Author LittleTiger Posted February 16, 2012 Author Posted February 16, 2012 Imagine then that you cannot even get so much as a date, let alone a relationship...welcome to my world. It will be 3 years in a couple of weeks that my ex left and I am alone. All I am ever told is that I need to be happy with myself and he will appear as if by magic....lol erm, yeah right! Sorry, thread jacking, its just I understand this, I understand this feeling of belonging of feelihg home and I miss it so very very much and knowing that I cannot even get a simple date...well the thought of never feeling this again... Thanks for joining in on my thread Willow. It's good to know that other people understand how it feels. I can't tell you when you will find that feeling again, but there is really no reason why you shouldn't. It may take some time but, if you put yourself out there and stay open to the possibility, the chances of it happening are increased. If I remember rightly, you are still young (mid to late 30s?). You still have lots and lots of time. Apart from a lucky few who get married young and stay happy/contented in that relationship forever, many people, if not most, are alone for significant parts of their lives. Where you met someone very young and lost them later, I was alone for the first 12 years of my adult life and found someone later. Being alone is tough, whenever it happens, tougher still when even parents don't provide that 'home' feeling, but most of us get through it somehow. You don't have to pretend to feel happy being alone. You do need to learn something from this period of your life. Learn about yourself, relish your independence, and take time to find out what it is you really need to be happy. That way, when you do find 'home' again you'll be better equipped to enjoy it, appreciate it and hopefully hang on to it.
Els Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Hey LT, Just checking in and hoping that you're feeling better. <3
Author LittleTiger Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Hey LT, Just checking in and hoping that you're feeling better. <3 Hi Elswyth - thanks for your concern and sorry for the delay in responding. I am currently in New Zealand with my kiwi man and definitely feeling much, much better! I am very happy to report that the saying 'home is where the heart is' is very true for me and I suspect I will be emigrating in the not too distant future. :) 5
Lexygirl Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 LittleTiger, I read your whole first post and a few of the responses. I don't have time at the moment to read through your whole thread but I wanted to chime in regarding your question about feeling 'homesick' in a time of stress.... I sooooo understand what you mean. A few years back I had a very stressful event happen (I don't want to get into details).. During that time, I found ways to cope but I noticed that my mind naturally kept feeling 'homesick' and I wanted to go back to my old childhood house and do things that back then helped me feel grounded. I went back to my childhood home and sat beside my old woods where I used to go to write poetry and basically meditate to take the pain of my childhood abuse away. Also, during that stressful time, I wrote alot of poetry again which helped. My therapist told me that I am doing all the right things because it's that inner child that needs to be loved and that I need to be the one to love that inner child like I do my own child. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that feeling of being 'homesick' is basically a feeling of needing to be grounded. My advice is to find something that helps you stay grounded in your life.... Routine, familiar things, comfort things Love yourself Hope this made sense and helps... I'm goin through another crappy period lol * hugs * God bless
freetolove Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 HUGS, geez =( =( =( this sounds horrible. Stand up and be a superwoman! Maybe you should break up with your current bf and find one closer. Obviously not that simple but by now, we're no longer children/young. If you need a companion that's closer to home, go after that instead. I don't do LDR because I like being close to my significant other.
HeavenOrHell Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 That's fantastic LT, you so deserve to be happy! Enjoy the rest of your visit!
Author LittleTiger Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 That's fantastic LT, you so deserve to be happy! Enjoy the rest of your visit! Thanks HOH. I will be posting in the LDR section with an update very soon. Kiwi man and I are both very happy - and planning our future together in New Zealand. :love: It's going to be complicated and difficult, given the situation we are in, but it is going to happen - somehow! 2
HeavenOrHell Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 So glad you persevered! I hope perseverance will help in my case too, too early to say, all I know is some people are too special to give up on. Talk when you get back Thanks HOH. I will be posting in the LDR section with an update very soon. Kiwi man and I are both very happy - and planning our future together in New Zealand. :love: It's going to be complicated and difficult, given the situation we are in, but it is going to happen - somehow!
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