I think i have met the man of my dreams and I don't even know how he feels....

[Foreveryours10]

Honestly, I know this sounds so pathetic but I really feel as though I have met the man I have been waiting for all my life. I thought I meant it when I said I love you to my ex-boyfriends but it's clear to me that I didn't know what love was. He is the nicest, most genuine and respectable man I have ever met. So here is the layout. We go to college together and I met him through a business fraternity we both joined. Every time there is a big group of people he doesn't really talk much and will be kind of quite. So little by little I have been trying to weasel my way in.Usually if we are both on facebook he will message me and talk. Once we came back from christmas break at first I was going to make the choice to just leave it be and not talk to him anymore since I am always going to want to be more than just friends and I am just not sure how he feels. We got together as a group for another event and he tried to talk to me but I just ignored him and he messaged me on facebook but I ignored that as well. Till finally I gave in and I messaged him asking how he was and so on so forth and I told him I was tired because I can't sleep lately and asked him if he would drive me around for a bit. He said yes then came and picked me up at about 9:40 PM. We talked about everything and he even told me some really personal things about him that he said he never told except for his ex-girlfriend and this other girl. We kept talking more so I asked him if he wanted to come into my apartment and he stayed till 3:30 in the morning, when he finally decided he had to go because he had to get up for class at 6:30. And then he texted me in the morning joking about something we talked about last night. It felt so good to be alone and talk, and he clearly felt comfortable enough with me to tell me his personal stories and he did the majority of talking and just kept going. Am I over-thinking everything or is there a possibility he told me because he could be sort of interested in me?

[Oxy Moronovich]

Once we came back from christmas break at first I was going to make the choice to just leave it be and not talk to him anymore since I am always going to want to be more than just friends and I am just not sure how he feels. We got together as a group for another event and he tried to talk to me but I just ignored him and he messaged me on facebook but I ignored that as well.

 

You say you're not sure how he feels. Yet when he starts showing interest in you, you ignore him despite the fact that he didn't do anything wrong and you actually like him?

 

And women wonder why men can't read female signals and understand female behavior?

 

Sure, this guy is the man of your dreams. Have you considered you may not be the woman of his dreams?

[kiss_andmakeup]

If he were interested in a relationship, he'd ask you out on a date, instead of driving around with you and hanging out at your apartment until 4am.

[Ninjainpajamas]

I wouldn't jump on cloud9 just yet. I mean you haven't even had any real intimacy, just some chemistry and good communication. Just because you can open up to someone and they can open up to you does that make them the person of your dreams, that's just a piece of the pie.

 

It sounds like you're really into him, so I'd be really careful. He sounds on the other hand stand-offish and like he's not too into it, because he wouldn't have been able to contain himself at this point if he were.

 

I would try and get your head together, and not be so quick to jump on that ride of love....especially If he's not acting or showing that he feels the same way for you...which is how most women end up very hurt, they go way beyond the border.

 

In love it needs to be reciprocated in order to be validated IMO, many women would disagree because they're usually the one head over heels for the man...but a man only reciprocates it when he really means it, and that should be very clear. Otherwise you just have another one-sided romance, which for me at least..isn't my thing.

[xpaperxcutx]

Firstof all you're giving the poor guy mxed signalxs and he might interpret that as a sign that you have issues. Second, a guy willing to open up does not mean he wants to date you. It could be a lot of thing such as you being a gpod friend or good listener.

Do not jump to conclusions about branding someone as your soulmate until they can reciprocate in kind.

[veggirl]

Could go either way.

 

He came and took you for a drive after you ignored him 2x in a row, so that could indicate interest. However, it was almost 10pm and you were inviting him basically over, could be that he thought he was getting laid.

 

You kinda started the games with the ignoring and then the "oh nm, lets go for a drive!" thing, I think the ball is in YOUR court and its kinda up to you to ask him to dinner or something. You need to invite him to something that is clearly date-y, not something that you would do with any ole friend just cause it's late and you're bored.

[Chii]

You say you're not sure how he feels. Yet when he starts showing interest in you, you ignore him despite the fact that he didn't do anything wrong and you actually like him?

 

And women wonder why men can't read female signals and understand female behavior?

 

Seriously... why does this happen? Can any woman elaborate more on this?

[phillyfan]

Dudes how freakin complicatd r u gona make this? Girl likes guy, guy likes girl, enuf 2 hang out anyways. Guy n girl carry on hangin out, 2 c if thy both want more. Eitha thy do want more or thy dont., but thy gota hang out sum to know.

 

THATS IT. No more complicatd. Girl just keep hangin wit him n see wat happens.

[ditzchic]

Clearly this guy seems interested. If you really feel this strongly about him, flip it. Just ask him out already. Big risk, big reward.

 

Just a word of caution on thinking he is the man of your dreams though. You are crushing right now. Keep your wits about you. You really don't even know him. Every time I thought I found the man of my dreams and went ga-ga over him right quick he turned out to be the man of my nightmares. Just go slow. Get to know him before you fall head overheels. If he really is the man for you, you have all the time in the world to fall crazy in love with him. No point in rushing it.

[turt]

I'd assume he's somewhat interested in you since he is still talking to you after you ignored him.

 

You're going to have to let him know how you feel now. He might be less likely to make a move since the ignoring thing might have created some doubt in your interest.

[RecordProducer]

This guy sounds shy, but he does what you say. That's good news. It does sound like he likes you, so I completely disagree with the previous posters, however I may be totally wrong. I think you should make a subtle move. Flirt a bit, ask him a few times if he wants to hang out, warm him up toward yourself but don't be just friendly - be a bit flirty and sexy. Dress nicely around him. Do touch him, like tickle, give him a hug, kiss him on the cheek, wipe his lip from the ice cream, grab a french fry from his plate (that's a sign of intimacy and closeness) just to add to the excitement and sensuality. Just don't express interest overtly and/or verbally. Let him do the first real step, but lead the horse to the water.

Sounds doable?