it just him getting lucky? Is she doing him some kind of favour? Isn't she lucky to be getting laid too?? And these are all young couples we're talking about...twenties and thirties. Personally, I can't ever foresee myself being in a relationship where sex is a chore. If it feels that way, something's amiss. But women are all different, with different personalities and libidos. I guess the only thing you can do is live and learn. I don't know what the norm is. I think people like to think of men as the ones hounding for sex. It's almost a joke to think of the woman hounding her husband. But I'm sure it happens a lot. Bottom line its important for both partners to be fufilled in this aspect. As a man I find it imposible to have a happy relationship even if everything else is there. I need passion otherwise its just like being friends with obligations... pretty much the oposite of friends with benefits. Friends with obligations means you can't date any one else. You're expected to show this person a lot of respect by spending your time and energy on them. But no sex... so thus the friend, and let me remind you that you can't date any one else. Definitely true. All this are things guys should ask themselves about their women before they get married. You shouldn't dump a chick if the answer is "no" to some or all of those questions. You should try to change the answer to "yes" for all those questions by talking to her about sex. A big indication a woman doesn't like sex is if you're already in a LTR with her and she seems hesitant to talk about sex in general. After a year or more of sex problems it becomes obviouse you can't change them. I'm not saying dump a girl because you don't get regular sex. But once it becomes obviouse that sex is highly iregular and talking about it only leads to fights or frustation then its time to walk away. Its very sad to walk away from some one you get along with and love just because there is no passion. If you don't you just end up resenting them and yourself though. Also I could care less if a girl initiates or orgasms. I'd be perfectly happy actually being with a girl who didn't like sex as long as she put in the effort and had regular good sex with me. Doubt thats possible for most girls who don't like sex. The really sad part is by the time you've determined they don't like sex you've been with them long enough to get married and you probably want to marry them but for that one thing. But no do not marry them. That will only make the problem a million times worse. I'm not going to jump into bed with anyone right away, and it has nothing to do with holding back in order to successfully play some sort of social game. I need to feel very comfortable. This thread isn't about girls who wait to have sex. Which first off I'm not going to wait forever. Once I'm seriously dating a girl and we agree to be bf/gf and not see other people I'd expect sex. I pretty much believe in sex before mariage/engagement as seriously as some believe in waiting. This is a thread about how when you date a girl and you do have sex with her because of infrequency and or lack of interest you know she's a girl who doesn't like sex. According to my bf, he knows I like it (which I do!) because: -I will initiate -I will try diff positions -I am vocal in bed -My drive hasn't lowered since we got more serious (7 mos, so not the year mentioned yet) -IT'S GOOD. He says sex isn't that good with a girl who isn't into it, and if she fakes enjoyment etc at first, it'll either stop when exclusive or a few mos into the R when she is more comfortable. I agree with all the points, and I think the last one is the most important. Anyone who's had enough sex knows that sex is generally not BAD. It can be, but most often it's good or it's GREAT. I won't be in a relationship with someone if it's not GREAT, thank god I can tell the difference, I have friends who think all sex is basically the same, aka it's "good". I think that one sign a girl is exagerating her sexuality and true interest in sex is when she talks about it in inappropriate situations or brags about it. TRYING to hard to look like you're into sex a lot is probably a sign that they arent. Just one thing I noticed about some girls I've known. I think at 7 months its a good indicator. Like I said though you really have to date for a year or two before you really know. And even if their is a problem you might be in denial for a while. Its easy to make up good excuses like stress at work until its been a long time. Then with hind sight being 20/20 you get your answers. I need passion out of a relationship. Not some one who thinks every thing is the same and just going through the motions haha. Your bf is lucky! I'd even venture to say you're still in your honey moon period. Enjoy it Veggirl have fun!
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 After a year or more of sex problems it becomes obviouse you can't change them. I'm not saying dump a girl because you don't get regular sex. But once it becomes obviouse that sex is highly iregular and talking about it only leads to fights or frustation then its time to walk away. Its very sad to walk away from some one you get along with and love just because there is no passion. If you don't you just end up resenting them and yourself though. Also I could care less if a girl initiates or orgasms. I'd be perfectly happy actually being with a girl who didn't like sex as long as she put in the effort and had regular good sex with me. Doubt thats possible for most girls who don't like sex. The really sad part is by the time you've determined they don't like sex you've been with them long enough to get married and you probably want to marry them but for that one thing. But no do not marry them. That will only make the problem a million times worse. My view is that sex is an integral part of a relationship. The woman I share a LTR with should share this viewpoint. I don't get into LTR with women who view sex as something they "give up to men". I go with a woman who view sex as something to be experienced joyfully with her man. That is why a woman who initiates sex is important. It shows she's more sexually open. It shows she's not passive about it. And yes, I agree with you. You should talk about sex. Only walk away from her if talking about it leads to frustrations. I understand boundaries regarding certain sex acts. However, I am not tolerant toward a negative viewpoint regarding sex in general.
veggirl Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) I think at 7 months its a good indicator. Like I said though you really have to date for a year or two before you really know. And even if their is a problem you might be in denial for a while. Its easy to make up good excuses like stress at work until its been a long time. Then with hind sight being 20/20 you get your answers. I need passion out of a relationship. Not some one who thinks every thing is the same and just going through the motions haha. Your bf is lucky! I'd even venture to say you're still in your honey moon period. Enjoy it Veggirl have fun! I agree with you that we are likely still in our honeymoon phase, which I'm relishing cause I've not had one last past like 3 mos I've been in LTR before, longest was ~4 yrs (I'm 28), and we did have a problem in the bedroom, he was turning me down. He had the lower libido, which sucked....I actually found out pretty early on, it would be a dealbreaker now. We'd been dating about a few months when he told me he would be good if we had sex every one or two weeks. We were both like 22! Honestly, that would be a dealbreaker for me now. At the time I thought I could convince him otherwise. This was also before I knew the difference between good sex and great sex. It's much easier for a girl to find a guy who is down for sex and interested in it. I understand it is probably harder to find a gal who will be as will in the long run. I don't know, apart from asking a girl how her sex life was 2 yrs into her past relationship, you kinda just gotta make a judgement call. I think the indicators laid out by the other responders are good ones and safe bets, overall! Edited January 27, 2012 by veggirl
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 My view is that sex is an integral part of a relationship. The woman I share a LTR with should share this viewpoint. I don't get into LTR with women who view sex as something they "give up to men". I go with a woman who view sex as something to be experienced joyfully with her man. That is why a woman who initiates sex is important. It shows she's more sexually open. It shows she's not passive about it. And yes, I agree with you. You should talk about sex. Only walk away from her if talking about it leads to frustrations. I understand boundaries regarding certain sex acts. However, I am not tolerant toward a negative viewpoint regarding sex in general. If they like you they'll share the view point. Thing is you have to see their actions over the course of time. Talk is cheap. It's easy for a girl to initiate and seem honry in the first few months you start having sex. It's also easy for her to lie to herself and you and claim she loves sex. Personaly if a woman didn't like sex but was willing to just have fun with me and do it on a regular basis I wouldn't mind. Obviously a woman who doesn't like sex usualy hates it and will rarely agree to do it. When she does agree it will be lack luster at best and hard to even get erect with her. I agree with you that we are likely still in our honeymoon phase, which I'm relishing cause I've not had one last past like 3 mos I've been in LTR before, longest was ~4 yrs (I'm 28), and we did have a problem in the bedroom, he was turning me down. He had the lower libido, which sucked....I actually found out pretty early on, it would be a dealbreaker now. We'd been dating about a few months when he told me he would be good if we had sex every one or two weeks. We were both like 22! Honestly, that would be a dealbreaker for me now. At the time I thought I could convince him otherwise. This was also before I knew the difference between good sex and great sex. It's much easier for a girl to find a guy who is down for sex and interested in it. I understand it is probably harder to find a gal who will be as will in the long run. I don't know, apart from asking a girl how her sex life was 2 yrs into her past relationship, you kinda just gotta make a judgement call. I think the indicators laid out by the other responders are good ones and safe bets, overall! Enjoy your honeymoon phase! And about your other relationship of 4 years. It's hard to hear some one say they want it less then you. Especialy if you're a man. I mean know it must be hard one women to be with low sex drive men. Plus low sex drive just means for you. You have a low sex drive bf/gf doesn't mean their sex drive is low for new people. Just means they have a low sex drive for the person they've spent time with. It's all very insulting and sucky... Asking a girl about her sex life won't show anything. They lie to you and themselves. They'll blame lack of sex on their ex if they even admit it. Act like they wish they had been having it more. Really know way to spot a girl who has no sex drive unless she owns up to it in the begining or litteraly has no sex drive even durring the honey moon phase. Which of course some girls are that obvious... but most arn't!
ptp Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Easy, just withhold sex. If it drives her crazy then she likes it. If it doesn't then she doesn't like it.
veggirl Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Easy, just withhold sex. If it drives her crazy then she likes it. If it doesn't then she doesn't like it. Huh. This could definitely work. Only issue would be early on, when a gal may be more inclined to try to "prove" her sexuality. But, if you've been having sex regularly, this could probably work. I'm trying to imagine what I'd do if my BF started withholding sex. I would try for it, and if he said no, I would let it go once...if he did it the 2nd time (meaning a diff day), I would ask wtf is going on. I suppose it's true, a girl who doesn't like sex might be relieved by her man pulling back. Still want to cuddle and kiss, but be okay with not having sex. Hm. I guess it'd be game playing, but...it might give ya the answer you need sooner than you'd normally get it.
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) Huh. This could definitely work. Only issue would be early on, when a gal may be more inclined to try to "prove" her sexuality. But, if you've been having sex regularly, this could probably work. I'm trying to imagine what I'd do if my BF started withholding sex. I would try for it, and if he said no, I would let it go once...if he did it the 2nd time (meaning a diff day), I would ask wtf is going on. I suppose it's true, a girl who doesn't like sex might be relieved by her man pulling back. Still want to cuddle and kiss, but be okay with not having sex. Hm. I guess it'd be game playing, but...it might give ya the answer you need sooner than you'd normally get it. This cure is worse then the problem. I think the only thing that stand a chance at working is being open and honest about the situation. Also being ready to walk away. Bottom line there often is no solution for this situation other then settle for it or walk away. Edited January 27, 2012 by Dust
lilyblue Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Personaly I could care less if a woman a) initiates and c) orgasms. Maybe this is a reason why you find it hard to find someone who wants to have a lot of sex with you (if you do, I'm not sure you actually said you have a problem finding someone). You sound like you may not bring a lot to the table in helping the other person enjoy it, why would she be inclined to want you to?
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Maybe this is a reason why you find it hard to find someone who wants to have a lot of sex with you (if you do, I'm not sure you actually said you have a problem finding someone). You sound like you may not bring a lot to the table in helping the other person enjoy it, why would she be inclined to want you to? No I never said I have a problem finding someone who wants to have a lot of sex. and what I'm talking about is sex over the long run not just for a few months or years. I'm talking about how you can't know when you start dating them. Time will tell and that it is a deal breaker. I think blaming yourself for a person who can't orgasm or iniate sex is pointles. Plus some girls get turned off by having to initiate sex. I'll eat girl out while shes on her period I don't give a fck. I'll enjoy every part her body to its fullest. Her blaming me for her inability to orgasm would be the same as me blaming her. If she doesn't like sex with me going into a years sexless relationship after the honeymoon period is not the answer. You really have backward logic if this is your thinking on this.
Titania22 Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I'll eat girl out while shes on her period I don't give a fck. Wow that's intense.
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Wow that's intense. Glad that got your attention!
Titania22 Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Glad that got your attention! That's what i call dedication!
phineas Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Yeah, not a big fan of the taste of rusty coins myself. My ex-wife & I used to sext & send dirty e-mail's while at work into our marriage & banged like bunnies. Any position, any room in the house & the back porch from behind while wearing a dress on a warm summer night. (she was the one wearing the dress) LOL! too bad she turned out to be crazy. Oh well. Yeah, i'd have to find another woman like that in order for it to make it to the LTR stage.
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Yeah, not a big fan of the taste of rusty coins myself. My ex-wife & I used to sext & send dirty e-mail's while at work into our marriage & banged like bunnies. Any position, any room in the house & the back porch from behind while wearing a dress on a warm summer night. (she was the one wearing the dress) LOL! too bad she turned out to be crazy. Oh well. Yeah, i'd have to find another woman like that in order for it to make it to the LTR stage. I love crazy women. For me the real downer is anoying women. Like women who have headaches when you want to have sex... anoying!
maybealone Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I have never understood the having a headache excuse. Give me ibuprofen and 15 minutes of rest and then I'm good to go! The girl who (a) initiates and txts you while you're at work because she wants some and (b) is up for anything and © screams while she orgasms when you first start dating can easily 2 years down the line be the girl never in the mood who when you do have sex only wants to lie on her back and wait for it to be over. So I agree with your first statement "no way to know." I know this happens. But I also know that somewhere in the one to two year mark, many men seem to think of foreplay as a thing of the past. Or they shorten it to just the one or two things they know will work, and even though it might work, it takes a lot of the fun out of it. They can also stop caring whether or not it was even good for their partner. In order for some women to view sex as fun, it has to actually be fun. And you probably would be surprised at the number of married women (married anywhere from five to 25 years) I know whose sex drives are a lot higher than their husbands. I really have doubts about the stereotype that men are the ones to not get enough sex in a marriage.
xxoo Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I have no doubt that some women don't like sex. But after the honeymoon phase hormone wear off (year 2-3), the quality of the relationship, and the sex therein, can affect how much sex a woman desires. Resentment is a libido killer for a lot of women. Men assume that she faked liking it, but I don't think that is always the case. Love hormones can be make a huge difference--both their presence and their absence. 20 years of strong desire for my H here. Yes, I love sex. But I doubt that I'd still be wanting sex with him as much as I do if our relationship had weakened along the way.
zengirl Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I have no doubt that some women don't like sex. But after the honeymoon phase hormone wear off (year 2-3), the quality of the relationship, and the sex therein, can affect how much sex a woman desires. Resentment is a libido killer for a lot of women. Men assume that she faked liking it, but I don't think that is always the case. Love hormones can be make a huge difference--both their presence and their absence. 20 years of strong desire for my H here. Yes, I love sex. But I doubt that I'd still be wanting sex with him as much as I do if our relationship had weakened along the way. I think that's a huge part of it. Most women don't fall on either end of the spectrum, in terms of liking ANY sex and hating ALL sex. And you probably don't want a woman (or man) who's too sex-crazed as a partner, because then you're getting to the point where she/he would hump anything. And that leads to different sorts of problems! The female sex drive (whether because of socialization or biology---really, it's a bit of both, since oxytocin and love drugs play a role) is just very closely linked to the emotional health of the relationship, whereas the male sex drive is not linked in quite the same way so perhaps it's harder to understand. In many cases, it's likely not that women are faking it, but rather that they've fallen out of lust with a man over time, due to various factors. Sometimes lifestyle changes, like working more or having kids or just the stress of aging, can impact it as well. So, there's really no foolproof way. I think it would be very clear fairly early if a woman really didn't enjoy sex. But what won't be clear is whether she'll still crave sex later in the relationship because the state of the relationship and the state of her whole life down the road is unknown.
CarrieT Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I'll eat girl out while shes on her period I don't give a fck. Red wings!
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 I think that's a huge part of it. Most women don't fall on either end of the spectrum, in terms of liking ANY sex and hating ALL sex. And you probably don't want a woman (or man) who's too sex-crazed as a partner, because then you're getting to the point where she/he would hump anything. And that leads to different sorts of problems! Those are some problems I'd like to have. The female sex drive (whether because of socialization or biology---really' date=' it's a bit of both, since oxytocin and love drugs play a role) is just very closely linked to the emotional health of the relationship, whereas the male sex drive is not linked in quite the same way so perhaps it's harder to understand. [/quote'] I have enough of an understanding of the female sex drive. What a lot of women don't seem to understand is how important sex is in an LTR. I wish it was easier to spot in the early dating phases. I mean even if a woman has been in a 5 year little sex LTR she won't realize it was her fault. If she can atleast realize it was low sex and own up to that my red flag will be there no matter what she blamed it on. The problem is the red flag is hardly a smoking gun. In many cases' date=' it's likely not that women are faking it, but rather that they've fallen out of lust with a man over time, due to various factors. Sometimes lifestyle changes, like working more or having kids or just the stress of aging, can impact it as well. So, there's really no foolproof way.[/quote'] I think they're in great denial of the situation. You can't really talk about it. "We don't have sex" "I know" "Why?" "I don't know" Thats about the best case scenario. Better then a yelling match of "You just want sex!" "I need to feel loved." I think it would be very clear fairly early if a woman really didn't enjoy sex. But what won't be clear is whether she'll still crave sex later in the relationship because the state of the relationship and the state of her whole life down the road is unknown. I guess you just have to live each day one at a time. The thing is even if I lost my sexual appetite my hope is that if I enjoyed the companionship of some one who still loved sex and I loved them I would do what was in my power. Many of these women do nothing. Not that they should have too. It's there right to be that way. As its my right to leave the relationship. I would leave regardless of mariage or children. I'm not saying I'm going to abandon the person. What I'm saying is I'd break up as kindly as possible for the reason of wanting to date other people.
Author Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Red wings! haha. I enjoy the perversity of it.
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